A part of me wants to respond to this with a hint of disgust. I'll be modest. In the context of a hetero relationship if the woman is so concerned about how the man proposes then maybe just maybe she should be the one to propose. If she has to write a diatribe about how not to propose then maybe she already knows SHE picked the wrong partner. If you have to spell it out seems like you have chosen a mate for other reasons. Also, large weddings = higher rates of divorce.