Obsessive thoughts must be conquered by just letting them be. When you think certain thoughts which of course hurt you, stress you out and paralyze you know that that is not you. If you can believe that, as hard as it is, know that it doesn't matter. It is almost like a fly that keeps coming back. Insignificant, but highly distracting. You have to make yourself believe that the thoughts are just passing through and don't mean anything. People go through days, months and multiple years not knowing why they keep obsessing, this elevates focus on these thoughts and can really put people in a state of depression.
I have found that by developing an attitude "that these thoughts are part of me but are not me" they become just a minor discomfort rather than a pure obsession.
There are also natural supplements out there that can help with the anxiety of these thoughts and allow your mind to stay calm. Ashwaghanda and Reishi mushroom are two that have been proven to help with this.
Obsessive thoughts may not be possible to stop all together, but that is why must be accepted as nothing but a thought, no deeper meaning to it. It is not the thoughts that are crippling but the anxiety, depression and stress that stems from them.
I can go into a lot more detail but my time is a bit short so I will keep it short.
- You are not your thoughts
- Over time these thoughts will become obsolete
- Do not try to rationalize or justify your obsessive thoughts
- Try not to hold any type of emotion, happy , sad or angry towards the thoughts
- Think of them as just passing through