There's a saying in in the Mandarin Culture that goes "Only age and winter separates pine and cypress, only hardship reveals a true friend"
"岁寒知松柏，患难见真情"
It's easy to know a real friend from the fake over time. Good times? they're all around. Bad times? none to be found.
But even without the passage time you can kinda tell the character of a person based on their motive to be around you.
"friends" are hard to find. What I have in bulk are acquaintance, people that i interact with and get along but aren't the ones that i'll think of when in need of help. Sometimes it's very easy to sniff out person's intention when interacting with you. Just as you have ulterior motive to cosy up to someone.
One sure fire litmus test though is to go mountain hiking with them. Not the small hills too, it has to be trails that take at least a whole day to complete. You can tell alot by what a person (even yourself) do when mountain hiking.
Lots of unorthodox businessowners actually does this before settling on a business partnership or hiring a new crucial employee too! It works 100x better than any superficial interview.
It is very difficult to know who is in this strange world is real or fake. Because everyone is related to you by some means. For money or any other reasons can be added. Even our friends or relatives also talk to us when they have some issue or work with us.
However, the difference between true and artificial people has been ascertained. If you know about this, you can avoid many major losses of life.
What is the difference?
It is true that you will still get the meany people, but at least you will be able to identify the right person. So let me tell you about the 5 big points that show the difference between a true and artificial person
Respect :-
If the person is true then he/she will treat everyone with respect. Will not try to defame anyone according to their choice. But on the contrary, those people who are masterminded, do not take time to embarrass people that they do not like.
Hunger for Appreciation :-
A true and cleansed person does not ever need praise, because they receive praise from their helpful behavior. On the other hand, the gimmicky people are always hungry for praise, they will deliberately go against people, pretend they have talent and will try to get overwhelmed praise.
Expecting something in return :-
A true person will help people and not look for something in return. However a fake person will always look out for something in return for their favor.
Speaking Good about themselves :-
A person good or bad qualities are shown by his nature in time. However fake people will always speak good about themselves.
Tell you the truth on your face :-
A true friend will always tell you about your bad behavior or bad nature on your face, even though this might result in you not speaking to him or her. True friends do this thinking about your future.
when you are with your real friends, you talk about relevant things, your goals, your ambitions, what you set to achieve. When you are with your real friends, you feel as if something have been added to you, you feel happy. Fake friends on the other hand talk about irrelevancies, making them important. They tell you not to worry too much that you will carry out your goals later, they never add any meaningful thing to your life.
There's a saying in in the Mandarin Culture that goes "Only age and winter separates pine and cypress, only hardship reveals a true friend"
"岁寒知松柏，患难见真情"
It's easy to know a real friend from the fake over time. Good times? they're all around. Bad times? none to be found.
But even without the passage time you can kinda tell the character of a person based on their motive to be around you.
"friends" are hard to find. What I have in bulk are acquaintance, people that i interact with and get along but aren't the ones that i'll think of when in need of help. Sometimes it's very easy to sniff out person's intention when interacting with you. Just as you have ulterior motive to cosy up to someone.
One sure fire litmus test though is to go mountain hiking with them. Not the small hills too, it has to be trails that take at least a whole day to complete. You can tell alot by what a person (even yourself) do when mountain hiking.
Lots of unorthodox businessowners actually does this before settling on a business partnership or hiring a new crucial employee too! It works 100x better than any superficial interview.
It is very difficult to know who is in this strange world is real or fake. Because everyone is related to you by some means. For money or any other reasons can be added. Even our friends or relatives also talk to us when they have some issue or work with us.
However, the difference between true and artificial people has been ascertained. If you know about this, you can avoid many major losses of life.
What is the difference?
It is true that you will still get the meany people, but at least you will be able to identify the right person. So let me tell you about the 5 big points that show the difference between a true and artificial person
Respect :-
If the person is true then he/she will treat everyone with respect. Will not try to defame anyone according to their choice. But on the contrary, those people who are masterminded, do not take time to embarrass people that they do not like.
Hunger for Appreciation :-
A true and cleansed person does not ever need praise, because they receive praise from their helpful behavior. On the other hand, the gimmicky people are always hungry for praise, they will deliberately go against people, pretend they have talent and will try to get overwhelmed praise.
Expecting something in return :-
A true person will help people and not look for something in return. However a fake person will always look out for something in return for their favor.
Speaking Good about themselves :-
A person good or bad qualities are shown by his nature in time. However fake people will always speak good about themselves.
Tell you the truth on your face :-
A true friend will always tell you about your bad behavior or bad nature on your face, even though this might result in you not speaking to him or her. True friends do this thinking about your future.
when you are with your real friends, you talk about relevant things, your goals, your ambitions, what you set to achieve. When you are with your real friends, you feel as if something have been added to you, you feel happy. Fake friends on the other hand talk about irrelevancies, making them important. They tell you not to worry too much that you will carry out your goals later, they never add any meaningful thing to your life.
Well, real friends act out of love and without agenda, fake friends will always want something in return.
Time and circumstances will reveal who is a true friend and who is fake. You just have to give it time.