How do you feel when you make a mistake?
It is a trick question really considering that at the point you make a mistake it feels exactly like doing the right thing. It is only when you realise you have made a mistake that the feelings arise.
Sometimes the feeling is quite immediate like a slip with a knife while cutting vegetables but sometimes it is very delayed such as choosing the wrong career. It is of course possible to make a mistake and never know.
These may be the worst of them as we go about our life doing all kinds of harm or having our potential severely limited yet, never know. Ignorance is bliss?
What if we are in that stage now? A place where if we just recognised the folly of our ways we and all others could have a fundamentally better life experience, a life of plenty. Many people think that it is possible yet, how many are willing to admit that their own actions are part of the problem, that it is they who are mistaken?
This is the issue when it comes to solving the world's problems, they aren't the world's at all, they are ours. It is easy to find blame and scapegoats but it is very difficult to take a step back and check if it is actually us. The reason is of course that we feel right but, perhaps we just haven't discovered how wrong we are.
Pretty much every wise person on earth has said something along the lines of be the change and take responsibility but we do not take it to heart enough to actually be that change. I think what holds us back is fear of failure, fear that we might try and still not make a difference.
No wonder change takes time.
Taraz
[ a Steem original ]
Written on the phone.
Last night, I knew I'd made a mistake when the car behind me was flashing me, and I realized I hadn't turned my lights on. I immediately turned them on. This hasn't happened before in my whole life.
There was a cop car flashing his lights behind the car that flashed me, and we both pulled over, and I was sure the cop was coming for me, but he just zoomed past us both, obviously after a bigger criminal than me.
So one way we can find out we have made a mistake is when a kind soul TELLS us. They are doing us a favor, and we must listen, and be grateful! Last night, I was.
Fear of failure is a MUCH bigger issue. It is what has always held me back from my most ambitious ideas, and I am here on Steem to create a blog for some creative expression that I have been putting off for years out of fear. I am very close now to being ready to fight that fear. And then take the consequences with a smile, even if it is the failure I feared lol.
Cheers. :)
lol
It is interesting when it comes to some things we fear because, what is really the worst that can happen? Most of the time it is a little egg on the face and a dent in the ego.
Mistakes that I can learn from are great. Today I learned that I completely misunderstood how beneficiary rewards are displayed on past payouts on Steemit/Busy. Now I know that they aren't, they just vanish from the interface record entirely.
On the other hand, mistakes that I can't learn from because they come from careless error rather than misunderstanding are really annoying. Like putting three zeros instead of four in my Binance deposit memo. That just sucks.
I have never really looked at beneficiaries.
the pain.
You have to be aware of your mistake and either know how to fix it or change what is wrong. We learn from our mistakes and that helps us make the correct decisions. Change is good ,habits are bad. If you don't change your habits you will carry on making the wrong choices.
Habits are insidious because they are designed not to be seen by those they control.
Lol. Learnt a new word. Something so subtle and gradual but with very harmful effects (insidious). Thanks Taraz, you provide an education at the same time as enjoyment.
I feel bad when I realized I have made a mistake. However, I try to avoid the mistake from occurring in the future.
learning from mistakes is supposedly a good thing to do.
Making changes is so difficult, many times we are desperate because something does not fit in our life, but getting out of comfort is not easy. Many people stay in jobs, in relationships, not risk.
comfort is the real killer of humanity.
It took me a long time to realize I'm part of the problem. I'm grateful that I came to that conclusion, because it also means that I'm part of the solution! It made me stop contributing to animal slaughter and abuse. I never really thought about the impact of me eating meat. It was just an itch in the back of my head, which I was accustomed to ignore. It wasn't an easy struggle, for my mind to accept the huge mistake I made all my life. I can imagine that for lots of people it's hard to admit that you have been fooled and made a mistake. I was not the change I wished to see. I learned that the only change I can expect, is changes I make within myself. A change of behavior. A change in thinking.
The fear of failure is bad, but the fear of success is much more severe and, in my case, much more sneaky to discover.
Everyone wants to solve a world problem and be the hero. All they do is make it worse because they never get to the source or root. Every so called world problem is made up of smaller issues. They are the ones that need to be solved in order to take care of the big issues.
We are being condition to "comprehensive" solutions. The only way to solve a problem is comprehensive reform or doing nothing.
I was educated that if you take care of the small things you never have to worry about the large things because they will take care of themselfs
I think people are like every other creature. We seek pleasure and avoid pain. Evolution uses this method to get us to stay alive long enough to reproduce. Simple. The only problem now is that we are capable of seeking almost unlimited pleasure at the expense of the future. Willpower and long-term planning can wait because I can resist anything but temptation.
On the other hand, as you suggest, we have a hard time changing our minds because that would require the realization that we were wrong. Oh, the humiliation, the guilt, the embarrassment! I can’t have that. I’ll just keep believing I’m right, thank you very much.