Please forgive me for the delay as I needed a few days to process the responses to this post. Thank you for what you shared. I agree and I hope that people saw that from both sides, where you explicitly mentioned the one side and I the other.
I think all the violence is damaging and it is tough to suggest one is worse than the other as there are degrees of damage due to experiences but each individual is unique and is impacted differently depending on what happens and how they deal with things. So I shy away from saying one is worse than the other, just different. Thank you so much for commenting.