INTRODUCTION.
Social media is not the place where I like to share my life with others and I feel quite uneasy doing so. At the same time, the community here on Steemit has been very mature and supportive so far. I’ve managed to get to know many of you and I recently encountered so much kindness coming from this particular community. So for that reason I would like today to share with you my joy and happiness.
Days when I was captain of my own ship are forever gone. I’M NOT LONGER A SINGLE MAN :) |  |
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GETTING MARRIED
| I’ve heard stories of people being very nervous and stressed on that particular day but luckily I didn’t feel any of those emotions. All my feelings I could describe in a few simple words: warm, peaceful, content. I believe we all feel differently depending partly on age. Perhaps once you’re over 40 years old you do not react the way younger people do when they are getting married. |  |
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 | Looking back at last 5 years of our relationship I must admit, that we went through so many challenges already. More than I ever expected. Being a couple coming from 2 different backgrounds, cultures and languages is not easy. |
Especially in current days. Seeing immigration policies change everywhere around the world and families being torn apart is scary and I can only hope that our little family will never become a victim of those big politics.
All I can hope is to grow old next to her, knowing that noone else does bring so much laughter and positive energy into my life the way she does. I really think I'm quite a lucky bastard :)
Looking into the future – SHARE YOUR ADVICES
I would like to ask you guys one serious question. I’m fully aware that many people here have both great and tragic experience with their partners. Some are having an amazing life together, while others either got divorced or are struggling on daily basis in their marriages.
What qualities do you guys think matters the most in the marriage if you’re a man? Im betting on few:
- being open minded,
- being a good listener,
- being patient
Would you recommend any other quality which is worth working on? I would love to hear your opinion.
Yours
Piotr
wow. Mighty congrats man.. So glad for you
Congratulations @crypto.piotr! A married man!! You have made the second most important commitment of your life. For you and your beloved, I wish for you an until-death-do-you-part marriage.
You ask the following question:
Are you sitting down? Here goes:
Given to you respectfully from a man who is blessed to have been married 42 years. And counting … She would have been wise to have never married me to begin with. And, then, she should have left me long ago … But she did not. Words are inadequate to express what her faithfulness and loyalty to me over our long life means to me now.
All the best to you and your beloved lifemate @crypto.piotr! 😊
Woow, thank you these are really beautiful words !!! I would love my future husband to read them.
cheers,
Irene
Happy to learn you found them of value @ireneblessing. Hopefully your future lifemate will be able to write his own version of these words to you someday.
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Thanks, @roleerob Amen to that !!! however, we forgot to tell @crypto.piotr to always give God the first position in his marriage because God is the author of our lives and he has the power to change any situations that we go through.
Once again thanks for sharing.
Yes, perhaps, @ireneblessing …
… or it is a question of timing. You’ll note in my original msg. I said ”second” most important commitment … That was intentional … 😉
Yeah, I have noticed it although the meaning was a bit hidden it makes a lot of sense now to me.
Thank you so very much @roleerob
TRIVIAL.co – SMALL UPDATE
Few words a bit off-topic.
Myself and on behalf of Trivial.co I would like to thank everyone who shared their own opinion about that site. Your time, and effort you took to write feedback has been greatly appreciated.
https://steemit.com/cryptocurrencies/@crypto.piotr/who-are-trivial-co-young-ambitious-and-professsional-are-they-going-to-be-next-big-thing-in-crypto-space
There is few people who I would like to mention “by name” as their comments I considered the most valuable: @juanmolina, @tysler, @luiscalzadilla, @nachomolina, @freecrypto, @neavvy, @resuscitate, @r-k-m, @dedicatedguy, @danielwrites, @norkamoran, @hendersonp, @oivas, @ritxi, @jodekss, @achim03, @cmplxty, @niallon11, @eccles, @ulqu3, @neiraurdaneta, @cryptouno, @luiscalzadilla, @jaichai, @kcherukuri, @josevasquez, @culgin, @allcapsonezero, @ced000, @roleerob, @alexanderrigov, @ralk98
I never expected such a huge engagement (over 400 comments total in one post). Guys, your support is simply blowing my mind. Seriously.
I’m obviously facing a great challenge now, since I only received budget of 160 STEEM and rewarding so many good comments may be difficult. I spoke with representative of Trivial.co already and most likely we will manage to increate budget to be able to reward everyone with at least 5 STEEM.
Please give me few days to power down a little bit more, enjoy my fresh marriage and next week just check your wallet and your memos
Yours
Piotr
Congratulations, Piotr! You are a wonderful couple.😃
Once again, congratulations! What more advice could one offer those who who's relationship was forged in many a trial?
Well the psychologists have only one real bit of advice -- spending time together engaged in a common interest or hobby. That's all :)
My your union be blessed in every way!
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Congratulations!
It is really nice to see you so happy in those pictures! I wish you a long and happy marriage Piotr! :)
You asked about a good quality for a man, I would like to add 2:
being responsible. As a husband, and potentially a father, responsibility is one of the most important qualities a man should have.
being honest. Without honesty it is really difficult to develop a proper bonding with other people, besides, dishonesty can rot people from the inside.
A good man should always be responsible and honest.
Wow! Congratulations! :)
wish you guys all the best, especially Understanding and Consent! :)
as for advice... I guess you may need to learn what's called "to be considerate" concept. and all the whole related stuff (eg. "up to you" thing :D )
oh, and BTW: perhaps a nice song for you on this happy occasion! :)
(it is an Engl version, easier to understand, here is original lang., better sound quality too)
First of all, I would love to say if I say I don't know few things you went through before the marriage came into reality, I would be a poor liar. But now, everything that prequelled that might have happened happened just to strengthen your relationship and nothing more and I would pray you both would leave it at that.
Second of all, I am highly glad from within this specific dream of marrying came in place as planned. ☺☺☺ Really, I wish I could attend though I was there in the spirit 👣 with you guys on D-DAY did you not see me lol?! I pray to God you would never look back on your wedding day and have a course to curse it or regret. Amen.
Finally, my joy knows no bound was why I had to put it on my WHATSAPP STATUS for friends to rejoice alongside me for your lives now: stating this is necessary having just knowing you really are not into social media, hope we are still good@crypto.piotr. Your supports for me personally have been beyond expectations crypto-wise without prejudice. Thank you dearly. But I am not married yet, would not want to pretend I am and give much items of advice. However, I would advise you to always let God lead your home - when the Supreme Being does, you ain't gonna sink no matter the storms but be afloat. ☺☺☺☺😍$incerely yours,
@jodekss
Hey,you,forgot to invite me in your wedding!
No problem I am not holding on a grudge for that.I think you are a lucky guy,she is so beautiful.I hope your new life becomes full of love and happiness.
As for suggestion,I am pretty young and unmarried,so I don't have any.I just think I can learn from you.I would freak out on my wedding,if I had to get married lately.
Anyway lots of best wishes for you.Thank you that you chose to share this news with us.
I will be always here to support you when you need me.
I am just so happy for you !
First of all congratulations for your wedding ☺ Wish you all the happiness and joy. God bless you both..
I really liked your articles.. it's sometimes it's very unique sometimes it's usual but presented uniquely.. I am kind of your fan now.. also your support to bloggers is great...
I am not married but I think Honesty in relationships is very important... I know you asked things that ideal husband should have and I am talking in terms of relationship.. I am kind of not great in this kind of topics...
Also it's amazing that you both are totally different - different place, different cultures and all but as we say opposite makes the great relations..
Once again congratulations & God bless you both ☺
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What good news friend! Congratulations, when I marry I was a little nervous hahaha but I think I was nervous about the monetary responsibilities that one acquires to be married, I do not have much experience in marriage I only have 2 years of marriage but I will still be to give you a couple of tips that they gave me.
The first and perhaps the most important is never never go to sleep after a fight, always after a discussion it is best to take a time alone to calm down and before sleep talk about the problem and try to fix it, if you can not To solve is to reach a middle point, they say that when you lie down to sleep after a fight with the couple we poison our soul.
The second is to understand that all people are different and therefore our wife is different in many ways from us, this is the one that has cost me the most to assimilate to me.
regards
Sorry for appearing late to this very special post, I apologise :).
So, I like to congratulate both of you:) for a successful marriage. Have a many successful and great years ahead :).
Be with her forever like Romeo and tell Keisha that be with you forever like Juliet 😊😊 .
I also hope that you will finish with all the legal formalities soon :)
Come back soon on steemit, we the steemian are waiting for you 😊
Have a great day and wonderful night 😊😊 @crypto.piotr
Many many congratulation my dear friend @crypto.piotr. You both look amazing together. Even after all this issues you guys made it which is not small thing - I am aware about situation there regarding government officials & you had to move to another place. But the most important thing is you guys are together and which is enough to survive any condition. I wish you guys life with full of happiness. May every day of your life be filled with love, sympathy, and compassion! May the foundation of your relationship always be as solid as a rock. God bless you both.
being open minded, being a good listener, being patientI think you mentioned important thing already. I think trust and honesty between two is very important - as you guys survived this much there is no doubt that there is lake of any of this between you. Other than this all things are optional..
Once again Congratulations my friend.
Have a great married life :)
Congrats my man! Sorry about the delay; I saw your post but kept getting pulled away for various circumstances. Marriage is the best when you are really marrying the right person. It sounds to me like you are, having spent years together and overcoming those challenges.
Having your partner be your best friend makes the relationship that much stronger as you can talk about so many things and know they will understand you and your perspective but at the same time set you straight when necessary.
I learned that active communication is one of the key important topics required; you need to know if they are struggling with something, particularly something you are doing, saying or not doing. These times can be tough because if it’s not taken care of it can turn into something larger that eventually cannot be repaired easily if at all.
Just a few things I’ve learned in the years I’ve been married that I see aren’t happening with some friends and I see them struggling.
Hi @crypto.piotr. I am so happy to read this good news of your wedding. A big congratulations to you both. First of all I want to say I loved how simple your wife looked on your day. My advice to you both is to stay positive always and when any negative thoughts about marriage failure comes to mind, discard them immediately. I also want to beg you to not ignore or stop doing the little things that you might have done while dating her, for example taking her out, buying her presents and even assisting her with the chores to. Marriage is a beautiful thing and I want say congratulations for obtaining favour from God.
Yours sincerely, @celineaugustinee
Hi @crypto.piotr, it is truly hard to express how happy I am with the fact that you and Keisha are already married. It is not easy for me to come up with an advice, as I do not have much experience in getting married :) However, basing on my two-year relationship I consider communication as the most important factor in creating strong and happy relationship.
Hope to see you in Poland soon!
I have been happily married for 17 years. My best advice is “trust is everything”. My wife and I allow each other the freedom to do things without being monitored or checked up on. She has time with the girls and I have time with the guys. You need to respect the freedom you are given. That means no strip clubs, cheating, etc. You need to honor her gift of freedom to you so the marriage is never seen as stifling or limiting. I would also suggest coming up with a common goal that you both are passionate about and go after it together. Last July my wife and I ran with the bulls in Pamplona Spain.
Then in September we went white water rafting in Costa Rica.
On Thanksgiving we planned an elaborate feast we made together and shared with friends. Marriage can actually be an adventure that is exciting. I know this to be true because mine is. Good luck to you and your wife as you start your unique journey together.
Dear @clayrawlings
Thank you for your amazing and inspiring comment. 17 years seem to be quite a long time.
That is indeed good advice. The only issue Im facing is the fact that my partner grew up in environment of distrust and even 5 years being together doesnt seem to be helping much.
I already spoke to her number of times and underlined that her lack of trust will only build my distrust towards her. I hope sooner than later I will make her understand, that trust cannot be just one way street.
Oh wow. That sounds like a real adventure :)
Thank you for those kind words :)
Yours
Piotr
My best wishes and congratulations on your marriage.
Kindness cannot be overrated (you asked about qualities to express).
Off topic, I am barely able to get internet of late, so post little and far between. I doubt this will be of much concern to you presently, being newly married, but another fine quality is patience, and I reckon the more you have of that the greater the rewards it will bring you.
Much happiness to you both!
Happy married life man.... So much happiness and joy in 1 picture....as for your question,the is no answer to it... Every marriage and home is unique to its upsides and downsides so there is no basic rule or principle guiding how you should run it or how it should be
My advice is don't get too hard on yourself,allow things to flow freely in the first few months... If it's good then try to keep up with the pace and spice things up so it doesn't turn sour
In an unfortunate scenario where it's rather good....see what you can do to tackle such difficulties but note that not all difficulties can be eliminated completely..you have to accept some and live with them through adaptation
The most important thing is just to be more happy than sad.... Congratulations once more
In answer (4 months later) to your question?
I think it's important for both partners, to be patient, to be good listeners, and of course, to always respect each other.
You may not always agree, but at the least, respect each other and listen.
Dear @bluefinstudios
I believe we didn't have a chance to get to know each other so far. I'm pleased to meet you and very grateful for your kind comment :)
Enjoy your NY celebrations! :)
Yours
Piotr
We've interacted so little... But, 2019 will change that!
happy to meet you.
From East Coast US
Congratulations!!!!!
You guys really look good and happy together. May God bless your union.
My advice would be to be patient with one another, focus on the positives, Communication is important, pray together and last but not least, always show her how important she is to you.
thank you @ulqu3 for your kind comment and those trully important advices :)
Hello, @crypto.piotr. I want to say a big congratulation to you and your better half. I wish you a happy married life. The peace of God will forever be with you and more blessings and happiness.
Congrats mate! Honesty is the best policy, good luck with it all.
Wohoo... Congratulations to the both of you! Glad everything went well for you eventually! Out of the qualities you mentioned certainly all range on the very top, so ideally you have all of them equally. Will we also see a few honeymoon photos? ;)
I would love to have honeymoon happening dear @conceptskip
Unfortunately, it has to wait a little bit. We want first to legalize our marriage also in Poland (my home-country) but it's just to cold now and "winter is coming". So gotta wait till next summer and gotta safe some money first :)
Thank you again for your great and never ending support
Yours
Piotr
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Congratulations Sir,may you have a successful marriage and your small family become big.Dint waste your time,double your time and enjoy life.Above all,make God the center of everything because when there is God, love is all around,when there is love,there is happiness and faithfulness.
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Waaawwwwuuuu!
Nicce! Congratulations!!!
I love what I see😁😁
Now I feel like getting married!
Keisha is looking sooooo fine! 😍😍
you're cracking me up @ced000 :)
I can't stop laughing :)
Congratulations on your big step forward. We in #cn-malaysia thank you for your continuous support for our multiple members and would really like to take this opportunity to give you our blessing and wish you all the best on your future staking(not talking about crypto currency, we're referring to your the other half). Have a fruitful life ahead.
thank you to everyone to @cn-malaysia and everyone from #cn-malaysia for your kind wishes.
I can only hope that my life will be fruitful :) yours
Piotr
This is great! Congratulations and many happy years ahead!
Wish you the world's best Congratulation. As a 100th upvote I would like to give you a small advice "Always speak with your heart not with your mouth" By remembering this phrase you will celebrate your 100th birthday with your partner.
Wow. 100 birthday? Darn. I can only hope to live that long :)
Thx @kcherukuri :)
COngratulations!! SHe looks asian. Great looking couple.
wow its a very good news congratulations sir may your married life fulfill with all the joy and happiness :))
Wow!, Congratulations and I wish you a happy life in marriage, Mr Piotr.
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Congratulations man, this is a huge life stage
Your home would be blessed with all the good things you wish for
Congratulations for new chapter of your life.
Hopefully this will be your amazing journey to build a beautiful life with your family Sir.
Wow!! Congratulations man
Really happy for you and your partner
God bless the union 😁
Congratulation and best wishes to the both of you
Wow!!! Congratulations man!!
Really happy that you took this bold step.
I pray God bless your union.
I would say being open minded and making sensible compromises. As you you grow together the compromises get smaller as you become more aligned.
Congrats Piotr! All the best to the both of you :)
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Friend congratulations, a different and very beautiful stage in your life.
regards
Great, enjoy this new chapter of your life! Cheers 🥂
Congrats Piotr!
Congratulations on your wedding!
Congratulations @crypto.piotr bro and your wife, such a perfect match！
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Congratulations mr @crypto.piotr on your wedding 😊
Oh man, wish I could be at the wedding!
🎉🎉🎉
Congratulations Piotr!
And congratulations to your lovely bride!
Congratulations @crypto.piotr I wish you all the best and I believe being authentic and loving your partner despite the little hiccups in marriage is what bonds you forever.
Your wife is really beautiful.
Thank you @ireneblessing for your kind comment and compliment. I indeed must agree, that she is beautiful :)
Yours
Piotr
Congrats