First of all, I hope you are doing better.
A thousand thanks for your time... yes, in our cases it took us perhaps a little longer to manage the process of "family relocation", and to blame all our internal conflicts on our parents would not be totally fair.
In my case I had two serious problems that I did not know how to recognize until today: affective need and affective dependence.
These are terms I may have just made up but I think it feels that way.
You didn't want to know what happened, and I was looking for reasons all my life until I went to live alone, and my mother understood that she needed me more than she was able to imagine... that's life.
I think we have the right to rant and to free ourselves from painful things, and more so now that I can understand them at a good distance temporarily and a little better, without needing to go see a psychologist or a psychiatrist...by the way my mom hated them, I suggested to her a few times to go so she could free herself from some things but she told me that was not necessary...maybe people before didn't externalize much and they got used to live like that.
Your comments are always very welcome here and you know it, even if you don't believe it, they help us to know each other and others to understand.
Hugs.
El traductor es una...😅
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