We never know how much time we are going to be given; how much time we still have left.
And what a waste of that time for us to spend it sad and sour. But it's easy, isn't it? It's easy to be miserable when things go wrong, to get upset at people who mistreat us, to get frustrated when we are forced to wait in traffic or in a lineup at the grocery store. We like comfort, don't we? We don't like when things don't go our way.
When we get upset during stressful circumstances, it likely isn't going to change things for the better.
Getting angry at the traffic won't make it go any faster. Huffing and puffing in the lineup will probably just get you a number of judgmental looks, not prompt anyone to move any faster or provide any better customer service for you. And you might even end-up going viral on Youtube depending on the level of your public tantrum.
If we are suffering from a physical disease, if we don't have enough money to pay our bills, if the fridge is looking bare, these aren't problems that are going to be improved by our decision to embrace the misery in the difficulty and challenge that we face.
Usually, if we choose to embrace that negative attitude, it only makes things worse for us and only adds to the difficulty of trying to deal with the situation.
Joy can be uplifting and can provide strength to get through difficult times. Sadness, anger, and frustration on the other hand can easily set you back and act as a stumbling block. Is it possible to maintain a good attitude despite our suffering? I believe that it is, but is it easy? Not at all.
One of the most extreme circumstances of misery, where I would assume it'd be especially trying to attempt keeping a good attitude, is for those who are detained behind bars and who have their freedom stripped away from them. And one specific case that I'd like to mention is that of Viktor Frankl who was sent as a prisoner to Auschwitz.
Frankl was a psychotherapist and allegedly tried to help many others inside the prison to regain a sense of purpose, to try and persuade them against committing suicide.
Frankl had said that for those who were intellectually rich, that despite their outward conditions, that they had the ability to retreat during such times of difficulty to a life of inner spiritual freedom and inner riches.
The ability to maintain a good attitude acted as a self-defense mechanism for those inmates and provided them strength to carry on in those conditions in the hopes that they would see their loved ones again or one day be free of living under such tyranny.
Though we might find ourselves in difficult circumstances in life, we can choose how we endure that position of suffering.
There is always someone out there who has it worse off than whatever our current situation might be and despite those who might be suffering physically or financially etc elsewhere in the world, sometimes you'll find that those folks who have the least will be the kindest and most generous.
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"The simplification of life is one of the steps to inner peace. A persistent simplification will create an inner and outer well-being that places harmony in one's life."
Peace Pilgrim
Very touching and motivating post, we should be thankful for every breath and opportunities we get, some people don't get the chance to explore the world the way we do
With a positive mindset the worst situations seem manageable, with a negative mindset the best situations seem like their killing you. It's all about perspective and humility. Thanks for sharing buddy!
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Very nice and good post
I always try to tell myself there is a reason why anything happens, think of past circumstances in which I've been frustrated or sad but then because of an event I thought was bad something wonderful was able to happen later. This helps me remain positive, hopeful.
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It has been proven some time ago that our brains are neuroplastic, which means we just get used to state in which we spend the most time and then this state is our primary state of mind. Of course it's entirely up to you -
how you react on certain circumstances but if you already fall into abyss of sarrow and cannot see any way out, then instant contradiction is no use. In my opinion it would be just lying to ourselves (and we are actually aware if it) and we perfectly know that the situation is much much worse. That can lead to inner dissonance or even inner fight which just will leave us wasted and completely out of power, so the negative attitude gots straight way to overwhelm us. Sometimes it's not easy to change attitude but in my opinion best thing you can do is not to negate but rather accept thing as they are first. So what if I'm actually being in prison - thinking "but I still got my free will", "I am free man, I can do whatever I want" doesn't change the fact that I'm prisoned. Istead if I would be like "OK. I'm in prison and I can't get out where I please but I can still do a lot of things inside the prison and get through this experience. Maybe it's good time to change some of my life priorities and prepare better to live as a free man again? If I already found myself in such a situation what can I learn from it?
Negation and hiding negative stuff under the carpet won't help. Things will get even worse when after some time you'll realise that you've been lying to yourself about this whole time. All humans can adapt to almost every condiotion but it takes some effort and time. Of course you can still change your attitude and work towards changing the situation on the better, but without acceptance you'll be in constant fight with yourself - that will only be restraining you. So let go, accept the negatives, look toward the bright sides and then work on them.
Count your blessing and be grateful. Let the problem come, keep moving forward.
Always be grateful for every breath, some people are breathing and enslaved, broke, sick, and in worse situations than you and are grateful to wake up every morning.
Very nice and good post, Thanks for share. @naz722
A little bit of pain never hurt anyone!
Great post. It's always important to have some sort of hope when you're going through a rough time! Hope you have a good day.
Wow this is definitely so true , it's true that there are many things in our life's that keep us so sad and miserable, but no matter how sad u might be it's not like the "thing or person" who is doing that is going to care at all, so why bother, rather than being prisoner and chained by that restraints, its more better to just try to not let things bother u! Even if it's really hard , practice take it with a smile and handle things in a calmer happier situation will make life much more free and joyful. :-)
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It is hard to do but the best we can do in a difficult situation is be optimistic and look towards a better tomorrow than worrying about what negative things are happening in the moment.
The good Lord tells us to be thankful in ALL things.
I fail daily at that one.
1 Thessalonians 5:18
....give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.
The difficulties of life and the stresses which let's the people to get negative mindset.
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Great post. I think all the animations are going to give me an epileptic seizure though..
Your words hit the target perfectly, there are many people who are on the high position , have all the luxuries of the life but they are hollow from the inside. They have suppressed their feeling all their life and if they wanna cry they have to smile in front of others. This is the way they have moulded theirselves and changed their true self. They even do not know what they are doing and for what.
Really important topic. It's hard to control our emotions, but we can change our attitude. We are living in the world of many possibilities. Most of the people have everything what they need for happy life. Sometimes it's just hard to see. Thanks for valuable post @doitvoluntarily!
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I wish you success,
Do not be afraid of obstacles in the way,
You will master them - I know it,
You're used to the break to go.
I wish perseverance and strength,
And always see the goal before yourself,
What would be wise and brave you were,
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A thought provoking posting. Thank you.
Well said, positivity is the key to happiness.
Well said. i have never seen the benefit of anger fits or getting upset too much. it only stresses you out and the only one your are causing harm to when you cuss at the other driver is yourself. Don't sweat the small stuff. it is not worth it. Pick your fights carefully in life. Don't fight with yourself. People are watching and forming opinions. If you are going to give them a show at least make it a good one. We already have enough stress in our lives and most folks do not know how the hell to manage it. What good does embracing the negative do to help you or others. Think before you respond. why have diarrhea of the mouth and let everyone see your attitude vomit all over society. It is not worth it folks. Take some responsibility for yourself. you cannot control what others do. But if you are a human with a half a brain you can control yourself and your behavior. make a difference. Be a leader and set the example for others to follow. - Thanks for sharing. - Troy
El sufrimiento esta ligado a la ausencia de algo que deseamos en la vida y en mi opinion a la falta de aceptacion, los seres humanos tenemos una larga lista de deseo, que normalmente queremos alcanzar en un determinado tiempo por la presion sicologica y emocional producida por el hecho de ignorar cuando tiempo que viviremos.
La gran mayoria de nosotros no alcanzamos todas las metas en el tiempo estipulado de hecho en algunos casos todo nuestro plan de vida da un giro de 360° y nada resulta ni parecido a lo planeado.
Es basico reflexionar sobre el verdadero objetivo de la vida, esta no debe ser analizada sino vivida.
Cada dia es un regalo, que debemos disfrutar al maximo porque no sabes si sera el ultimo, debemos ser organizados y tener planificacion porsupuesto metas y objetivos pero disfrutar de cada paso.
Siempre recuerdo mi experiencia en la universidad, hubo esfuerzos, malas noches, malas calificaciones, frustraciones, pero de igual manera excelentes experiencias bailes, comidas compartidas, nacieron amistades que hasta hoy mantengo y gracias a todoas esas viviencias obtuve mi licenciatura, hubo y habra sufrimientos en nuesras vidas pero durara y sera del tamaño que tu le otorgues. ME encanto tu post¡