I'll be honest, I'm always on the defensive, life has led me to act like this, it's the reason I choose my few friends, if someone bothers me, I respond immediately, I'm not tolerant at all, that's why I stay away, people that annoy me and I respond , I forget them , if I see them , I avoid them , conclusion , they do not exist , I think it 's better that way .
I used to be like that a lot and still am sometimes, but I found studying non violent communication has helped a lot! To try to hear what the other person is really trying to say and to try to have compassion for them even if we may not agree with or like what they are saying.