I've spoken about reality-bending in several posts now, and the topic is kind of a far-out concept to many. It's mostly a game of reality interpretation that you play inside your head. Much of the time, when things happen in this world, we will quietly and inaccurately interpret any given event or nonevent. We do this automatically, and for the most part unconsciously, to add to the narrative that is our life story.
But why are we doing it inaccurately? We do it inaccurately because we can only get a solid grasp of our subjective perspective, which isn't necessarily, objective reality. So, imagine two parties communicating with each other, and let's say there is a verbal fight or a falling out of sorts. It means that each person will walk away with a unique interpretation of whatever transpired.
Perhaps one of the individuals is like, "Whew, so-and-so may be having a bad day; I had probably better give them some space." Then maybe the other person says to themself: "So-and-so hates me because of this, this, and that, and I'll never speak to them again!" In this example, the first person uses a "may" and a "be" (or maybe), which gives them lots of room in the defining reality department.
Contrarily, the second person has done some negative mind-reading. They applied this to not only the situation but also the individual. In case you are unfamiliar, mind-reading, in this case, is a cognitive distortion. Many of us would like to fancy that we can mind read, and at times we all successfully do it, to one degree or another. However, we should not become delusional and pretend that we always know what someone else is thinking.
To illustrate some of the dangers in the above example, let us suppose that the person was having a bad day, and they didn't even realize it themselves, so they took it out on their friends, family members, etc. Because one party left the doors of perception open, it gives one or the other room to make good. Whereas if both doors are closed, these two friends or family may never speak to each other again.
The long and the short of it is, we are all imperfect beings, and we probably ought not to be so quick as to levy judgments on those we love. Or, for that matter, people that we hardly know. That's not to say one should randomly go about putting blind trust in folks, as that wouldn't be wise either. However, if you want to bring out the best in others, looking for the worst will sometimes only serve to manifest the worst.
I cannot stress enough how many times reality will serve you exactly what you are looking to find. If you think that people are evil and everyone only looks out for themselves--it means that every time you see someone doing something in their best interest, instead of seeing responsibility, you will observe greed. Instead of seeing a loving man who has a family he is providing for, you will see a wallet-shaped heart, hookers, and blow.
You could be right. But are you right, and should you have made the assumption? Here is what I've noticed about "judgments" and the "isness" of reality. Humanity is a flux. For the most part, we go through the journey of all emotional states. Just try and name a feeling you haven't felt and tell me what it was like living your whole life, having not had those feels? There's a good chance that you can't do that because you've had all the emotions, just like most everyone else has.
When I speak to reality-bending, it's a gift you can give to yourself, and people don't even have to know that you are doing it. All too often, we will define events quietly and to ourselves, and nobody is the wiser. The way we define the various things serves to modulate our heart, will, and emotions.
When you divide your mind against another human being, you invent an adversary where there may not have been one. Now there is controversy; I mean, it's not your fault that so-and-so doesn't like "horror movies," and so, therefore, they "suck" as an individual. Essentially, people have mastered the art of imposing frivolous judgments upon others.
However, we do not realize how we damage our heart, will, and mood when we do this. I'm sure you've heard of the tried and true strategy that is divide and conquer. Divide and conquer is what we do to ourselves when we impose frivolous judgments upon others. What we do, is set people up in opposition to ourselves.
Jane likes the color red. John likes the color blue. Therefore, John is a better person than Jane, and I realize this is an absurd example because most people aren't doing this. However, you'd be surprised at how many ways people tend to divide themselves based on their judgments. That's not to say that all judging is wrong, but many times, it's inconsequential or even meritless.
That said, the more often we withhold inconsequential or even meritless judgments of others, the less divided we are. Being less divided is good for one's heart, will, and mood. If your heart, will, or attitude gets divided against a person, then things and stuff can quickly become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I realize that all of the above got a little long in the tooth for the video I wanted to present today, but I shall share it nonetheless because I think this is a prime example of what reality-bending is not. For whatever reason, there is a trend lately where people want to go against what I will call "consensus reality" and force their delusions upon others.
Somewhere, in some doctor's office in Bumfuck, Idaho, a man asks his health professional to examine his non-existent vagina for gynecological purposes. And this is a perfect example of what reality-bending is not. It is not trying to force others to go against "consensus reality" when the facts and evidence do not support your cause.
Reality-bending is a tool. One whereby you actively choose to define events in such a way where you are not creating adversaries or dividing yourself against the "other." The more "others" you make in your mind, the more alone and unjustly paranoid you will become. What I've described is almost the pinnacle of how people self-sabotage.
So, I will leave you with this video of Paul Watson. He highlights the absurdity of an individual trying to get others to bend to his "new" ethnic reality. Yes, this man was born as a Caucasian Londoner, but now he is ethnically and genetically identifying as Korean because he's a big K-Pop fanatic. Before I even post the video, I should say this; I have nothing against "cultural appropriation."
I think cultural appreciation/appropriation is the fastest way to spread good, diverse, and helpful ideas. And there are downsides too, sometimes harmful elements of culture can get appropriated, and it can promote the negative aspects of a culture.
In this case, it's neither good per se or harmful, just a bit silly. Brother, you can be white and like K-Pop. It's not a big deal. Sheeeeeiiiite, learn to speak Korean if it appeals so much. But this, my god, this is something you did not have to do, but here's the thing, I'm not going to knock him for this because there are many Koreans who will get blepharoplasty eye surgery this year to get rounder looking eyes. And perhaps some of these good people will go on to become Londoners themselves.
I think that many do this because of early programming. For whatever reason; Manhwa, (the Korean version of Manga comics and cartoons) often portrays main characters with monolid eyes. So, in both cases, you have life imitating art, whether it be the K-Pop guy who wants almond-shaped eyes or Manhwa fans that want rounder-looking eyes. Let him be what he is, people, and for goodness' sake, enjoy the ride!
I'd say that one of the single biggest reasons not to create unmeritorious divides against other people, especially strangers that you'll never meet, on topics that are of little importance, is that it makes an "other." These others we invent end up occupying consciousness and soak up our precious awareness mana.
I just put the above man in your head along with that song. It'll be up to you if you can let either go or if you will allow him to set up camp and live rent-free. Guy thinks he's Korean. It's odd but amusing too. I have no ill will towards him. (ツ)_/¯
It doesn't make me happy or sad, I mean, I kind of feel bad for him that he thinks he needs to alter his appearance to rightfully appropriate Korean Pop but most people won't have this problem, so it's whatever. It doesn't compare to the perpetual state of warfare that humankind is doing to one another daily. But how can we fight that? By healing divides, by healing divides one mind at a time!
What say you, do you have any thoughts or ideas on this topic? Would you at some point like to see a (Part II) on Advanced Reality Bending and how it can enhance your experience as you are "being human?" Lettuce know in the comments below!
I'm lettucing you know that I definitely want to see Part II. Loved the video, I've watched his before, not seen this one. You've covered this topic very well and brought up multiple points for consideration.
Perception is subjective and static packaging that locks one into what I describe as box-thinking. It's a self-trap. I'd suggest that it's important to take a good look in the mirror before slinging mud at anyone for their choices.
I'm highlighting one of the many salient points you've brought up; this is a crucial one at the current time, imo:
Very true. I hope it didn't come off like I was slinging mud at the K-Pop guy. Some days I look in the mirror and see a Somalian Pirate. On rare occasions, there's a lesbian trapped in a man's body staring back at me. And other times, I am the smoke creature from lost. I'm pretty sure I am almost all of the things and more. I'm very reality-fluid, but I also don't expect people to recognize, respect, or buy into my B.S. O.L.T. (Belief System, Or Lack Thereof). Reality is a game that we all play.
Box thinking is so harmful, and these younger generations, as fluid as they are in whatever area, often don't realize they can hop into any box they want at any given time. But, they don't have to live there, forever. And this is why it concerns me when so many of today's youths are turning to life-altering, and many times, irreversible surgeries so they can entertain a whim or cave to peer pressure promoted by head-shrinkers.
They're so used to affixing and creating various new labels and then sticking their voodoo doll representations of people inside the boxes they have in their heads. They've let the game of life become a religion unto itself with a dogma so strict that they're willing to cause harm to people if you don't speak to them using the language they've prescribed for you. We live in some very surreal times, and I expect the adventure to keep on adventuring.
As an aside, the K-Pop guy was initially the inspiration for this post, and then it bent and morphed into something about reality-bending, blah, blah, "advanced lessons." I just let the writing do what it did. Then as it approached the end, I remembered the original inspiration and kind of threw him in there along with my thoughts about it.
I gather that the guy will get a lot of ridicule, and considering all the body mods he's undergone this far, I don't think he will quit modifying anytime soon. I hope he finds peace and contentment with his new station in life as a caucasoid male who identifies as Korean. For whatever reason, the absurdity of identity politics does have the ability to hijack people's attention mana. And this post is proof of that.
At some point soon, I'm going to figure how I can completely ignore it. Because honestly, the whole identity politics stuff is a bit played out by now. Thank you for the nice compliment, @nineclaws, and for sharing your observations. They were entirely called for! 😄 I hope my subconscious has already started to suss what part II's focus will be. Creating fewer and fewer divides is only one small aspect of reality-bending. I should probably write out a list and see what's what. Which video again was the one that you loved?
+blessed be thy lettuce!
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Not at all. I find all your writing that I've read to date to be exploring in an open way and you come across (to me) as quite balanced.
This is just it. I'd say it's many games. I'd say the ability to be fluid, adapt as the river shifts is crucial. I think other people's choices are theirs to make and none of my business, unless it causes me harm, which is a different situation.
With regard to all these alterations people make, I've had the thought that there have been steps that have lead to what is currently happening (tattoos, piercings, cosmetic implants, etc).
Identifying with any "box" as being the essence of who a person is, whether it is one's vision of oneself, or that of others creates many issues, to say the least.
I agree with your point:
I think you'll find the next in this series will come together naturally. I appreciate your writing and thoughts a great deal. I like to explore and learn and you definitely offer that in your posts.
There are several I've watched and do from time to time, although I limit my consumption of many things.
Truly and much love! 💜
Both videos you posted.
Interesting post. It can be difficult for me to avoid thinking in divisive terms, not so much in interpersonal conflict with people I know well and love--who I tend to give the benefit of the doubt--but with people out in the world who subscribe to beliefs I find abhorrent. I suppose I do categorize people in my mind, not knowing much about them except for a viewpoint or two that they post on social media. I try to remember that these people are probably not aware of the full implications of their convictions, but even that is a kind of divisiveness. They are brainwashed and ignorant, while I am intelligent and informed.
Actually, lately, the lines have blurred a bit on this. I've had friends (or people I thought were friends) treat me badly because of philosophical disagreements on things like masks and vaccines and whether the Great Reset is a real thing. I don't wish to be divided from them, but they kind of make it hard not to be with their "conform to my beliefs or else" mentalities.
Bring on Part II! I'd like to hear more about how to accomplish "reality bending" especially when it seems the other person is committed to divisive thinking.
Hi there @lesliestarrohara, thanks for your thoughtful comment. I think I comprehend what you are saying. With the advent of the "COVID" induced (not-so) great reset and the "new tolerance," there are types of individuals who have become very dogmatic and rabid in their ways. So let me give you an idea about how you might internally narrate to cut these people some slack. When I say, "cut them some slack," this also frees you up to judge them differently.
Imagine these people are in a cult and that they've already imbibed the kool-aid, but the kool-aid may or may not harm them—only time will tell. We don't know how much time we have left with these people, and they cannot help their mental condition or the fact that they've gotten tricked into taking an experimental substance into their bloodstream. That said, it's best to be compassionate, cherish the time you do have left with them. And if they refuse to be around you because you haven't gotten vaccinated, tell them that you understand, and you will still love them from afar.
That isn't to say that these people will die. I've heard many stories that some people are getting injected with saline solution instead of the vaccine. Now that could because of white hats in government or because they can't kill everyone at once without giving up the game. After some distance and time, they'll come to their senses if they're still part of the census. On the off-chance time is short, then love and compassion are all we should offer because we'll surely regret it later if we ended things on a sour note. We cannot control how they see us, but we can control how we see them.
If we show that we still love them and that we will continue to love them from afar, even after they've harshly judged us, perhaps they'll do the same. That's just one of many examples of how one could tweak the narrative for a less negative result. Part II is out now, and I'll warn you upfront that it's not for everyone. The topic is a radically different way to view consciousness. Aside from the text in the post after about 15 minutes into the video; That should thoroughly explain the concept. However, if it doesn't, the video goes on for longer. I hope this is something that can help you. Thanks again for stopping by, reading the post, and sharing your thoughts!
Very entertaining, although what he describes
seems like a different kind of exercise entirely.
This one is more about accepting the fact that
we cannot access the objective truth of reality
and so we can slightly modify our narratives in
such a way that's less self-sabotaging and more
helpful. If we're going to be wrong about certain
things regardless, we may as well adjust the
narrative into a more positive light. So as we
interpret reality on the fly knowing it won't
be objectively true, we can feel free to tweak
them slightly but enough so they don't end
up becoming a demotivational force to us. I
feel bad about his take on vaccines though.
These COVID-19 ones have no safety data to
back them up. Hopefully he and his loved
ones can avoid the heart inflammation or
other surprises that sometimes happens.
could, I'd show him this info right here.
It is probably too late by now though. Thanks for sharing, @logiczombie! Iffin I
unfortunately, even the "reason.com" brainiacs can't seem to think their way out of a wet paper bag half the time.
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