Well I was stalked once when I was a fresher in college. A friend of mines younger sister happened to have a crush on me, and I like her back but the problem was she was waaaaay too possessive. She'd call me day and night, stay in my room till night, and she never seemed to care about going to class at all. At the end of the day I had to tell her to give me some space...big mistake. She took it the wrong way and started following me around.
Every now and then I'd notice that someone was following me or is just happen to bump into her in different places, multiple times a day.
To solve the issue I had to report her to her elder brother who brought the hammer down on her pretty hard. After that day she never disturbed me again.
The second time I was stalked was by a grown man who happened to be gay. I suspected it, but at the time I didn't really care, especially because in my home country homosexuality is outlawed (FYI I don't believe it should be like that, everyone has a right to live their life according to their own doctrines,, no one should be forced to follow another person's moral standards). The guy in question managed to get my phone number after I'd originally given him a wrong one and that was were my nightmare started. He'd blow up my phone day and night, comment on all my pictures on Instagram Facebook and Twitter and just happen to always be near my house. Eventually I found out that he was gay and was obviously trying to get me to sleep with him after which I told him I wasn't gay and nor was I interested.
He still proceeded to keep calling me and killing my battery and coming around my house. He only stopped when I verbally abused him in public.
Sad thing is that a couple of months ago, I found out that he was trying to do the same thing to my younger brother.
No, having a stalker is an uncomfortable or frightening situation, depending on the severity. Stalking often increases to other forms of criminal violence, so if you seem to be followed, you must take steps to keep your distance from stalkers and protect yourself and your family.
Maybe this is some tips handle from stalkers:
1. Avoid contact with stalkers.
Stalkers often feel that they are in a relationship with the victim, and that all the victim's contacts with them are considered as endorsement of "relationships", which actually do not exist. If you are being followed and want to avoid it, don't call, write messages, or talk to stalkers personally.
2. Avoid unintentional signs or messages.
Sometimes victims of stalking shout or talk to their stalkers, but even the obvious rudeness of you can be misinterpreted by stalkers (who are usually mentally disturbed) as communication of affection or interest.
If you are followed in cyberspace, do not respond to any message in any form, regardless of how angry you are. Just print the message for proof and leave the computer.
3. Hide your personal information. If the stalker does not have your personal information such as telephone number, home address, or email address, don't let him find it.
* Do not tell your phone number aloud to anyone in a public place. If you have to give a telephone number, try using an office telephone, or write the number and then tear it off.
* Avoid writing home addresses. In the case of extreme stalking, you may need to get a PO Box as a correspondence address to minimize the possibility of having to give someone else's home address.
* Do not share your home or work address information on the internet or social media. This will give virtual stalkers the opportunity to find you personally.
4. Get protective orders.
In the case of repeated stalking or stalking with a history of violence, you can get protective orders that legally require the stalker to stay away from you. But realize, this action has the potential to make the stalker angry and push him into acts of violence.
5. Move to an undisclosed location.
In the case of extreme extreme stalking that has the potential to become a crime, you can decide to move to a new place. If this is your decision, consider consulting with organizations such as protecting women victims of violence to ask for advice on how to make yourself disappear completely.
* Don't ask for your letters to be sent directly to a new home.
* Be careful when registering as a voter in a new place. You can request anonymous registration.
* If you buy a house, your name will be in the public record as the land owner. Sometimes these records are tied to data that can be accessed, so you might just need to rent a house to remain anonymous.
I think getting stalked is one of the scariest things that can happen in life. It is also physiologically disturbing to know that someone would keep watching all our movements and everything we do. Usually a majority of those who are stalked are females. It's not easy to handle stalkers as they are really hooked onto a person. In worst case scenarios, they could turn violent as they only want that person to belong to them.
Well I was stalked once when I was a fresher in college. A friend of mines younger sister happened to have a crush on me, and I like her back but the problem was she was waaaaay too possessive. She'd call me day and night, stay in my room till night, and she never seemed to care about going to class at all. At the end of the day I had to tell her to give me some space...big mistake. She took it the wrong way and started following me around.
Every now and then I'd notice that someone was following me or is just happen to bump into her in different places, multiple times a day.
To solve the issue I had to report her to her elder brother who brought the hammer down on her pretty hard. After that day she never disturbed me again.
The second time I was stalked was by a grown man who happened to be gay. I suspected it, but at the time I didn't really care, especially because in my home country homosexuality is outlawed (FYI I don't believe it should be like that, everyone has a right to live their life according to their own doctrines,, no one should be forced to follow another person's moral standards). The guy in question managed to get my phone number after I'd originally given him a wrong one and that was were my nightmare started. He'd blow up my phone day and night, comment on all my pictures on Instagram Facebook and Twitter and just happen to always be near my house. Eventually I found out that he was gay and was obviously trying to get me to sleep with him after which I told him I wasn't gay and nor was I interested.
He still proceeded to keep calling me and killing my battery and coming around my house. He only stopped when I verbally abused him in public.
Sad thing is that a couple of months ago, I found out that he was trying to do the same thing to my younger brother.
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No, having a stalker is an uncomfortable or frightening situation, depending on the severity. Stalking often increases to other forms of criminal violence, so if you seem to be followed, you must take steps to keep your distance from stalkers and protect yourself and your family.
Maybe this is some tips handle from stalkers:
1. Avoid contact with stalkers.
Stalkers often feel that they are in a relationship with the victim, and that all the victim's contacts with them are considered as endorsement of "relationships", which actually do not exist. If you are being followed and want to avoid it, don't call, write messages, or talk to stalkers personally.
2. Avoid unintentional signs or messages.
Sometimes victims of stalking shout or talk to their stalkers, but even the obvious rudeness of you can be misinterpreted by stalkers (who are usually mentally disturbed) as communication of affection or interest.
If you are followed in cyberspace, do not respond to any message in any form, regardless of how angry you are. Just print the message for proof and leave the computer.
3. Hide your personal information. If the stalker does not have your personal information such as telephone number, home address, or email address, don't let him find it.
* Do not tell your phone number aloud to anyone in a public place. If you have to give a telephone number, try using an office telephone, or write the number and then tear it off.
* Avoid writing home addresses. In the case of extreme stalking, you may need to get a PO Box as a correspondence address to minimize the possibility of having to give someone else's home address.
* Do not share your home or work address information on the internet or social media. This will give virtual stalkers the opportunity to find you personally.
4. Get protective orders.
In the case of repeated stalking or stalking with a history of violence, you can get protective orders that legally require the stalker to stay away from you. But realize, this action has the potential to make the stalker angry and push him into acts of violence.
5. Move to an undisclosed location.
In the case of extreme extreme stalking that has the potential to become a crime, you can decide to move to a new place. If this is your decision, consider consulting with organizations such as protecting women victims of violence to ask for advice on how to make yourself disappear completely.
* Don't ask for your letters to be sent directly to a new home.
* Be careful when registering as a voter in a new place. You can request anonymous registration.
* If you buy a house, your name will be in the public record as the land owner. Sometimes these records are tied to data that can be accessed, so you might just need to rent a house to remain anonymous.
I think getting stalked is one of the scariest things that can happen in life. It is also physiologically disturbing to know that someone would keep watching all our movements and everything we do. Usually a majority of those who are stalked are females. It's not easy to handle stalkers as they are really hooked onto a person. In worst case scenarios, they could turn violent as they only want that person to belong to them.