Wow. I really appreciate this. I understand your point of view ..tho i will never have a full grasp of how it felt like when you were in that situation. I was very careful not to make her feel that i pity her- i never felt that.
I had a hard time figuring out too how to reach out bec as u said, i didnt know if she wants to be alone or she wants me around..but i still chose to reach out-coz how else would i know? What was on my mind was that....if she shuts her self from me...there will be a pain of rejection but i was willing to take that chance. REjection is bearable that the thought of never trying to reach out as a friend when she needs one.