As a very delicate sleeper, I was very snarly reading this, I admit. I haven't had this particular problem in a couple, but do see myself getting separate blankets, rather than compromise my sleep. Don't know how common that is here in Romania, though. Obviously, to an extent, it'd be better for the relationship if I slept well and did not begrudge my partner various midnight offenses.
But you make some awfully valid points, man. Could something so trivial as wanting two blankets be indicative of a larger societal illness?
Could very well be. Again, quite a troubled sleeper, but only in relationships that, looking back, I see were not going well. Everything they did bugged me, but it really was a sign about the overall compatibility, not trivial at all. With other relationships, where compatibility was strong, I didn't give a .. if the person snored, was a hot sleeper, liked the covers up to the chin or slept with their socks on. All trivial...or not, depending on the relationship :)
Really liked this.
Did you grow up in a quiet house or have a "shhh, the baby is sleeping" upbringing? I find that it affects people in the future. A lot of Finnish homes are very quiet, plus people don't want to wake the baby. Foreign parents tend to introduce more noise. Smallsteps sleeps like a log once asleep.
Exactly. We can compromise our comfort a lot, or be comfortable in less than ideal situations, when we are with people we really care about.
Not a particularly quiet house, but it being just me and my mom, I suppose the house was pretty quiet when I was small (and asleep). My extended family, on the other hand, was huge, and my cousins can sleep anywhere as a result (you can literally be learning an instrument next to them), so I'm sure you're right.