I agree. I don't have a lot of love for that friend anymore. I'm in no hurry to be in a new relationship either. The toxic stuff--I'm still wading through it. Today I feel sad and have the age-old cycle of thoughts in my mind that I could have said this or done that. The truth is, no matter what I said or did, they weren't hearing me. Communication wasn't happening.
What you are saying about not looking--I think when we are confident in ourselves we attract people who like confidence rather than people who see us as opportunity. That's what happened with my toxic ex-friend. I see that I have work to do.