Have you asked yourself about the things you've been doing? Is that what you really wanted? What if you are doing that just to please someone? Did you ever consider that you're trying so hard just to be noticed or to have approval? Indeed, society is where we should be but it doesn't mean we need to desperately be part of it. Let the people accept you for who you are but not be like someone to be accepted.
In today's world pretending to be someone is like everyone's mind. In social media, work, and even in the community where you are living in. Fame is the most common thing people want to have. Although it is not wrong especially when we're trying hard to earn, what I'm talking about is the vloggers. Even if they feel like vomiting while performing the act in the video. They decided to swallow for the sake of the audiences that will view and like their videos. Somehow, it's understandable because we all know how much the earnings are.
What concerns me if they are happy having that kind of lifestyle? You can't express what you want to let others know how you are feeling. You can't shout what the words you are trying to say are. Of course, you are afraid of the bad effects that you may have by doing that. You want to suppress your own attitude and not lose your fans, which is your asset in vlogging. The question is, "are you okay with that, or are you happy by doing that?" A simple question but it's hard to answer because of the negative thoughts you're thinking.
What's wrong with being yourself? Do you think if you will just be yourself a lot of people will hate you? First and foremost, whatever you do there are those people who still hate you. That's not a made-up fact but it's the reality and most of us can tell it's not a lie. The reason people are copying or imitating is because of wanting to be known or to be accepted. They are trying so hard to be that person even though it means abandoning their own ideology. It will just be found in their thoughts the words "this is not me, this is not the life I wanted." What can they do, they prioritize themselves not to be left behind, and they think this is the solution.
It takes time before the flower is recognized for its beauty. It takes time before a child can talk, walk, and even hear. Just imagine how the process will take its time before we can enjoy it. The result doesn't happen right away like after you did it or tomorrow. No, we must have the patience to endure the time being alone and not being accepted. If people don't accept you immediately, perhaps they are just knowing you first or trying to figure out what kind of person you are.
In terms of your work, success will not be without sacrifices. In other words, before you can achieve something, you still need to undergo those processes. We all know that a plant or a tree can't bear fruit as soon as possible. Although don't budge because the thing you wanted the most will be in your grasp if you work hard for it. Don't misunderstand, a guava fruit will not bear a mango fruit. It means, what you're working so hard on will always be the thing you expected.
There's no pain in being yourself if you will just understand life widely. Those successful people endure for how many years before they have it. Pretending to be someone is like imprisoning yourself and your happiness. Who likes to be behind bars when they can't freely go outside? Don't underestimate this simple presumption in life because if that yourself of yours will be tired time will come it explodes. It's a waste to make an explosion after you worked so hard.
Just be yourself to avoid conflicts of your happiness and burden in your heart.
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Being oneself is very important, it helps us to connect with our essence, with our inner self. Many times we spend our lives pretending to be someone we are not, in order to be accepted in society, in a group of friends, in a job and so on.
But at the same time we betray ourselves and at that moment our soul is sad, perhaps we feel that something is missing, and it is precisely to accept ourselves as we are.
The question I keep asking is that why would you pretending being a person you are not..
What can one achieve from it, open up and be who you are...let the people that will hate you hate you.. People that will beat you beat you..no matter what you will still see some the will love you the way you are without pretending to be someone else
I'm always surprise when some men and women will be pretending as if their are something but once their get what their actually want you then see the really them..
Just the way my grand father normally say that respect is no a character, and that is just the truth the way some people will repect and honored you... You will never believe their can do something until you started seeing it with your own eye..
That is life all over people live a life of pretend to stay..
Yeah that is the truth one must learn how to be himself most of the time will depend on people that doesn't have the capacity to advise us when we want to do something it is a good be necessary for us to be who we are
Want you always believe is that we have a potential we have something to deliver that is something great in or switch some people do not have as they normally said that all women being are not the same there must be something in you that somebody do not have you don't need to look down at yourself you are great
Another point is that some people doesn't believe in their self some people doesn't believe they can do something on their own associate which is very bad there should be a situation whereby we should learn how to be independent you don't need to depend on people all the time because the people were even depending on who doesn't know the last and how strong they are
We should always learn another stand that we are all special people that everything will lose our hands-on will surely come to pass we don't need to deceive yourself anything we know that we cannot do well as we get advice from others and also work with our mind
Most of the things that make people not to be their self is that they doesn't believe in the safe if you find it difficult to believe in who you are is will be very hard for you to be yourself
Another thing is that some people love to copy people if you are a kind of person that cannot hold on your own and you like copying people are there to be very hard for you to be yourself as I said that you are a special person you don't need to copy people before you leave or do something
However always let people know what you can do always let people know your stand some of the time because you refuse to be yourself people will not said it is you that I've done this or that but if you hold your stuff people will know you on what you hold yourself on which is very great
You also need to read book that will give you more confidence most of the time if we lack confidence it can affect us allowed to be ourselves you read different books that can give you more confidence develop your mind and make you to be strong
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