Dave, you're making a huge mistake here, and are frankly rather uninformed, I'm sorry to say.
Obama himself warned the Russians about bombings and strikes before doing them, even when not targeting the Russians themselves. In fact Trump made the same damned criticisms you're making on campaign.
Listen, for the love of God: Warning the Russians before striking so they can evacuate is so that we can avoid World War III.
When you say we shouldn't do that you're saying 'let's roll the dice with the human race'
As to the congress part I'm not sure if it's part of doctrine to warn congress of strikes, but I'm not going to be surprised if it isn't. The army isn't a democracy, it's a dictatorship, that means decisions are made top down; if you don't have damned good proof that this is contrary to doctrine you're making a fool of yourself.
You might want to consider running this kind of commentary by a friend or advisory who knows these kinds of things, because honestly this is a really silly boner, criticising Trump for NOT playing chicken with nuclear war.