We always love to get back to Home
Three months and two days - We made him go to Bangalore to my younger brother's house and today he came back. The pleasure in coming back to home is so intense - he is very happy reaching here. Yes, he is my father, whom we purposely sent to Bangalore.
There was some reasons - Covid forced his lifestyle restricted to just one room. He is now 81 and has been vaccinated with two doses of vaccine. He had friends whom he used to meet every day before Covid. At 4'o clock he would walk around 800 meters and on the bank of the pond (shared in this post) they would sit and talk for more than a hour. Most of them were in his age group - seventies or eighties. That socialization was the greatest happiness for him. But with Covid everything changed. They used to stop going there, and everyone was forced to stay at home. Some of his friends even died about which, we did not inform him. The reason being, he also has some heart issues and have a pace maker fitted since last 11 years.
Over the time, he preferred to sit in his room most of the time and even developed early stage dementia. When the Covid cases decreased, we have tried to accompany him in going out in walks - also he used to drive a scooty - so I went with him inspiring him to drive again, because once, he was hit lightly and fell down. All of this was to bring back him to what he was - a very cheerful person, whom everyone admires. My friends tell me that you have the best father - he is like a friend and there was always smile on his face. He loved to meet and talk to people - anyone comes to house, he will take that plea to order for all the delicious foods, especially all kind of non-veg - I sometimes wonder, how he has so much of interest for non-veg even today.
On September 8 he went to Bangalore. He was not very happy going there, but we persuaded him strongly to change the place. We were expecting that, he will have some change in mindset. I had these photos from that day.
My two brothers above - the right one is the eldest and the left one is the youngest. After spending around three months, he is back - very happy to be in his own place. Just before few days, he fell unconscious at my brother's home and was rushed to hospital - he developed some chest infections. He was in the hospital for couple of days - all tests done, and there is nothing serious. Bangalore being a cold climate, it's better to bring him here.
Mom was very excited for his return, she knew that, he will look out for some non-veg, so I had to go and get some live fish from the market. They bring them live in these big containers and they will show you before cutting them. And he spills out all the fresh blood to sell more.
I probably have told this in my earlier posts but would love to repeat - we must feel privileged to have them this long in our life and enjoy every moment taking care of them. Their very presence brings the confidence - we always feel like a child with them and same goes with them. I am not sure, we will even reach this age group and our children would even have this kind of care for us, so why not enjoy what we have ?
At this age, they need very little - but that little too much. It's for them we are in this world - so why not give them that little which we can. It just needs your will power to care for them. My mom was alone all these days - you must have seen, my posts about my native place. I was trying spend maximum time with her, leaving my wife and kids alone. Because I know, they can manage, but not my mother. You can bring them an organizer, but still someone need to organize the organizer.
That´s a very nice tribute to your father. I think by now, you have dedicated a post of appreciation like this one to most members of your family. You guys have amazing relations with each other, which is something that´s definitely not to be taken for granted these days... Have a great weekend and enjoy some nice precious "together time" ;)
Ya, almost everything on the chain - the best place for a personal diary - remains there forever.
You are a very good son. It is not easy when our parents start to get older, especially with dementia. I do my best with my father, but he lives alone and is very independent. He doesn't want much help.
I fear the day will come soon when he may need help even if he does not want it!
It is very kind to talk about taking care of our elders. I think it is sometimes more challenging than you have suggested, and it is still the right thing to do of course.
Yes, I agree, its challenging - but we have to now treat them like our kids or even more than our kids I would say.
Organize an organizer for pills is HELL literally, when my parents got covid it was insane how much pills we where all taking. But im glad your dad is feeling better at home now, eating fish and looking at his family :)
Yes, I think, most of the people ( if not all) always love the place where they live permanently. Some kind of mindset to get attached to the place and things over there.
I guess is the mindset of a builder, like i build this home, is my home, i made it with my own hands, or something like that?
He built it with all his hard earned money - even he was the architect. Later we extended, but he did buy the huge land.
That is a prove of how much he loved you, he maded that home for his sons in a way or another, one men only builds a house for love of for ego, and i think he did it out of love. An example of a parent, because it kept going and extended even when you guys were all grow up.
It's good that he has family to look after him. My stepfather has a lot of heart conditions, so there are certain things we keep from him in his old age, no need to stress him. Is your father staying with you at your house now?
Yes, agree, we need to take wise decisions and not tell him everything. It's his house - I never bought a house - the plan is to spend maximum time with them.
both you and your dad are look a like. haha
So true. Even my Dad needs Mum to say 'Did you take your pill?'.
You are such a kind person. Your Dad is so lucky to have you. Does he have friends or community to talk to in Bangalore? COVID has been so isolating... so hard on old folk.
Unfortunately no - even some of their friends are no more - just today I was asking to go and meet some friends. We feel, its very important he connects with friends again.
You're resembling like your father and anyone can easily identify if see both of you together.
And I inherit all the behaviors from Mom - always thinking of taking care of others. My father and my other two brothers are least worried about anything and quite relaxed.
hehe. thats so nice.Seems your father and brothers know that you can take care of everything and they need not to. :)
The best thing about the images is to see the happiness he brings with him in his smile, you can clearly see that he is a little calmer and in a better mood. COVID has changed the world in many ways, and even this difficult fight against it is not over, but we must be strong and take preventive measures. I wish the best to your father and your family, good health to all.
Thank you so much - we now realize the importance of old saying - health is wealth.
The semblance With you and your father is uncanny, I couldn't even place a difference, you probably look more like him than two of your brothers. I'm definitely glad he's back better again.
I probably loved the fish cutting session.
Ya, everyone tells the same - but the very interesting thing is that, I have all the habits and disciplines same as my mother and the same goes well for my brothers - they inherit that from my father 😀. So mom and me are like always working and these guys always enjoying...
Greetings @sanjeevm. We must take advantage of when our parents are alive, especially at that age since they dedicated a lot of time to us, it is time to dedicate a little of ours to them.
You guys are really doing well... Taking care of my parent, seeing them happy and putting a smile on their face is one of the things I cherish most
Covid has changed the lives of many people. Like this man was locked in a room. Closed the opportunity to meet friends in old age. However, it is good to hear that you are accompanying him.
Much happy hearing about your father. All of you have same seem, I am wishing to your father healthy life.
I imagine your happiness when you return home, there is nothing more satisfying than being in our home.
He looks very good despite his age. Congratulations dear friend for having your parents present
I wish you a beautiful afternoonHello dear friend @sanjeevm good afternoon
Yes, he used to be more energetic - but Covid impacted him a lot.
It is a difficult age for these types of conditions, luckily he is a strong person.
It's good that I'm already home
Due to the elders, there is prosperity and prosperity in the house. The coronavirus infected many people, including my brothers. There are very difficult situations
great to see you guys doing well and I also bought fish I will be firing it a while later
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