Hello @gloglo
This post is deep
Hmmm! we can't do without relationship, we need love to survive the trauma of life and this same love and relationship put us into trauma sometime. life is sweet when you find a companion that care enough to know what you are saying without saying a word by listen to your heart. it is easy to allow somebody to be on his/her own when such person refuses to change from bad attitude(don't continue to hope for a change of character after marriage). It is cool to do that. But what of the married ones, and the life is short to live with a pierce heart. To me the best thing is to keep praying for such partner,contact counselors, love without expecting anything(unconditional)so that you won't get hurt when your expectation is not meant. look for another thing or relationship that will make you feel good without necessary hurting your partner. No matter how bad a relationship might be there is still one aspect that you can still boast of him/her. we need ourselves to survive.
Yes you are right, like I mentioned above too, married people can only source help from people whi can and hope that things turn around... according to you and factual too, life is too short.
It is left for the unmarried to learn from the experience of the married. You should not just continue to hope he would change which is nit likely to happen the best thing is to move on and live a better life because once you endure and marry him it would really be difficult to walk out especially when kids are featured already.
Please no one should suffer and die in silence, life is really very short to be spent in pain and sorrow.
Every young and unmarried individual should be make a right decision. Thank you @maintain4real-eu for stopping by. Your comment was full of knowledge and beautiful.