determine the advantages/disadvantages to each mental skirmish.
I tend to do that as well. I want the respect of people telling me the truth, I wish they wanted the same. People don't have the level of care for truth or desire to hear about errors with open arms... :/
Yeah, if someone is open to it, then they want the respect of being told the truth about issues. The backfire effect is strong.
Time is limited, pick your battles indeed. But when talking about something, say it like it is ;) That's what I do. Respect them enough to be able to handle the message about the topic. Thanks for the feedback.