Oh hey, what month were you born? I'm October '71.
This story is affirmation that we're only human - we can't really blame our parents for being faulty, only forgive and find a way to overcome any trauma they've unintentionally passed on to us. You gotta marvel at what some people carry yet are never given the resources to overcome, especially when therapy wasn't common and men had to swallow their emotions and carry on and provide.
How lovely they were together all of that time - you weather the storm or you don't, I suppose, but if you do, that love just deepens. They were lucky in that way.
June for me! I'm just slightly older. What a great time to be born! Do you feel the same way? We grew up in an analog world and were ushered into a digital one. I feel like I can relate to both. I think only our generation (in the Western world anyway) can say that.
You're right! It's a cop out and stumbling block to blame anyone, I really believe that. I think this is why some people are paralyzed in their evolution. The only way forward is to heal ourselves. What amazed me about my dad is he retained a very kind heart and a great sense of humor despite unspeakable suffering. He told me once about a foster family that would make him keep the coal furnace lit at night and would beat him if the fire went out. So he had to stay up most of the night and still make it to school. That same family would feed him cold cereal while they fed their own children things like ham and eggs for breakfast. I can't even imagine.
Yes, they weathered the storm. That's so rare these days.