Thanks for your reply!
I do think respectful, informational, and educational conversations are key, but I also think we have to ramp things up a bit if people are being harmed. The argument here is porn, as it is today, does actually cause a lot of harm. We should expose that as being "bad" and that process, I think, can include some shaming. Shaming based on a well-supported moral position ("Don't do that, it provably lowers human wellbeing") is much different than shaming based on ignorance, insecurity, etc, etc. It's just a tool and to me it's a much better tool than something as extreme as censorship or anything the government does which is always backed by violence.