Yeah, my Twin Flame journey (until physical reunification now) has been really really tough and required me to constantly let go of fears of consequences. Bear in mind that it had been that tough for me DESPITE having released all fears of death a few years ago and having been glimpsing insights into my next life ever since (including tons of Out of Body experiences so that they are literal no-brainers but instead a source of anticipation toward my next life). So you can probably imagine how much courage some actions of mine must have taken. Actions which I NEVER would have dared take hadn't I released my fears of death..
Things is, spirituality is great, but sometimes we might a bit too nice. Some of my deepest fears with her boss was that of being judgemental without substance, and I was really grateful for her because I was able to harness her dark Intention into the manifestation of more freedom into my life on every life. I CAN be grateful for that, what I cajoled myself into thinking therefore however was that there doesn't have to be consequences for her original Intention. But in reality this would be quite egoistic if her Intention remained without repercussions, because this would deprive her from Soul growth...
That last point is such an important one, and both in terms of people who we may have an adversarial relationship with and those we love. For me it has been most difficult learning that same lesson with those I love. We must also accept the power and agency of those we love who are not living with the level of consciousness we might wish for them, and see their divine power at play just as competently in their lives. Do you see how it's the other side of the same idea?
Exactly. I can only agree with you, and I have also experiencing this with loved ones. What I have noticed is that accepting them as they are instead of meddling in is what makes them melt into our consciousness stream.
One small-scale example:
About 3 years ago I was in the supermarket with my mother, and I was searching for a toothpaste wihtout fluoride because of its toxicity. My mother was immediately dismissing my behavior as metaphysical/esoteric nonsense since she was of the opinion, like most, that fluoride is very conducive. Well, I didn't comment on that, never mentioned this topic again and decided to let them experience themselves as they wish. Then, about a year ago my mother came to me out of the blue and told me that she now uses toothpaste without fluoride because it's toxic. She didn't have this change of mind because I told her back then and then thought about it, but simply because she subconsciously connected to my consciousness stream and adapted it without notice, and then did her own research in some way.
Just to give an example. Of course this applies to ALL agencies of people ;)