Except for people who were born with everything they need and wanted and had a secured future, everyone at one point in time had wished they were born under different circumstances, this wish is probably more driven by materialism and the desire to feel deserving of more.
There's a way life treats people unfairly despite how resilient they are. You know, the difficulties that come with starting from humble beginnings, having no connections or inheritance. In my case, it was a different regret. I was fighting everything listed above, on top of a fragile health anatomy.
Fighting & Losing The Money Game
Sometimes, the hunger and desire are there to fight the gnawing hands of poverty, but this hunger is only driven by the mind and the body is sadly too weak to carry out the desires of the mind. I'm someone who has thrived through my fears, my fears have made me very proactive. This is why I take more time to think than act.
So many people believe I am slow-witted. This is true, although this resonated from my health issues, over the years, I've learned how to turn my slow-wittedness into an advantage. We live in a world where people prefer speed more than results. Since life is competitive, many people are trying to outrun the competition in other to be the first partakers of the biggest treasures of the world, so naturally, it's difficult for anyone who is slow to be competitive, but my slowness isn't entirely a weakness
Procrastination Might Achieve Detail & Precision
In moments where I'm procrastination about a big decision, it's either I'm weighing the cost of reward over the consequences or, I'm trying to see if the advantages outweigh the disadvantages with even the smallest margin. This is because I want each of my actions to be intentional, because of my fear of consequences, my planning is always precise, detailed, and apt to the letter.
This is why I mostly work on my first-choice plans, so much so that my second or third plans would just be there to fill gaps or spaces. I wouldn't say I don't wish to be born under different circumstances, I just feel that wishing for things one cannot have creates bigger regrets and one thing regrets does to people is take away their ability to fight for something different in life.
The Aim To Control Regret & Unaccomplishment
However, we cannot control regret, we unknowingly slip into it especially when we've been plagued by the sense or feeling of loss. Health and wealth are two things we're all fighting for in life. It's ironic that in this modern day, some people are giving off the former to achieve the latter, and later, they'll give off the one they've achieved to get the one they initially lost.
This only means that we risk health because of wealth, in the process, we might become really sick and unable to compete, then begin to wish we can exchange all that wealth to be healthy again. At the base core of human existence, health might be naturally given, but because we need to live.... thrive, and enjoy the classy things of life, we choose to risk that which we have to get what we want.
Life's Biggest Opportunity Cost
Sometimes the struggles of man are illogical and brainless, but we still dive into them because of the need to attain the peak of comfort and affordability. Now, Some people are already wealthy by virtue of birth, of course, people are not born to compete, they were born to enjoy the dividends of hard work, via the status of being heirs to an avalanche of wealth, they'll know no struggle till they die because someone has worked hard to set up the life they're going to enjoy.
Being the recipient of sacrifice is what we mostly crave and in my case, making sacrifices requires intentionality and selflessness, and the fear of consequences. I use my life as a case study. I was a product of people who never understood selflessness and sacrifice.
Money & The Ultimate Life Sacrifices
It resonated in everything they did especially in the aspect of finance. This is exactly why I swore to live a life of sacrifice for others because I have come to understand that no one deserves to start life from a position more terrible than ground zero. Now we all have at one point in time, imagine being affiliated with accomplished people. One of the reasons why we do this is because of the frustration of being at ground zero by default.
It's hard to begin to imagine the unfairness of life because what we might eventually achieve is self-pity. I was telling someone that I do not let my sadness graduate to self-pity, because that is an abyss that's difficult to get out from. However, I know it's difficult to enjoy life when the essence or means to do so is not completely there.
Everything Is Money-driven
A lot of people tie their happiness to money and this is because the world has become more money-driven. Even something as priceless as love is now money-driven, and some of the basic things we take solace in are now money-driven, so, without the power of means, there's this meaninglessness to life.
When people hit this core in life, they'll begin to understand how difficult it is to take solace in life. As for me, I take my time to enjoy my life to some extent. (I think everyone should) I have some of the most intentional and true people in my life, (I expunge those who are not) and we do not need to have too much to enjoy life.
Appreciation Is All
Sometimes, I'm grateful for these people, because we have been winning together, having them is an accomplishment. They're the connections I value, the non-monetary assets that can be completely priceless. Sometimes, we pay attention to money, when people are the real gem.
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A concise personal reflection here. My response..
Apart from your health challenges which am really sorry about, you are in good company with me. My beginning was so humble that I had to attended afternoon primary school, so that I could hawk during morning hours. I had to sell in the same school compound where I attend(school I, mine is school II). So you can get a little glimpse of how it began for me. It was a terribly rough path up.
Hahahaha, my story in this regard is huge. But I take a positive from it. I now display these traits of sacrifice and selflessness because I really suffered for not being a recipient of these very rare qualities.
Health and health are two parallel lines that must converge somewhere. Where they will converge is indeed a dilemma for many. But if we are a little conscious and hope our efforts make things fall into place, we are able to balance them sooner than later.
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Wow that must have been really defining for you... I mean I was even beginning to imagine how it felt attending the same school where you normally sell. It feels so surreal and wow, what an experience. In my own situation, sometimes I feel too overwheled to even go into details. I wasn't just in lack but I was also fighting to stay alive to fight the lack. It wasn't something I cherished, it toughened me in all aspects of life.
I think this is probably the reason why we're now living a life that would entail sacrificing so others can at least enjoy the dividends of the efforts we've left them. It is safe to say that if I have kids, it'll be totally different with them.
Balance is Indeed the ultimate thing. I do feel that sometimes, not a lot of people achieve this balance because they lose out along the way. It's crazy to see the things we're willing to sacrifice in other to make money. It's really crazy.
Thanks for the detailed reply.
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Its not really easy what we have passed through, I think it made us build and sustain the kind of personality needed for life. And striving each day to achieve balance will remain an ongoing effort. Thanks for all you do to support me and many others. Isn't that what life should all about?
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Well to my capacity, I hope to do the best I can now. The world doesn't need the generation of unsacrificial people anymore. I believe we're now in that era where everyone should collectively win.
You're welcome, it's nothing, the chain, is growing, and you're here. It's important for people like me to help you enjoy the process of being here.
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I think even people who are born with everything they need at one point yearn for a normal life. Mostly because of other priceless things like freedom to live how they want and make their choices. It’s no hidden secret most of these people born into wealthy families already have their lives planned for them: what schools they’ll attend, who they’ll marry, inheriting the family business. In most cases, there’s nothing they can do about it even if the choices thrusted upon them are not what they want.
So in a way, whether you were born rich or poor, you’ll always want something. Some of the rich yearn for priceless things like health, family, and peace of mind- things that can be available for the poor. But the poor feel incomplete without the money that can’t help the rich in this regard. It is simply human nature. We’re insatiable and no amount of wealth or health will ever satisfy us.
It’s best to enjoy life in out own little ways because problem really never dey finish. Lol.
Hello man, thanks for coming through. That's one angle to look at it, and you're ultimately right. However, I was writing from the POV of people who had nothing and wished they could swap that life for even a little bit of connection to ease their burden and struggle. In reality, people who have been through the ringer would have no problem with their life being planned for them provided it entailed giving them what they need to survive. Although when they have it all, they'll begin to miss the Freedom of choice they had. In all sincerity, life struggles can be meaningless, yet we still fight at the slightest of everything.
Ahh you’re absolutely right. My mind just wandered off into a bit of thinking in another pov. I like the way you examine life based on your experience, man. Good stuff.
However, I totally understand it from your point of view. The truth is that our anatomy as people is very complex, we cannot even begin to decipher ourselves.
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Well, at the end I don’t think we can have it all. We strive and strive just to leave it all and go. But will we say because we will leave it all and go then we won’t strive to make a living ?
I will be lying if I said I’ve never had the thought of being born to a different family( that was when I was little) but as we grow a and evolve we begin to accept what we have been given cause those are the best things for us.
I’ve never been really interested in this competition or even being the best of them all, all I am interested in is to be content with what I have cause at the end of the day there will always be someone who is better than you.
Contentment is a big part of everything, at the end of the day you might end up being jealous of someone who you shouldn’t be jealous of in the first place just because you aren’t content.
Yes I think I did mention this. most of the times we tried for things that wouldn't really last forever, risking it all in order to have these things. But that is Human nature. Because we fear that these things might not be enough for us to live life and enjoy, we keep striving and putting a lot of things at risk in order to reach the peak of comfort and satisfaction, at least to some extent, and for some people.
There's no one who wouldn't have thought about being born under different circumstances. However the way it disappears for people while they grow up is still remains with some people who still suffers a lot even as adults.
Even contentment is a position that we do not completely succumb to no matter how far we strive to get it. However we keep fighting to achieve a balance where we take minimal risks that wouldn't really compromise our position.
Thanks for your fine comment.
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Hmmm being content with what you have does depend on what you have and how far you have gone in life. You can’t be broke or just living life as it comes and be content. Lol.
But as you clearly stated we cannot be satisfied until we loose what was given to us freely which is our health.
Being slow to adapt to the latest thing can be an advantage quite often as the newest thing or method isn't always the best. Tried and tested can be a better strategy to follow I think.
I think the Buddhist philosophy says we are all here for our own purpose. Whether that is karma from a previous life or just our current purpose, maybe we need to learn something.
Yeah, generally being slow can be seen and associated with a huge disadvantage, but overtime I've come to learn that speed has its own disadvantages too. So, there's probably advantages to all disadvantages and vice versa I guess..
You really have a deep thoughts..
This is really true, originally we really have the best perfect health but because of our desires, because of having no self control, we are loosing our health slowly.
We live a life of risk on a daily. The aim is always money, the ultimate sacrifice for making money because we cannot live without the accomplishment of money. Thanks for the comments.
I can describe myself as slow in decision making but when I do make that decision it is most likely final and a better one than a hasty decision.
I had a boss that changes his mind on a subject up to 3 times, it was sometimes annoying, and I think that was a result of acting in haste.
We get it all wrong when all we focus on in human relationships is money, the real value lies within the human connection.
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I think sometimes I even look at my own situation, and it even feels terrible than I assume it to be. However I look at the qualities of being like this and I feel that there is nothing wrong with being slow witted. Sometimes we can feel the indecisiveness in our actions, just like your boss. But we can always turn some failings to advantages.
As you have said, the real connection is with people and over the years I am grateful for how many people have come to meet and how I've come to build with them.. I value people for their priceless endeavors in my life.
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Omo...I have wished for this several times at some points in my life. The struggle is real.. starting from scratch isn't funny. Like before achieving any single thing, it's always by struggle, not even a good connection to help ease the struggle...now tell me, how will my poor dad and my mum who is a trader have a connection that will make life easier for me if not by God's grace and favour...
But I see others , living soft life due to how their parents made things easier for them.
Well, I accept it to be destiny...
All I ask from God is a sound health for us.. and the grace to work hard, plus his blessings so that our children wouldn't thirst the hard life we have been facing.
I think the older generation..... many of them never really did well to establish any sort of connection or better ground for their children or ward. It's absolutely difficult to start from ground zero like you have said. However it is even unbelievable to see that most of all started from there. When it was toughest for us this is when we actually hoped that things were different for us.
Like you said, we now have the opportunity to do better for the next generation. This is already showcasing in the plans you are making for your kids. We hope for the fortitude to continue..
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Money is just something we can't avoid because we use it daily in our lives and it makes me wonder sometimes whether or not money should make you ruin your health. The biggest example I see is Nikocado Avacado because he has ruined his health by eating so much for the money. I would never do that because I would be fine so long as my financial needs are covered. I don't need more than that.
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Money can make people ruin their health. I don't know about Nickado, but I can point to you some TikTok muckbangers who eat anything crazy just to get views on their video and attain popularity. I think it's until we're on the brink of losing that health, that's when we begin to appreciate it.
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this is the kind of late night thoughts I would have sometimes, at the end of the day, we all just want what we don't have.
Yeah, at the end of the day, we just want to have the things we don't have. As for the late night thoughts, it's often a personal reflection of what we have and don't have as well.
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Cuidar de nuestro salud, lo más importante, es lo único que debemos hacer.
At the end of the day, you can only work with what you have at your disposal and make the best out of it. Being "slow witted" is only on the assumption that someone is faster witted than you but I think differently.
I think your thinking speed is yours and only yours. It's neither slow, nor fast, it is yours and nothing else matters. Especially not what people think, fuck people
In reality, everything we are, including our weaknesses, all work together to create the individuals that we are today. Embracing this weakness, like you've done and turning it into a strength is the only way to go.
Sometimes when I look at the past and how rough things were for me is still like magic how I make it this far, we must learn to give thanks in any situations because sometimes it pains me that that I have health issues but it is God's plan sha
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This is true, I think I've been able to make it this far as well and I don't know how God did it. I'm always in awe and appreciate to God. He always finds a way. It's always like magic to me too bro.
Great post u have there.
You made me see myself in your post especially the part where you spoke about procrastination