Ah, that's the beauty of language and perception. Had I said "pickiest lady", it wouldn't rub anything wrong. But as soon as a define myself as a slut by my own standards, being picky AND a slut becomes a kind of oxymoron to anyone still perceiving slut as a derogatory term.
I've explained this a bunch of times, but to me being a techslut means that I am a sucker for tech stuff and innovation turns me on. In sexual terms, I define sluttiness as healthy promiscuity without the fear of criticism. Yeah, I fuck. Yeah, I love it. I am a slut. A pink, picky, geeky, tricky slut. :)
Unfortunately we do not own the words meaning just by sheer will. SLUT is mostly derogatory unless used playful "you SLUT!" between friends.
" a picky lady" has different implications :)
I salut your slut definition. I guess that makes me one too :D
See? Now you're getting it. This is how we start owning the words. Also, I like to say that the difference between a whore and a slut is that whores do what they do for money (or other value) and because they kinda have to. Sluts do what they do because they enjoy it and aren't ashamed to. Whatever it might be. Technology, writing, music, sex... whore vs slut.