@nmalove, you are absolutely right... This has worked for me, even in making me more discipline towards my own spending. @ogoowinner, I think this is something you need to adopt.
You need to understand that, if you weren't there, your relatives would survive, and would pay up their bills. Imagine you were in desperate in need of money too and you have spent all that you have. Would they be there to run heather-sketcher for you also ?
My dear, please, let go of the feelings, it won't pay your bills also. You have worked for your money. They should also try working for theirs too. If they don't listen, Winner, you have TRIED.