when i share my honest feelings and people project me as attacking them,
since I like to argue.. :P
they may be your honest feelings but that doesn't make them correct, only correct to you at the time. It is the other side of the blade, if that makes sense. People give their emotional perspectives and it feels 'so right' but perhaps under consideration, more flaws would be seen. However, when presented emotionally it is likely to evoke strong reactions back so the discussion can stall or become aggressive.