Everybody deals with stress once in a while.
Stress at work, Stress in a relationship, stress in the family or among friends.
But the key factor we have to keep in mind when dealing with it is: we create stress ourselves!
Stress is entirely made up in our own heads!
Whatever is making you feel stressed, might not stress another person at all. This already proves that stress is a very personal concept we make up in our own minds.
Most stress comes from time pressure that we put on ourselves.
We often think that we only have so little time to do something, and also that it has to be absolutely perfect when we complete it.
But a lot of the time, that's not the case.
Of course, we might have strict deadlines at work or college which you can't really get around (only by planning your time perfectly!), but in our personal lives we stress ourselves way too much because we don't ask for the real deadlines.
If a family member asks you to do something within a week - you can tell them you're currently quite busy and ask when the real deadline would be.
When would be the point where they actually need your input and can't wait on it any longer?
The answer will probably be several days later.
Use your time effectively.
We all know that procrastination feels good at first, but creates more stress in the end. You don't have to put yourself through this!
Manage your time, schedule and plan ahead, and always take some time buffer into your consideration as well.
But the effective use of time is not only meant for tight deadlines - this is a concept you should keep in mind everyday.
You can finish many things enough quicker if you work more concentrated and effectively, therefore giving you more time.
By scheduling your day, you don't have any breaks where you sit around not knowing what to do or being bored.
If you use your day more effectively, you will be surprised how much more time you can get to finish all your tasks easily!
Another stress factor we burden ourselves with is that we often assume things are much more important than they actually are.
Recap in your mind what you were stressed about in the last few weeks.
Things like needing to clean the house, an appliance breaking down, finishing a certain project, running errands or doing paperwork stress us out - but are they really that important?
You probably don't need to get them done right away, and also it wouldn't be the end of the world if you someho didn't make it.
When you stress about cleaning your house, remember how blessed you are to live in a sheltered house with food in the fridge!
When you're actually feeling stressed out, the first thing you should control is your breathing.
Take several deep breaths and calm down. Take a step back from the situation and realize that whatever stresses you is probably not that big of a deal and not worth stressing over so much.
Take a walk, get some fresh air and some distance from the situation to clear your head!
Meditation is also a great way to calm down and focus on what's really important.
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thank you, appreciate it!
And you're right, the attitude plays a big role in being stressed. When you're confident and optimistic, you'll feel a lot less stress!
Having a soft furry animal, cat, dog, or even a rabbit in the vicinity is a great immediate stress reliever. There are now many businesses that have service pets just for that. Yes, we create a lot of our own stress and there are many exercises to reduce it. But nothing works like a cuddly animal that reciprocates with a loving kiss.
interesting, I didn't know they had turned this into a business already!
you are so right, stress is ONLY in our heads! and we don't realize it and put all this pressure on ourselves..
I always feel like fresh air really helps me clear my head. whether that's a run or just a walk, I always feel way better afterwards
almost everyone I know stresses themselves way too much - like you said, most of those things aren't even that important!!
sometimes we just have to step back and realize that!
that infographic is so funny. the thing people stress most about is a broken appliance, really? and only 14% health issues.. these are true first wirld problems lol
I thought the same thing, the number 1 reason seemed quite odd to me. but this only shows how closed-minded people are, and what small unnecessary things we stress about
for everyone interested in this topic, read the book "don't sweat the small stuff!"
very interesting, it shifts your perspective and will make you realize that the things you worry about aren't really that big of a deal
I've heard about that book a lot already, seems like I should give it a read! I'm very interested in the concept
My mom used to say :
It's easy to say, but hard to do.
That's a great rule to live by!
thanks for sharing. what a relevant topic - pretty much everyone deals with their own kind of stress
true words!
all those small things that annoy us and ruin our day are actually not worth stressing over!
time management is soooo important. and sometimes it's quite a hard task!
but when you really use your time at 100% efficiency, you will finish your to do list much quicker and realize you have some time left at the end of the day
that's right. all those times during the day where we wait or don't know what to do add up and could be used much more efficiently
One of the best things to raise your time efficiency, might be giving up watching news (besides, it is soooooo stressful indeed)
Thank you for the motivational post once again! That's what i need right now :)
I enjoy this post, and I feel that it's very true. I never thought about it before, but stress really is made up inside our own mind. The more we tend to worry about something, the worse the stress will get. But there is no point in worrying about a situation, because there is no benefit.
I've employed breathing techniques to great effect when feeling stressed. Just a few breaths in and out will usually help. If not, then I "talk myself down", or chat with myself as if I were trying to calm someone in my situation down.
Sounds crazy, but it's been really effective for me.
Great post! Thank you for this sir, I believe I needed to refresh this into my head. Upvoted100%, resteemed and now following.
Sure, one of the first thing parents should do is to learn their children to deal with stress like that. Or, at least, THIS should be taught at school!
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Thank you @sirwinchester, upvoted! I think an important step in that "anti-stress-program" is to NOT try to comply with everthing society might expect from us. Nowadays it´s absolutely normal to be a workaholic, supermom or superdad, best friend, peacemaker, worldsaver, well-trained and well-shaped super model and (in our case) bestseller writer AT THE SAME TIME. The all-in-one perfect person. So it all starts with us: we should only comply with what makes US happy, not others. You don´t have to be a superstar to be a wonderful person! That´s what people have to be aware of in this rushing world of constant comparison, liking, sharing and competition. Happy stress-free day and steem on! :-)
Stress is one thing I don't wish anyone to go through. But stress is something we all must pass through in life weather young or old white or black. It's how well you manage stress that matters most to most individuals.
There will always be not enough hours for the day, your job demands more of your time hence you come back very late at night you even hardly have the time to play with loved when at home and you bearly sleep well. This are just a few I have mentioned not that we humans can avoid stress it's how we handle it. That's makes us leave longer in life.