Wonderfully expressed! Yes, it is key to let "traumas become conscious". The more we try to forget 'negative' experiences the more they get lost in our subconscious. When this happens we eventually don't know anymore where our fears stem from. In terms of fear dissolution, metaphorically speaking, we end up using the wrong screwdriver for the 'fear screw', and try to make it fit in some way without noticing that our tool is not the right to loosen this specific screw in the first place.
And YES, it surely propagates the process of those close to us. "As within so without", goes the hermetic wisdom, we only need to fix ourselves to contribute most to the world ;)
Thank you for your Heart-spoken words!