A week ago I posted this question and your 35 replies were quite interesting. I read them all, inside out, pulling the wisdom from in and between the words. Now it's time to give my input. As always, do take note that the following reflects only my wisdom, and it's definitely not THE truth (no such thing, by the way). And as you have come to learn already my perspective on life is from the consciousness point of view. Meaning, while all your answers were legit, they, in the most part, focused on the human POV. I'll go beyond it. And yes, I will also give some tips to improve your bedroom quality time.
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Three more comments before I dive into the subject -
- There is much to say about this topic, as you can imagine, and in the following lines, I will be succinct. Very succinct. You need to remember that if and when quoting my words, in order to keep the message clear and flowing.
- While reading your comments I held myself from replying to some of them because I preferred that you'd first read my own thoughts, as stated in this post. If you still have questions or want to start a discussion you may surely use the comments of this post as the platform.
- Sex for me is an extremely intimate experience. Being a private person compels me, against my educational nature, to be reserved in the words ahead. Still, I am sure you will take good things from it.
The common denominator
Music, food, electricity, your physical body, your thoughts - just to name a few - have all something in common. They are energy, different forms of energy. And energy is a form of communication.
Sex is also energy, and likewise a communication. It is a sense called communication. But the communication is not with another human being, not with aliens, not with your past/future lives, but with your own soul self. In sex, energy comes from your core being, gets compressed, and communicates to the human the Joy of the Soul, your soul.
Why do we need sex? Why do we need sex with different people? In light of my words above, the answer is clear. We crave for this joy, to experience once again the communication with our soul-self. However, we (falsely) think that in others we find that joy. In each intercourse, we hope, secretly, that the experience will reveal to us that soul-self, that part of who we are that is in joy. We think that the body/mind of our partner will open the doors to completeness. Once this fantasy does not fulfill itself we are disappointed and sad, but yet, keep trying, keep searching for the sexual experience that will be the ultimate.
Do we need sex? absolutely. But not to gain self-love or self-confidence. I have had years in which I didn't have any sexual interactions but those years turned out to be the ones in which I mastered my fragmented personality.
Some practical tips
If your partner is aware, and shares your own perspectives then you are lucky. Automatically, both of you are willing to open up, and you actually do not need to take off any clothes to be together. In fact, I bet that the sexual energy flows between you two all the time when you are in each other's company. It's a good point to mention that sex doesn't really need naked bodies. It can be initiated in a slight caress, an eye contact, a spoken word. If you don't know what I am talking about then give it some time. With the willingness and allowing it will happen to you too.
In the bedroom dedicate time to the foreplay. Each couple has their own ways, rituals, and techniques, but the thumb rule is simple. The longer the foreplay the better the connection. Remember that the connection I am speaking of is with your self. In fact, you can have a great sexual experience with a person you just met five minutes ago. And no, God doesn't judge you for having casual sex ;-) By the way, a foreplay doesn't have to be physical. Talk to each other, breath with each other, whatever fits you.
During the intercourse be aware. In most sexual acts people are focused on the pleasure, on the techniques, on the orgasm/s that they will have. There is a hovering purpose, floating above the participants - I want to have an orgasm! Get rid of this agenda. BE PRESENT. Yes, rejoice the physical sensations but at the same time feel/see/sense the communication with the soul-self. You see, when you have sex you automatically bring to the bedroom an aspect that is usually dormant, like in your dreams, so the sex is a great chance to evoke that aspect. It happens naturally, with no effort, only through your breaths and allowing.
Women - be more selfish - you are thinking too much how to please the man; you are judging yourself too harshly. Be more attentive to yourself, do the things that please you and refuse (boldly) to the those who don't resonate with you. Men, even if they refuse to admit it at first, want to serve you. Really want to serve you. So let them. When you are happy they will be in joy, vibrating and functioning (pan intended 😉😉;-)
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A few topics about sex that I didn't cover in this post but you may now want to think about in light of this post: The male/female imbalance; the wounds of the male and female; what would be really fulfilling to the man (satisfying the woman); what are females afraid of (claiming their power); the core reason for infidelity; sex and religion - what does God think about sex (doesn't care); sex and morality; masturbation - good/bad; guilt and shame during sex; the dragon within; addiction to sex; demonic aspects in your bedroom and how to get rid of them; sex and the near earth realms; and more.
All your answers were inspiring and it's not easy to choose. Thank you for sharing. Four in particular resonated with the point I had wanted to make and so I am gladly sending 1.5sbd/steem to each. @leahlei; @myindigoinsight; @purplemoon; @mountainjewel. A special thanks to @techslut whose words are always a treat for the mind!
All these things you mention here remind me of my Twin Flame relationship. Until July 31 2017 I never really was into that topic when on that day at night after waking up for a short period of time, with the veil being the thinnest, I suddenly unmistakingly felt her energetic attraction toward me, and while I felt so I crystalclearly heard and received the term "Twin Flame" with sort of an energetic seal or bond having been established at the same time.
Funnily enough, the months before that day I had an ever stronger sensation that soon somebody important will enter my life, whether a very good friend or "the one", but I could never put my finger on it. Strangely enough, I ended up having several synchroncities at certain places and dreams with that girl that all made me think: is it her?
Thing is, when the uncertainty had been lifted hat day, I realised that I HAD been seeing her quite often already because she was working nearby, but for some reason she fell absolutely under my radar and I NEVER even considered her a possibility at all. Some time later only did I notice that it was her who was constantly showing up in my dreams, and again I was wondering why I never realised that so far.
Well, what followed is one year of an incredible amount of energetic work, work that has truly been pushing me to the brink of utter Exhaustion forgiveness and Acceptance, despite all the growth I had been experiencing thus far already. Since she hadn't had any spiritual or emotional experiences up to that time, instead having been entrenched in deep 3D mode, you can imagine how destructive a process ( in a positive sense!) it must have been for her.
... How was it for you, being her teacher?
I take from your words that the relationship ended. If so, what was the reason?
I am still here teacher, and spirit has guided me over this year to send her Heart-to-Heart messages here and then to release my own deeply buried blockages and by doing so her blockages as well. This also icludes the healing of the entire familial lineage. So basically, I specifically address her Heart, which is key because the Trust issue is one of the main issues ( basically for all Humans, but as the Twin Flame is your Soul Mirror, the Trust issue is at maximum). You could also say the Trust issue is maximized for her because in the face of her Soul Mirror her fears are most exposed, she cannot hide. This trust issue then is something that she has been dragging through her entire life, reflecting itself in relationships based on lack and fear. So by speaking to her Heart, I allow her to gradually learn to trust while releasing mutual fears at the same time.
The day I got to know that she is my Twin Flame, the energetic exchange immediately allowed me to know her beyond her facade, and over the entire year that followed the energetic work made her ever more familiar to me so that right now I feel as if I kow her from the inside out. She too gets ever more familiar but more slowely. Thing is, we haven't been in a real relationship yet physically, because she was running away back then.
In many Twin Flame relationships the "chaser" gets emotionally so embroiled, despite more emotional and spiritual maturity than the "runner", that the "chaser" too might take decisions, based on fear of loss and need, which make the runner even run more. Simply because the "chaser" has difficulties accepting this. By doing so, the relationship is constantly procrastinating and being pushed away from Happening because the runner doesn't get the time and space to reflect on the whole thing and introspect. It might take many years, if at all, that there is real reunion.
So in all humbleness, I was able to not get lost in that vicious cycle, and instead managed to detach from the chaser attitude after roughly 3-4 weeks. She indoctrinated all of her co-workers and family and friends, so in a sense it was all against me, but finally I was the one pushing the red button. From that moment onward at the end of last year, my dreams have been constantly keeping me up to date as to her state, and as I have been continuing doing the inner work and removing blockages, she was kind of forced to do the same. The period from July to August was then an Apex period of these energies where at one day she saw me from the distance and instantly ran way out of fear of rejection and shame. Well, as the energies were heralding this already, spirit guided me to write her and her father these Heart to Heart Messages for mutual healing, and my last message to them was apparently THE door opener for real physical reunion according to my consequent dream messages but since I wasn't aware of that at the time I sent that message I included " that I won't be online for some time now to get some break" . So over the next weeks some huge progress seems to be on the horizon. But at first I need that break :)
So long story short, the relationship has never REALLY started in the first place, because I decided to first get most of the inner work done for the best and most stable long-term result. So the choice was: either the slow way with lots of procrastination in doing one's energetic work (which means periods of physical reunion yet unstable so that physical Separation follows, vicious circle) OR the quick way with no procrastination in doing one's energetic work at all, hence most intense energetic work in short time (which means no real periods of physical reunion but WHEN then it is most stable from the very beginning). So I preferred the latter :)
Very long comment, enjoy :)
Thanks for the sharing. Enriching. Sounds like a series of posts can be written around the experience.
I think my best wish for you is to meet another twin soul, on a higher degree/level, as it feels that you have done your internal work that that karmic connection came to entice within you. Doing so without being dragged down by her human-level frequencies.
Intersting to follow through your journey.
Interesting that you say "another" Twin Soul. Sometimes I have been thinking that she might be my "catalyser Twin" preparing me for my real Twin, but finally I am always strongly being guided and told that she is "the One" heavily preparing herself for this union to happen ( which only makes sense, after all I had the apparently unmistakable Dream message back then, but you never know spirit's surprises). I am constantly balancing myself out here to not get attached to any of my thoughts' assumptions.
We will se what surprises are in store for me :)
Thank you so much @nomad-magus, I am so happy that my answer was chosen! I greatly appreciate this. I agree with what you shared in the post and I am also learning from you. I would also love to know more of twin flames and what is your take on it. Again thank you very much! ♥ ☺
You are welcome. You are fortunate to open yourself to knowledge.
https://steemit.com/duality/@nomad-magus/from-a-slave-to-a-master-chapter-14-the-myth-about-the-twin-soul
Thank you very much @nomad-magus! Will be printing a copy of this.❤😊
Thank you for the SBD! I saw that i had some in my wallet and was a bit confused, then scrolled down and saw it came from you, and i thought eh? Thats very nice of him, then i remembered about the comment i made so came to have a look if you had made a decision yet. I can't disagree with anything you've written here. I watched something on Netflix a while back about asexuals, and although i cannot understand it my self, it's super interesting to hear about totally different attitudes towards sex, and a little bit sad as well to see the rigidity some others can have towards being different. I talked about the documentary with a few people and noticed people are quick to judge, think they are weird etc, I didn't ask, but I wanted to say something along the lines of- well how true are you being to your sexual self? Are you fully expressing it and fully satisfied with it? If not then you're in no position to cast a judgement on someone else who is being true to their own wishes.
Again thank-you, much appreciated. :)
👍Most welcome.
In my age I have no patience any more to people who judge others. I smile at them and bid them farewell. Our realities will part anyhow soon so why bother.
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Thanks for some practical tips sir. Some times I want to discuss this with my wife. Thanks again to give us how important this topic in relationship. God bless you
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wow excellent
Great and complete explanation of what sex is. I thought I had it in my answer, but I guess I didn’t explain it properly. I’m a bit confused 😞.
Your input was indeed comprehensive on the human level (man, woman, masculine, feminine etc). I was resonating with replies that mentioned/hinted the communication between the human and the soul self. Perhaps you meant it as well, in a gentle insinuated way. :)
I feel happy that my answer resonated within yourself and I feel even more happier that you spread this words here wide open, so that more and more people can read about the sacredness of the sexual experience. Although, we, that are here on steemit are quite open minded, we are never enough and we should all speak out as loudest as we can, the limit of our intimacy. Thank you for opening the subject and looking forward to reading the next episode ;)
i like reading your words on this; some good food for thought. also thank you for the 1.5 steem. i love having conversations about sexuality and all of the nuances. thanks for holding space.