I always liked the joy that giving gifts offers me. I love to receive of course, but there is something magical when you give back to someone else.If you have put your soul into the gift rather than handing out a paycheck or buying something You would like (we have all been there...) then you will feel the other person's real happiness. A gift is a sign that someone cares. I love to give small attentions in mundane days. In ordinary days. When nobody would see it coming. I see no reason why we should just conform and show affection only on birthdays and Christmas.
My last three years of my life have been pretty loaded when it came to relationships. Maybe other women who would have gone through what I did would have chosen to forever hate men and think that they are all little pigs. I have worked a lot on my mindset in order to be able to see past my experiences and not become bitter. I find it sad when women or men take a bad experience and use it to redefine their whole perspective on reality. Life is so much more than one sour apple. Since I became single again I have changed my attitude and redefined who I am.
I started to take much better care of myself and love my whole being more. Doing this has only allowed to fill my cup and be capable of giving back love even more. You can't give what you do not have and this is why many people are not willing to be compassionate and loving toward others: they do not give love to themselves, how could they give to others? Starting from praying, meditation, relaxing walks in nature, reading and painting, I have found a new inner me, a even stronger version after my heart was broken. The united pieces are even stronger now. Who would have thought ? The human spirit is always a warrior and even after the worst experiences a strong soul can pick itself up and dust itself off and start again. I know my worth now and I am not giving discounts anymore. And damn this is powerful! Only from this place of strenght one can give love and be serene about any outcomes.
I discovered the joy of massage. Working in the beautry industry and painting detailed art for years has put my back and neck to the test. So for a while I pampered myself with nice massage sessions. I will continue to do so because it feels so good. For those who are into massage you know what I mean. It feels amazing.
I admire the guy who takes care of my back. I was pleasantly surprised to see that he is a book worm just like me. It is not so common to find someone into books in beauty salons. He wants to be more than a masseur and he is pursuing studies in order to advance professionaly. This is admirable and it shows that at any point in life, no matter how old you are, you can change your life and your mindset and strive for the best. What I noticed is that he loves flowers and he is a plant fanatic. Just like me. So I could not help but think that he would love a little gift from me which would imply...Plants #succulent
So I have decided to give him a baby aloe from my own plant nursery and paint a pottery piece especially for that. I bought a simple pot and decided to go for warm colors: green, yellow, red.
I felt so happy to be able to do a nice gesture toward someone who was also nice to me. It is not relevant that he is a stranger , I believe that we put censorship on our heart when we think that only loved ones deserve gifts. I think that more people would have their faith in humanity restored if they would allow themselves to be generous and do as their heart feels.
I started with some layers of yellow and green.
I decided to paint some more flowers and make this a very floral item.
Of course that I had to add some little dots. I could not contain myself.
I gave him all the care instructions and told him that I will check on my baby to see the progress lol. Everytime when I give a plant from my collection I feel like I give a baby therefore I really have to make sure it goes on the right hands.
He really loved the gift and I could tell he was not used with receiving. Often we can't take in the good we get because we are not used to receive . I feel that the world needs more gestures of love toward random people. Love is not something that diminishes if you give it away, on the contrary, it multiplies.
A short clip of the final pottery piece
Phone photos during the process
Give some love and some smiles today. At random. Without expectations. You'll feel so much better and it will barely cost you anything than your time and intention.
Have a blessed day and toodle loo!
You don't know how much value you add to a person's life with what you write, seems a lot straight forward and normal but reading this made me feel a certain calmness accompanied by eye opener.
A lot of us have gone through experiences, bad ones are always hard to forget even though we sometimes neglect the good ones. It's hard to move on, especially when you've given your all. But I'm glad you were able to clarify that it's not because of one person you'll chose to generally classify everyone. They're a lot of amazing people out there sometimes we're just not lucky enough to meet them firsthand, or we just had to meet the bad ones so that we'll be more insightful enough to appreciate the good ones.
I got my mindset changed just now, we don't always have to wait until special occasions to show love or gift someone. As long as it's coming from your heart and you feel that person deserves it then it's a welcome development. I'll try to live like that from now on and see how well my life changes. Giving is a blessing, most times we fail to understand that. It not only put smiles on the faces of others but but you also put smiles in their heart. Nothing beats that.
The pot is really lovely, and I could see that it came with a lot of love.
Keep blessing others as much as you can.. it'll help you heal faster
Thanks for sharing ❤️
Hello! What a beautiful comment, thank you so much! If at least one person is touched and feels a change in their heart because of my writing then I am happy.
It took me a long time to learn how to let go of expectations and in the same time create healthy boundaries. We deserve the very best and yet it is better to give without expecting the same in return. Usually what is meant to happen happens, no matter how much you do or do not do.
Keep blessing others as much as you can.. it'll help you heal faster
This was such a great thing to say! I am on a healing journey and my biggest challenge was to allow myself to be vulnerable without letting go of my power. I think that this is a little step and I am happy that I did it. Vulnerability can be a strenght if channeled right
Thank you for stopping by!🤗
You're on the right path, that's the best kind of happiness you deserve. To know that you can touch others lives in one way or the other. It's beautiful, it's what most of us live for and I'm glad I stumbled on this post.
I learnt that too, I stopped keeping my hopes up and expecting too much from people, afterall we're all humans and humans always fail eventually, so why be so expectant?. I'm really sorry you had to learn that the hard way.
I love that line, We deserve the very best and yet it is better to give without expecting the same in return, and agree totally with you!
The bible prompted us to give without expecting anything in return. I didn't actually see an sense in that until I tried it, it works, and always try to give from your heart, something magical always happens every time. What is meant to be will be for sure.
I see you healing a lot faster than you expect. I'm glad you're positive and strong enough to move on. Keep moving forward there's no turning back now.
No..Thank you for this amazing post @creativemary
Thanks so much! A lesson learned later is better than no lesson learned. Pain teaches us stuff . I have tracked the ego as being the main source of issues. Freeing oneself of the ego is a lifelong mission. When you are free of expectations then you are free
Hugs from Romania 🤗🤗
True, we'll have to let go of some of our ego if not all, it makes us take some drastic decisions that we'll end up regretting. I'm glad others can learn from you my dear.
How's romania this time??
Sorry for the late reply 🥺
Romania is good, we have such a warm weather during this time , which is quite unusual. I enjoy it very much though, it feels like spring
I guess the weather now has a mind of it's own, lol. Atleast it's enjoyable, would have been bad if it was discomforting
I lvoe this so much. That understanding is how I met the love of my life after quite a few sour apples! Now I have the sweetest, crunchiest, yummiest apple.
That's so sweet of you to make that gift. I think you probably made his whole week. xx
I smiled oh girl I am super happy that you have met your crunchy juicy apple.
I will always believe in love, in its power to heal a broken heart. No matter how many cuts a heart has it will always heal under the light of forgiveness and faith. I strongly believe this wholeheartedly.
I would love to know your lovestory, I am a sucker for this kind of stuff lol. Maybe someday you will write a post, I think you would empower so many women who have suffered to heal and restore their faith in love. We need more happy women to share how they have met their crunchy apple hihi
I do hope I have made his week, I know from my own experience how nice it feels for a human to receive love from a stranger. Without any expectations and completely spontaneous. We are so busy living and filling our lives with so many activities that often we forget about the power of small gestures. This is why I feel that overcompensating on birthdays and holidays is not enough. We should not be stingy and we can show love daily in small forms.
Thanks so much for reading this🤗😘
As for me, the painting is so beautiful and catchy. And yes! I do agree that there is so much joy and happiness when you can give something for anyone.
Hey! Thank you very much, it is super colorful indeed and the color scheme works so well with the plant. I like giving. If you have no expectations it is even better. I appreciate you stopping by!
You are such a beautiful soul. I truly enjoy every time I stop by here to visit.
This is what I was just speaking about. I was raised in a way that contributed to me expecting things and vice versa I thought others always expected me to give. I didn’t attend events unless I had a gift in hand because it’s how I was raised. A lot of times it wasn’t a joyful giving because I felt obligated. It’s better we give with a cheerful heart. I’ve learned so many lessons and it’s something I still struggle with today (feeling like I must have a gift before entrance instead of realizing my presence and support is enough).
I love giving just because gifts and do so year round. I agree we shouldn’t have to wait for special occasions or holidays just to give.
You painted the vase so bright and lovely. That was such a kind gesture of you to personalize his potted plant. I definitely understand what you mean, some of my best given gifts have been my handmade crocheted ones and I know this by the recipients reaction and response. When you customize a gift that’s tailored specifically for someone that screams care and love for a thousand miles. It makes someone feel so warm, thought of and special.
Whoo Hoo and Whoa! I got the chills reading this powerful statement! Yes, yes and Amen! I am so happy seeing you are taking care of yourself and that you know your worth. You are such a joy to read and a beautiful light of inspiration ~ ♥️
Awwww your comment melts my heart, you're so sweet!
I can relate so much with what you have said. Giving out of obligation is a frustration making machine. I have now realized that we often do that because, as you have pointed it out, we believe that we are not enough. That we have to bedazzle our presence. I felt that a lot. And then people feel that you feel that and treat you accordingly by not giving the love you expect .
I think that the source of this scarcity feeling came from childhood, when often as children we felt we are not enough, that we have to do something to earn love. At least this is what I think it was my case. And it took me years to realize this .
If someone does not appreciate your presence.....well that screams loud and clear: you don't belong there and you should politely get yourself out of that circumstance. Nowadays I am so attentive to details that if I talk face to face to someone and that person checks on their phone repeatedly I am out. I politely leave knowing that it is not worth the time. Without self confidence and knowing that you are enough, no one could do this and feel no frustration.
I think that all people have a secret journey and it is wonderful to be able to give them love and be ok with the way they know how to receive it. People act according to their level of conscioussness, I now feel that I can't blame anyone for not knowing how to give or receive. God knows I have been on both sides.
The art of living in the present is a constant work. I strive to make progress and work on myself daily and analyse my own behaviour. In this lies the secret to inner peace as we can't control others.
Women are powerful creatures. So are men. It is easy to be broken and hurt others, it is the hardest challenge to regain power and choose to be good and forgive your tormentors.
All of these lessons came from God, I was only there to learn them.
I truly appreciate you stopped by! Hugs🤗🤗
Likewise, I think you are such a sweet and kindhearted person. 😊
I agree! It’s not worth being around anyone who doesn’t appreciate or accepts your presence as enough.
This is true on so many different levels. I’ve had to train my brain to stay in the present.
I am truly grateful for all of the lessons and wisdom I have gained from going through my personal trials and tribulations. I have grown to be able to appreciate and thank God for the good and even the not so good. It’s through the not so good that I have become the stronger woman that I am today.
It’s always such a pleasure chatting with you ~ ☺️🤗
Same here, we women can empower each other so much through our stories! 🤗🤗
Absolutely!! 😘
Same here. I also love to give my hand-made cards or flower frames to my friends. I love to see their face lit up with happiness when they saw the gifts from me. It is beautiful.
Wow so beautiful! Oh this makes me remember childhood when at school they have made us make cards for our moms on Mother's day.
I like pressed flowers , their texture and smell.
Thank you. I didnt have a chance to do it when i was small. Somehow this was not an activity back then. But now I am in love with it
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Aww thanks🤗
Random gifts at random times are the best kind to give, and receive. It's like receiving a random hand written letter nowadays. In a world with emails and texts, a hand written letter goes a long way to make a person feel special. I like the pot that you painted. It looks really great!
Now you have made me think about the last time I have wrote a hand written letter to someone. It has been a while. I love to write on the first cover of the books I give as gifts, I even put the month and the year and write a cute declaration. I think that years from now it will be nice to open that book and remember....
I actually have a sort of nostalgy when it comes to letters. I often wanted to exchange with someone letters but few modern men even engage in such a thing. It is considered cheesy or just not modern. I find it romantic and beautiful....
With technology one can send a message and see the data is on. It gives the illusion that the person is an easy reach. It is impersonal. I prefer face to face interactions rather than a meme or a voice message. It feels more genuine.
In a letter you know that the person poured their heart out, that they have taken the time to write....I remember spritzing perfume on the hand written letters I have given to men in the past. Cheesy maybe, but if I would have the occasion today I would do it all over again.
I would find a man who is willing to write love letters in 2021 as a freaking awesome person. It is rare.
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