A romantic relationship starts off with intention to continue but, that doesn't always happen. Often, they end with some taking days and some years to draw to a close. Depending on circumstances, one or both can feel rejected and hurt, leaving bitterness and animosity.
There are a host of ways to deal with emotions yet few lead anywhere healthy unless it ends with letting the go and moving on. Many struggle with this because when one feels they have been treated badly, it is very hard to forget but, letting go isn't about forgetting, it is forgiving. Corny, but true.
I meet and hear about people, listen to them speak about ex-partners with so much anger or disappointment and wishing them all kinds of horrible as if it is them who is to blame for the bad feelings. No matter what the past held or how someone behaved, our feelings are ours, always.
People go lifetimes holding onto the hurts of the past with such intensity, that no matter what comes into their present, they do not see it or, actively destroy it in an attempt to not be hurt again. A self-protection and a protection of what would be better off releasing.
In this area many argue and say, "But you don't know what I went through" ... Do they really know either or, are their emotions clouding their judgements and their thoughts holding old wounds open, rather than helping them heal?
Feelings are personal, even though the catalyst may be shared. Dealing and healing is the responsibility of the individual.
Taraz
[ a Steem original ]
(posted from phone)
When folks have had a child together it's a hundred times worse, cos the bitterness and hatred has another victim to destroy, someone innocent to manipulate in the ongoing vendetta of one-upmanship, another innocent little person who knows mom and dad hate each other, and carry scars for life, with noone to teach them how to live or love.
So you're right. Forgiveness is way better than that. For everyone. But most of all, for the children.
People's anger is so high and their emotional control so low that there is little chance to consider themeselves, let alone the children that may be surrounding them. It is a cycle of abuse much like having alcoholic parents.
I feel you. I don't know why people do it exactly - I used to see it as something like an excuse to justify personal unfulfillment. Eventually everyone stops hurting, those who still cling to the hurt may want to justify their own experiences as unique and uncommon to others to make them feel special. Nothing particularly wrong with that but it does affect the quality of ''present livin'
It becomes wrong I guess when they impress their pain onto others to make themselves feel better or, seek to destroy the happiness of others to bring them down to their level.
I have struggles with anger because of past relationships. and while I may have felt justified at the time because they did this or said that, the anger only served to prolong the hurt and pain.
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