I do agree its better to find what you love and pursue it instead of settling for what everybody else is doing and I think deep down it's what everybody wishes for, but that it is that group mentality you talked about that tends to hold them back. And ultimately leads to less and less people starting innovative initiatives :(
Once again I wish your daughter a quick recovery and blessings to your family. They're really lucky to have a hustla like you willing to do and go through anything for them. Stay strong :)