People that tell you to "stop complaining" because you "have more than others" but your emotional reaction is driven by a desire for things which they aren't actually talking about?
You know, the entire point of what I was saying.
That's an unreasonable position. Forget the fact that it's irrational; we can accept irrationality. It's unreasonable; it lacks reason.
I am far from the most empathetic person in the world, and very well may be the least empathetic person short of Bernie on Steemit, but even I have enough experience in life to recognize that listening to people who tell you that your desire for engagement with others through your work is something you shouldn't want enough to feel that you're not getting enough of it?
Those people are assholes.
I totally believe that you can stop interacting with those people. Go elsewhere. Do something else. Find someplace else to be. It is always your choice as to whether you interact with people or not. We have the ability to make those decisions, if only we have the wherewithal to execute on them.
Clearly, he is not being made happy by his association with these people. As such – he should stop doing that.
Life is far too short to keep hitting your scrotum with a hammer and waiting for it to feel good. Put the hammer down.
this whole thing you just said, don't make sense to me.
It's up to him if he wants to stop trying and give up,
but it's not a very social thing to do. that's not how the world works.
I told him to stop dealing with people who are assholes and who have no sympathy for his position.
I told him to find different people to hang out with, because the ones he's associating with her clearly not making them happy.
That is the very definition of a social thing to do. Don't hang out with people who are toxic. Don't hang out with people who don't understand the things that you want in life. Don't expose yourself to the opinions of people who don't matter.
Do the work. Love the work. Go find people who will also love the work.
Anything else is masochism. And while I know some masochists who are really cute and like a good beating now again – you don't have to. You can choose differently.
I guess you're right, But I say we change the way they think. Meanwhile, keep doing the work. love the work, and be open to other people's opinions. that's how we improve. a feedback is always a good thing, even from assholes.
Well – I suppose I could shoot them right in the forehead. That would serve to change the way they think real quick.
Short of such radical intervention, there is no way to change how they think. In fact, it's arrogant to think that we could or should change how they think. That's not our place. That's not our job. The moment that we arrogate the belief that we have the right to change or they think we allow them the same right to behave in the same way to us.
I'm really not down for that.
So – we're back to "fuck those guys and their opinions."
Feedback is not always a good thing. In fact, quite a lot of feedback is wasted time and wasted effort to read. It's kind of amazing how that happens.
No, if you find yourself falling into a nest of toxic serpents, don't try to sweet talk them out of their delicious venom – crawl out of the hole and go down the street to the nearest bar where at least you can have a pleasant drink and the chance of going home with a hooker.
Unless you're into snakes. In which case – go to a snake bar.