Not really my point... you're blaming "hypogamy" or whatever, but how do you think women know you don't have steady employment? I'm wondering if you might lack confidence because you're telling yourself women only want guys with steady jobs. Meanwhile there are strippers out there supporting their boyfriends, and homeless guys picking up women every night so they have a place to sleep.
I don't really think hypogamy is as big a deal as you think it is. Plenty of women are out there looking to date and have fun without necessarily looking for a husband.