I travel for a living and my job keeps me on the road most of the time, but this gives me time off in between to engage with other stuff I am passionate about, I have been an active preacher along the way and I have been talking about family preservation and making awareness about CPS for more than six years now, that has been one of the activities I have been so passionate about. Through this time I have seen a lot horrible things, broken lives, shattered families, confused mothers, sad teenagers, imprisoned innocent fathers and a lot more, but I am proud to have met and known an Angel along these years.
One of the rarest and loving person I did meet in the world of CPS was and still a jewel, Madam Becca (name changed), surprisingly a foster parent, you read that right, a foster parent. I met Becca four years back, I have known her that long on the personal level, I know all the kids that presently lives in her spacious house, a few that had lived with her. Two weeks ago, I said to her: I'd love to write about you in a post for a Family protection group, I think you would be a source of inspiration, I know you don't want to be public about this, but I insist, even in anonymity. She was silent for a while and said, "I will have to ponder on that", the next day she said, "Alright". (The interview is a cleaned version, and I have personally made some injections from what I know and have shared with each other for the last 4 to 3 years)
1. What Are Your Experiences With CPS?
I lost my husband early 2003 to a chronic ailment and later that year lost the only thing I had left in my whole existence. My 8 yr old daughter was taken from me by CPS, I had no one to turn to and I was without her, I was in a financial ruin and hardly survived, with my broken heart I labored day and night to fight for my daughter. Being poor at the time was my major setback, until I was no longer poor, until I became loud enough to get back my daughter. For 5 yrs I was without her.
I got my daughter back, but not in whole, she was not the young little brave princess I used to know, she returned to me a scared little girl, broken beyond her mother's hearts, though she kept growing stronger after the whole incident and abuse she passed through, but she was never the same. Even in the comfort of her home, she kept crying in the night about the friends she had left behind who are still suffering, especially her best friend in those five years, at times she screams at night, scared from sleep, her trauma was so much than I thought I knew. My daughter was not complete, all I could do was remind her of my love and help heal her every way I could. A broken mother helping a broken daughter, I needed to be strong.
2. Why Did You Get Into Fostering Then
I knew what I passed through at the hands of the court and CPS, but that only simply made me stronger and more resolved. I as a parent whose child had been inflicted badly by the foster care system, and oppressed by CPS in court knew how wrong and evil the game these people where playing. Whenever I heard parents talk about the system, we were on the same page, we were resonating the same pain and anguish. Whenever they said we were perjured against, I knew their hearts.
So, my daughter's foster friend in the foster home she grew up in was my first. At first I must confess, my daughter's talk about her friend was a catalyst, aside my experience with the system. I got my name very clean after getting my daughter, I adopted my daughter's friend from the system!, that was where it all started, I refused to use any of the financial privileges the state offered back then, I took care of her from my personal income, yes I was that stable now. I was hooked up on another child who was as broken as mine, we all worked it through, healing each others down the road.
As time went on, and as God blessed me more, I became a foster parent, yeah, it sounds ironic, but that was one of the only solution I saw at the time. While I anonymously support groups and parents oppressed by CPS, I took the path of becoming a foster parent just because I never wanted any child to experience what my daughter and her friend passed through. I and my two daughters now aged twenty-ish-plus have welcomed a handful number of children into our home within these many years. That was the short term change I saw for the system, to get these young ones from the hands of the abusers they would be placed. That is it, I wanted to help as much children as I could from falling into the hands of wicked fosters and end up broken. That was why I decided to foster.
3. What Out Of The Ordinary Have You Done For The Children
As a mother the greatest pain I felt in those 5 years was worrying where my daughter was!, not being able to see her or talk with her was my doom. For my daughter, every moment she spent in the foster care system was hell for her, her greatest weight was not seeing her mother nor talking to me.
When a child comes into my home, the social worker provide as little information as possible, most times they don't give any information about the child at all. I have personally worked hard most of the time to search for the parents of the children secretly. I am so very careful with this because a friend of mine who did the same and was found out to be doing so by the county got all the kids under her care removed. I have resolved into using some smart services to get the details of the children that come in. I even had to sort of "lobby" my way to get these sometimes.
In my home we have a simple rule that all have kept for a long time now, no one talks to the social worker about the visitors we get when she comes visiting. I never have more than 7 to 8 children under my care at a time, it help keep things simple when I get parents secretly into my home. Yes!, I spend time also travelling with one or two kids when their parents are far off, so they can meet on a leveled ground, and also get CPS off our backs. Phone calls and all, everything to get the parents to communicate with their children again. I know all their stories, because every child I ever fostered had opened up to me plainly and I know when CPS played "foul". Almost all of the cases!. What I am most grateful for is the opportunity God has endowed me with, financially, character wise and godly wise.
That is who Mrs. Becca is, an angel I have known for four years now, she is the most selfless woman I ever met, sacrificing so much to rescue children the best way she can, while helping many parents along the way. I have met three young adults aside her two daughters who aged out under her care, and I am just in happy shock. This interview is not yet done, for there is still so much left to tell, how she has reconciled a handful of the children under her care back to their families and so much more. She is a true example and a mother to many, but to me, She is an Angel!.(She sat down to read this post before I posted it here, and tears filled her eyes)
Keep loving your Kids and fight for their right to be loved by you!
Peace to you all,
Eugene
( @kryptocoin )
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What an incredible story!
She works for the kidnappers,
yet she coordinates secret meetings between the kidnapped children and their estranged parents ... wow!
Those parents and children are so blessed to have a Double Agent working within the organization -- because that is what she is.
I wonder if @familyprotection could recruit some more "Double Agents?"
We could get private detectives on board to help locate the parents, and arrange meetups, and then with the parents and children colluding, and throwing in a good lawyer, perhaps they could have a better chance of getting their children returned to them.
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Indeed, that is the word, in this scenario, being a Double Agent is super cool, of course, I hope we can get some onto this family-protection initiative. Some parents have gotten their kids back via Becca's help as well. _Eugene
oh! You will have to follow-up with how she helped some parents get their children back. I'm eager to read that.
Thank-you for all that you are doing and getting the word out there @kryptocoin !
That's an AMAZING idea!
Amazing insspyrrasy bravo
Wow! This post restores my faith in human nature.
Thank you @kryptocoin for going out of your way to bring us the truth!
You are a true @familyprotection Legend!
I am glad it did, As long as there are a few out there who are aware of the problem and are determined to help, there is so much hope and help we can plant and grow!. Thanks you Mark. __Eugene
Wow, Eugene - Mdme Becca sounds absolutely amazing. I love the "keeping shtum" - I bet she has a life oozing with love and laughter in between the pains. Love it - thanks - upvoted.
That is absolutely how her home is, she has healed from her pains long ago, and she absolutely love what she does, being a source of happiness and strength for these young ones. That I say is the best implementation of what God has blessed her with.
I get blown away whenever I visit, and I am happy she could confide so much in me. A big house filled with so much love!!. How I wish other foster parents could be the same and stop inflicting more pains and abusing children. Becca is a rare gem in the land of fosters, and her two daughters are so like minded._Eugene
You are so lucky knowing that (blessed) lady - I hope we get to hear more of her inspirational stories lighting up @familyprotection. She and her fam must have so much to share. I've resteemed you.
Yes, some foster parents are unfortunately abusive - people need to speak out more. And the goodies need to keep on shining their light.
so sad for that CP practice in your country, I am a single parent if one of my three children maybe away from I think I feel like dying. Some of my friends invite me to work abroad but the high salary is not worth if no mother will always remind them what are the proper things to do to become better individuals. I can't entrust them to anybody not even to my family and how much more to that kind of foater parents.
She sounds like an absolutely amazing person! I wish I could meet Mrs Becca, look her in the eye and thank her for everything she has done and is doing. If multitudes of people, who are informed of the danger and corruption in the system, became foster parents at the very least, children will have a greater chance of 'dodging the bullet'. I'm sure there are plenty of loving and safe foster parents, but it only takes a few bad ones to become a danger to the children. Thank you for sharing a portion of this story with us. @ironshield
Thank you ironshield, you are very right, many would have dodged the bullet. There is still much hope!_Eugene
This beautiful soul is an unsung heroine and due to the corruption will have to remain so.
What an incredible lady.
And oh boy the cruelty of the elite.
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xox
"Becca's" story is as inspiring as horrible. Cheers to her efforts to help other children too! : )
Indeed, but she left her demons behind her, to heal those who came around her, she had to heal her daughter and herself first._Eugene
What an inspiring story. Indeed she is someone who truly cares about children and families. Others would do well to learn from her example. Thanks @kryptocoin
It would be beautifully amazing if other fosters could be such!. Thank you Troy._Eugene
This is just truly Amazing! This definitely brings some Hope and Light to the darkness that families are facing. Thank you @kryptocoin for going the extra mile and bringing her story to us! She’s one incredible blessing and I thank God for using her to help those families~
Hope and Light is what keeps the world going, a personal obligation we have to shine a light. "Don't stop believing". Thank you @crosheille
Amen!! We can’t stop believing!!
Wow that was a tough read. Thank you for sharing this experience. There is much light in the world, God bless people like this.
Amen!. Thanks.
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@Kryptocoin one of the awesome post ever!!!!!
so sad for that CP practice in your country, I am a single parent if one of my three children maybe away from I think I feel like dying. Some of my friends invite me to work abroad but the high salary is not worth if no mother will always remind them what are the proper things to do to become better individuals. I can't entrust them to anybody not even to my family and how much more to that kind of foater parents.
Again?!!!, stop this @abdulkorim, stop repeating people's comments and spamming posts!.
Indeed, that is the word, in this scenario, being a Double Agent is super cool, of course, I hope we can get some onto this family-protection initiative. Some parents have gotten their kids back via Becca's help as well. _Eugene
Repeating people's comment on the same is not ideal and the community frowns at this. This is more or less SPAM. Please refrain from this act else you will get flagged!.
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God Bless your beautiful Angel! Thank you for writing this post.