It is a beautiful Saturday morning over here in Nigeria and I want to say good morning to everyone in the three major languages spoken in Nigeria: the Yoruba's say Ekaroo or ekuojumo, the Hausa's say inakwana and the Igbo's say Ibolachi.
To everyone on the show this morning, I greet you in the Nigerian way and I welcome you to another great episode of let's talk about it with @oluwatobiloba.
There is so much to talk about on relationship issues and I am just really happy that I started this show, I know that the show will get better by God's grace, we will take it to another level and then another level with the help of supportive and great individuals on the platform.
So, let's get straight to business, but before then, as usual I will like to give a report on the last topic discussed on the show.
Report From The Previous Episode.
I had to call again to meet with the cute young lady we talked about last week and we had a deep conversation, I told her about the advice given by experts and we had a long chat.
I was glad that she was able to smile again at the end of our conversation, so I quickly added that she can always talk to me if there was anything she wanted to talk about.
The Mind-blowing Gist For This Week.
For this week's episode I have a good looking young man around who needs advice from the amazing people who are always ready to help. So I will allow him speak for himself as we read every details.
I am a steemian but I will like my identity to be hidden for some reasons but I hope that I will be able to get help on this platform as well just the same way I have seen others get help.
I have a very close female friend whose name I will not mention, we have been friends right from our university days, I was in my second year and she was in her first year then, so I was her school father and we even became more close as we could tell each other our little secrets.
Sometimes, when I have issues with my girlfriend, she is someone I always talk to and even though she was caring, loving, and understanding, I was always harsh on her whenever she has any issue with my girlfriend because even if I knew that my girlfriend was at fault, I knew that I had to support her and create the boundary between my lover and my friend.
Right now, I realized that things are getting really different because we have been staying in the same environment for sometime and that was when I realized that she had a thing for me, she always felt safe and comfortable around me, I also discovered that she had a crush on me even as I dated a girl after the other.
I decided to go into a relationship with her after getting advice from friends.
We were in a relationship for one week and it was not very smooth because we always had issues and the reason for that is because she had a lot of guys coming around her and I don't usually have ladies around because I like to stay indoors .
So, her phone keeps ringing all the time with calls and messages from different guys even while she is with me and this got me really jealous so I decided to pull out a prank to see if she really loves me.
I pretended as if I wanted to see someone else and this made her really upset, it was at this point that she told me how angry she was about the fact that I can't see how much she loves me and she just wants to be with me and I just keep misbehaving.
I was happy the little prank worked and we were able to sit and talk about what we wanted and we drew out a reasonable conclusion. I apologized for everything and she said she had forgiven me.
After that, she travelled for two weeks and she told me she was going to sleep over at a guy's place who was her friend for a day before she gets to where she was going, but I found out that she was with the guy for a week, she didn't give a call, not a message and so I decided to also keep to myself without calling.
When she got back,I knew that I had to end things with her and so I ended the relationship with her and she said it was fine.
She moved on and she got herself another guy, after sometime I got myself another lady as well because I wanted the void of loneliness filled, I wanted to have someone by my side.
But, the problem remained that, she said I was acting strange and I was giving her attitude and to me I just needed some space.
I see her, we laugh, we play but I know she is not happy with me.
I don't know what to do or how to balance things, it looks as if she is not happy in her new relationship and she wants me back, I want her happy as well but I don't know what to do or the next step to take, because the whole situation looks confusing right now.
@oluwatobiloba, I want to say thank you for creating a show like this and I hope that I can get help as well.
Moderator's Remark.
It is another Saturday and it is another great day to help someone who needs help based on relationship issues and I trust that there are very intelligent individuals on this amazing platform who are always ready to assist.
I am counting on God and I am counting on you and I mean you, to make today's episode of let's talk about it with @oluwatobiloba another successful one.
Thank you for always being there, because there is no show without you. Thank you very much.
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Another interesting episode!
Thanks for swnding my icecream!😘
My pleasure ma'am.
Thanks for coming around.
Awwn @fadiji09 thank you darl.
@oluwatobiloba and we want to thank you for putting this together, well done babes😍
Thanks, I appreciate your presence.
Nice show ma. Tackling relationship issues and helping people with their love lives.
I feel you love her for you to have her in your thoughts and even asked for advice. If you didn't care, you might not even be bothered let alone of asking for advice.
At a point in some girls' lives, we get a lot of toasters and it can be very confusing who to pick.
But it's a phase, after that time, the numbers of toasters might reduce.
Will suggest you talk with her about things. Ask yourself some questions: If you want her back?, Is she someone you want in your life for a short term or long term?
Also, ask her what she wants from you. Don't play any games with her. To avoid being the cause of someone's heartbreak.
You can check out my blog @esttyb. There is this relationship post I put up.
Also, @aderonkemi , has a post on her blog about women and their insecurities.You can check it out.
Trying to understand women can be confusing at times.
But with proper communication, you can both be sure of what you want.
Also, you both need to watch out for extreme jealousy.
The fact that she went and slept over at a guy's house. Shows that there is a need for both sides to talk on the terms and conditions if there will be a relationship.
And if not , be good friends and try not to talk about your dating relationships to reduce jealous tendencies.
You also need to give yourselves some space sometimes.
Amazing.
Thanks deary, your contribution is greatly appreciated.
Thanks @adoore-eu
Keeping grooming love @oluwatobiloba
Thanks deary .
Thank you brother, @fadiji09. Much appreciated.
To the lady of the house, Gracias. This is really good. Well done.
Nice to see you Sir.
This is very interesting! At a certain age, some girls tend to keep more than one boyfriends not because she's selfish but because they don't want to lose out. Girls and guys are not the same. A girls biological clock is ticking and once the guy she's with is not working at the same pace with the girl, she goes out to look for someone more serious.
And it's normal for her to answer calls here and there. Any attractive girl is expected to be disturbed by different guys.
If the guy feels she not happy with her new relationship, all that is needed is dialogue with her.
Alright Ma'am.
I am glad you came around this week.
Unfortunately, both of them ain't ready for a relationship with each other. They are meant to be ordinary friends. Those who are ready for a relationship ain't extremely jelous people who cannot bear to see the opposite sex with their partner. If you have a little trust for the person you are with, then you have a little love for that person and only then too, can you say you are ready for a relationship with that person. Both of them should look before they leap.
Mama, I am glad to have you around, thanks for always having my back.
I feel he should just free the girl joor.. She does not know what she wants or should i say she is being greedy or she is an oliver twist (always wanting more).. Common he gave her his love and yet she started misbehaving.. Even when he said they should break up, she moved on easily.. Common that girl get shina for her body. Abeg forget that girl.. But i am not against them banging each other sha. Because thats what i will do.. Thanks
Alright dear.
Thanks for the contribution.
Dear @oluwatobiloba,
Sincerely, I will react to this guy angrily, hahaha...... What's the essence of being mature when you can't make decisions once?
Damn!!!!
That's too Bad..... But you know what? This thing is a mathematics problem..... The solution to it is always in the number circle..... This simply means that the solution to their problem is within there thinking.
Simply ask both of them to think of how they want to relate with each other, what they want from each other and what they can plan for each other when they are thinking of what tomorrow can simply have for themselves.
Because what I realize lately is that, the beauty of man doings is the consideration of what tomorrow holds.
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Hmmm
My brother is angry oo, Oya no vex. (lol)
Your writing describes every word straight from the heart. I appreciate your presence and contribution.
This is my first time here I guess have been missing a lot..it really an awesome thing you've put up here ..well done ...hoping to be part of it as it goes on.
In regards to the issue at hand it just obvious that's she's selfish and cares only about her happiness , everyone deserves to be happy... And I feel you do not deserve to sacrifice your happiness to someone who do not deserve it..
My opinion
I am so happy to have you around today and I hope to even see you more often.
Your contribution is great, thanks
Awwww.... Thank you so much blood @fadiji09 Muahhh
Weldone sweet @oluwatobiloba... This is amazing. More grease to your elbow
Amen. Thanks a lot deary, I am glad you finally came around.
Dear Brother unkown, Since you guys broke up, dont conclude she still wants you. And if you still love her, yu guys can sit down and talk about making things better. Sometimes we break up to love and value ourselves more
Alright ma'am
Thanks a lot for coming around.
Hummm....... @oluwatobiloba.... Thank u for bringing another episode o I can see this program is really helping life so much. I pray the Lord will continue to give u wisdom and understanding to keep impacting life.
As for our brother.... Pls tell him to move on with his life so he will not be turn to toy that is needed only when it's needed....
Amen ma'am.
This your short sentence is really deep oo. Thanks a lot deary for coming around.
Awww, sorry swty, i have not been coming by but thank God i didn't miss this one...
You are doing a great job @oluwatobiloba
My dear, love is not jealous...
U like this gal, dr is nothing wrong in answering and recieving calls from guys...u need to build ur relationship on little trust at least...
Sit down and ask yourself what u really want... I believe u wil get an ans, also call her and ask her wat she wants..
I am so glad to have you around, I hope you come around more often.
Thanks for the contribution.
Well done ma, this piece really takes a lot of hard work searching for who will give his story. You are really amazing in putting things together.
My advice for the steemian is to move forward. The relationship is ended. Let him not bother if the lady us unhappy. Else he will be hurting the new one. If its not meant to be, then it wouldnt be. Let him not force it.
Thanks Ma for coming around today despite your busy schedule. I appreciate the love.
It is so unfortunate for the guy. My only advice is that there is nothing he could do about it. He should remember once bitten twice shy. Since he can't manage the situation with the lady then he should not think of having her back.
Well done @oluwatobiloba
I sight you my friend, thanks for stopping by.
I don't know how to handle your situation, because you are making the whole thing getting complicate for yourself, like you said earlier and I quote you;
When she got back,I knew that I had to end things with her and so I ended the relationship with her and she said it was fine.
She moved on and she got herself another guy, after sometime I got myself another lady as well because I wanted the void of loneliness filled, I wanted to have someone by my side.
So when you end a relationship with someone and she said fine. Then, while both of you move on at different directions. What is your concern about she said you are putting up attitude. My brother there is nothing that join you with her anymore.
And I would also like to ask you this question, how do you know that the lady was not happy in a her new relationship or probably you are the one that you're not happy in your new relationship. If you are sincere enough and you are able to provide an answer to that question.
This is my advice for you and am very sure that you don't know whether the lady is not happy in her new relationship because she never called you and explain that to you.
So am very sure that you are the one that is not happy. So the decision to go back and settle the scores with her is yours. But if you like yourself you better find correct answer to the question ask earlier before you take any drastic solution you might regret. Before, the lady was sleeping in a guys house for one week, it would turn to one month and eventually she would bring guy to your apartment to sleep over there.
@oluwatobiloba please tell My brother that he should let go of his past, please just move on with your life. Whether she is happy or not. Nothing concerned you, and that is my take .
Hmmmm, this is deep oo.
Thanks a lot brother for always having my back.
Uhmmmm...It's nice to know that guys get confused about love issues like ladies. I would advice the young man to chill out, relax and stop letting the young lady twist him around her little finger. She slept over at another man's place for a week without telling her boyfriend! Red flag!!! Trust has been lost! That trust was to precious to have been blown so casually away and it must be earned all over again! Remain her friend, continue to be yourself but with no strings attached. Don't go into a relationship with her again except she has managed to prove to you that she has turned over a new leaf. It's the only way to save yourself from unnecessary heart break.
Awnnnn
She finally came around, I didn't want to disturb you because I felt you were probably too busy. Thanks a lot for this great contribution Ma'am.