We are always on the path of our life, there is no way off it but how do we know that the directions we choose and the influences that push are driving us in the best direction, the most suitable for us? We do not, that is why life is exciting, the uncertainty inherent in the process.
Through my work I have the chance to talk candidly with many people in different stages of life, different age ranges, various fields of education and very diverse backgrounds. Two people can appear to be in similar life situations now may have taken very different paths to reach this point. Again, this is part of the enjoyment as many trails, multiple options, uncontrollable experiences split the paths and push us down unexpected roads.
Through these people I am fortunate to get views of life I would not see otherwise and have the opportunity to discuss things at length and in detail. What I have observed over the years is that there is a large difference in life perspectives even if experiences themselves are very similar. And, one's level of contentment is not based on their current position but rather the struggle it took to get them there.
I was talking briefly to a friend today about trying new things, taking risks with jobs and how a role can be compelling even if the field it lays within is not. I am one of those people who can always find something useful or interesting to observe or think about even if the situation itself is rather dull. But, many are not willing to put their time into the hands of something they do not find interesting to begin with. So, how do they find anything interesting at all if they are unwilling to start somewhere?
Perhaps this comes down to the randomness of life that throws us into a whole range of circumstances and introduces new obstacles and instigators on out pathway. Situations that drive us, ideas that motivate us and people who inspire us in many different ways. In many instances, it is the difficult and negative events that tend to push us the hardest off our current course and into new and fulfilling territory.
Through these events we get to experience what we may never have actively chosen had it not been forced upon us yet, we may find parts within that seemingly call to us and beckon for further exploration. A spark of interest that ignites in the darkened distance and we choose to follow even though the ground between is unseen.
For me, all of the randomness that leads to our experience is something quite amazing and even though I am scared of taking the wrong paths, making the wrong choices and risking the little I do have, I am slowly pushing further afield from just being interested in everything to taking small, but concrete steps to explore the dark.
I have talked about this before when it comes to starting my business a few years ago as that was one of the biggest risks I could take at the time and it is still a challenge each day. Steemit was another risk, albeit a more personal ego one as putting my mind out there is not something I was overly comfortable in doing but, it has been one of the most worthwhile experiences in my life.
I have always had the delusion that I would one day write a book and perhaps that delusion still lives within but, up until the start of the year, I had hardly written a word and I had never ventured deep into where I wanted to take it. What has opened up in me from a writing perspective is an interest area that allows me to invest myself into exploring more and playing with a whole range of different thoughts and characters.
For example, the 'Random acts of Violence' series I am writing for Halloween is so divergent from what I would ever have imagined myself writing but, it has been very enjoyable to get into. It also seems that those that read them enjoy them too which is good feedback as my wife will not read them anymore. She said, 'It is scary how easily you find strange ways to kill people'. This is a big compliment from her in my view as it means I have surprised her in a way that she would never have expected from me, and she knows me well.
What pushed me into finding Steemit was family and financial difficulties I would not wish upon anyone, but, if that situation led me to finding and developing a skill set as enjoyable as I find this, I hope that everybody will suffer enough to discover what is laying inside them too.
Our life arcs in so many possible curves, it crisscrosses and zigzags and gets pushed and pulled by a myriad forces. We can never really know beforehand where one path will lead over another, and what seems safe may be fraught with danger and what seems crazy may be the most valuable in hindsight.
Is there a right pathway for each of us? Yes, it is called life but the roads we take are always uncertain, always filled with unexpected and can never be completely controlled. We spend so much time worrying about our emotional safety and protecting what we already hold we forget to invest in the unknown, the place where life finds the inspiration to go on and create.
There can be no certainty in this life, no sure thing as security itself cannot exist as everything is always in a state of flux, and our personal control is narrow and imperfect. Yes, it can all come crashing down around us, we can lose everything we possess but that can happen no matter our attempts to stop it. The journey we take, the people we interact with, the things to discover in the darkness, are they worth the risk?
Perhaps in that unknown space is where we find our calling, the meaning that breaks us apart and pushes us onto a new path with a new purpose. Perhaps lost on that road is where we find ourselves. How can we know which direction we should go before we discover who we are?
Taraz
[ a Steemit original ]
Your piece reminded me of this page from one of my favorite manga. I think especially for people who try fields that involve their art forms really do deal with added stress from the uncertainty that comes from putting your work and yourself out there.
People 'think gotta be in it to win it' means buying a ticket and rarely realise the ticket in is their effort.
In my opinion, at the very same instant as soon as when you get to know yourself better with a closer glimpse about who you really are. You will never fear to take a step forward to penetrate and enter into any route or bifurcation that is presented to you along your path. No matter how dark, uncertain or insecure this may seem. Because by then, you have already gained plenary consciousness on how to enjoy of yourself in total freedom of thought and exercising your journey with absolute insight and accurate intuition in full individual solitude.
At that very instant, you will actually KNOW beyond any shadow of doubt that, we/us, as endless explorators:
"We've all arrived to this earthly plane alone, we've been experiencing and living it alone and we also will leave it alone."
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I think the fear comes in the approach as people worry if what lays at their core is as wondrous as their expectations believe it to be. What happens when one thinks they are unique and then find out they are regular like everyone else? Of course, the 'average' everyone else when viewed from the core is amazing.
That's exactly the key thing in this life to live it at its maximum expression and utmost satisfaction my dear friend. Our uniqueness resides precisely in our regular and average individuality. No more no less. Therefore, it is absolutely vain & useless try to compare us with no one else out there in order to really be able to overcome our speculative imaginary obstacles and fears which prevent us from finally reach fully our goals and seeing, confirming and enjoying what we really are in the core and about what we are made of in its full splendor. :)
Another excellent piece of writing, I'm sure your [future] book will be a joy to read.
So much to take from here:
For me, one of the most under-valued (up-vote speaking) writers on the blockchain. Let's hope this changes soon.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts
Asher
You are not alone on this appreciation my dear @abh12345. I thoroughly concur with you on this statement.
Since, like kinda more enlightened conscious minds, it is not just matter of hopes that this changes soon. But that indeed, this must change soon. ;)
Positive enlightened thinking will make these changes occur yes. Nice to 'meet' you :)
That's right mate. Positive enlightened thinking is the proper hat mindset to wear here everyday. And btw, nice to meet you too my friend. :)
Also following you now, in order to be able to closely witness a celebrate together when you achieve to inject a ton of brand new vitamin D into your organism by collecting plenty of sunshine on those warm and beautiful places around Mallorca.
Cheers!! :)
Thank you, I look forward to my next sensible vitamin D injection and cycle.
Have a great day!
Thank you very much.
It really is useful to get the direct feedback from the audience yet even without, I think I would write the same anyway :)
There is so much to do in this world yet we spend our time arguing over triviality. I, like you, prefer to play in other areas.
A pleasure.
Yes, the game of life does not include trivial arguments - even the best players slide down this snake from time to time, but as long as the seek the ladder I think this will do fine.
Have a great afternoon :)
Outstanding philosophy, talking about the reality of the struggle for life is hard to predict. Everyone wants to be happy, but the question is when to start and where to start?
Starting from the smallest thing, who knows a small though initially considered insulting but who knows will be worthwhile (CONSISTENT). Keep up the good work @tarazkp
Just take a step someway and the next will be that much more easy to see.
There can be no certainty in this life
we can lose everything we possess but that can happen no matter our attempts to stop it
I’m reminded of all the recent natural disasters. People had everything in order; and, with little warning lost it all to floodwaters or firestorms.
I’m reminded, too, of the importance of holding everything and everyone loosely; for to hold on too tightly is to risk irrevocable emotional devastation.
There’s a saying: What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger.
Being blindsided by life; and, for many, losing it all, is a true testament to this statement.
Thanks for sharing!
Peace.
The reverse side of holding on is the manipulation and harm we are willing to inflict onto others in order to keep. it.
Hmmm...interesting thought. This means the harder the person fights to have, the more resistance they're met with.
I think this is called a tug of war; except, in this case the real winner is the one who let's go.
There's nothing more freeing to self; than, letting the one who wants to be free...be.
Peace.
Literally the first thing I read on Steemit, and I'm officially hooked on this site. More like this!
My life is going to be changing A LOT in the coming months and I'm currently trying to come to grips with the fact that my expectations may not specifically be met, but as long as I can focus on pursuing happiness, contentment, and finding true companionship I can hopefully be happy with the "end result".
Use some of your posting time here to explore yourself and discover what you may have missed. There are a lot of distractions that get in the way of our journey but we all end up somewhere still.
thanks for sharing!
Great read 👍