Very few from those who swipe on dating apps are actually thinking about a serious relationship, marriage or a family. Mostly they use the apps to soothe their ego and feel that they are still desirable with a cost: hurting others. One can avoid to get hurt by staying away from this kind of apps. And if by any chance someone would really be serious and find what they want, they would cancel any online presence in the dating arena. Most of them don't. They keep dating profiles active while holding hands. Odd, but this is what people perceive as love now. I agree with making your life be complete outside of the virtual space. Serious people who know what love is about would not risk losing it when meeting it. I wish your friend a lot of healing, she will need it. Online dating feels like a walk in the cemetary lane where lost souls search for love in the closet of past relationship trauma. I would never try such apps again they only bring shallow people in someone's life. I agree there might be chances for gems to be there, but the exceptions are few. Most of the relationships end in turmoil, just like the one of your friend. Best wishes and hopefully she will find a man worthy of her love!
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Sadly, that is a common theme build around ego like you said, online dating would be like watching a campfire via a YouTube video and then saying, "Oh, I went camping." In other words, you can meet people on the Internet but people should consider meeting each other in real life after that and date if they're serious, if they're interested in taking a risk at love. Online dating can be like navigating through a forest while blind because the world wide web has been lacking all of the five or six senses of sight, hearing, smelling, taste, touch, pain, feelings, and spiritual connection. Yeah, online dating can be like a cemetery with the possibility of becoming a zombie yourself. The Internet can sometimes be like a dream. I like to dream but I tend to prefer real life over sleeping and dreaming at night.
Yes Joey, it's precisely like that. I think that the faster you get to meet them in real life, the better. People behave differently online vs real life. It's never good to sit on long online interactions because you end up projecting and creating a halo around the person which might be far from the truth. I strongly believe that those who search for a serious commitment would not lose time in the online, they would rather observe the person in their real life.
Even though the quest for love has turned into a shallow chase for likes for some people I still believe in it as a concept.
It can be easier to develop a deceptive persona online than it has been in some ways offline which performers can struggle with a double life even in real life. But the Internet adds to the difficulty.
Internet Drug
The Internet can be for most people most of the time like a drug. Online dating would be like ordering a metal detector online. But imagine it stays in the shopping cart. Imagine it is never bought. Imagine that it is never delivered.
Never Using the Metal Detector
Imagine never ever using the metal detector in order to find metal, gold, silver, etc.
Wall-E Impostor
The Internet is kind of like the fat people in WALL-E or the people inside the Matrix. They may like it but they may be missing out on what life has to offer. People can focus too much on the Internet which can be a substitution for the real thing.
Meaning to Life
Absolutely, the quest for love is a fabric to the very meaning and essence to life itself.
I agree that Internet can become a drug if abused. Real people are different than online people, the reality always confirmed me this
YouTubers especially see this, the crazy comments.
Oh I can imagine how it must feel scrolling through so many...
Exactly, Mary.
Thank you @creativemary for sharing your thoughts. Yes lost souls do fall in for such fakeness, only if you know that you can turn your online meeting into a real one should one progress, else sitting across miles and not knowing what next is a total waste of energy and emotions. Specially the cross culture connections are luring and attractive, but they really do not mean much. These apps have become so common among people, even the married people are falling for it and ruining their family relations. People kind of want some type of escape and these are the tools they turn on to. Thank you for your good wishes.
Virtual only goes so far. A lovestory takes time, patience, experience. Reality and face to face interaction is always better, have a lovely day!