“It's not given to people to judge what's right or wrong. People have eternally been mistaken and will be mistaken, and in nothing more than in what they consider right and wrong." - Leo Tolstoy, War and Peace.
I've lost count of how many times I've been wrong; not because I can't count, I have ten toes and ten fingers so at least twenty is within my ability! More that I've been wrong on so many occasions it's simply impossible to determine an exact figure. A million? Yeah it could well be that much indeed!
My parents began instilling the fail often ethos into me as a young child; they didn't sit me down and tell me about it though, they simply allowed me to explore myself, abilities and life itself without limitations. I received the, don't touch that it's hot, line of course but I wasn't told to colour inside the lines, to draw or make things that made sense or made to feel that failing was a bad thing. Fail often was instilled in me and from a young age I developed that aspect of my personality.
My dad used to say that failure brought me closer to being the right person to achieve and accept success and he was right. I've failed often, achieved great success often and, most importantly, never been one to shy away from something due to it being a potential failure, challenging or confronting. The fail often ethos has also helped me look differently at things: It's helped me to strategize and plan, set goals, check-measures and counter-measures plus brought the ability to pivot quickly, to accept new realities and be flexible to change. In short, failing often has helped me succeed more.
Today's random track
This is the track that started playing this morning when I woke and hit random play on my liked songs playlist; as the music broke the silence I thought about right and wrong and was thankful I've found both over the years. original im src
The song was written by Kane Brown [and others] and recorded with the bucket-headed DJ Marshmello. It was written in reference to Brown's ofttimes wayward past being tempered through the love of his wife, Katelyn Jae, whom he married in 2018. I really enjoy the song from a musical aspect and the message also as I can relate to the words. Life is full of wrong turns, failures and disappointments, but then along comes Supergirl and...One thing right. I get it. I get it and am thankful.
The video is really cool and stars Kane Brown himself, along with Marshmello and Nova Chez as the love interest of the bucket-headed one; who can resist a movie-style video clip? And that Chevelle SS? Mmm legit! The video reminds me of the good old days running fast, pedal to the floor in a muscle car, engine revving hard and a bunch of cop cars in hot pursuit; that feeling of ultimate success when one loses them. Good times. Good times. 😉
Running with the wrong crowd on the wrong nights
I've been wrong about a million times
But I got one thing right
You
I don't think anyone really loves being wrong, failing. It's something we have to accept though and if one sees the benefits, that it helps us move a little closer to the success we're seeking, then failure and being wrong takes on a whole other meaning. We're all fallible, somewhat broken and certainly imperfect human beings and that's exactly how it's meant to be. I'm ok with it mostly; as long as I'm chasing my best version I'm ok.
Have a great Sunday folks, go be wrong at something, or right. Just get after it with passion and design and create your life the way you wish it to look.
Design and create your ideal life, don't live it by default - Tomorrow isn't promised so be humble and kind
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It’s really nice that you were allowed to explore your independence when you were younger without giving you the idea of being perfect. I hope parents learn that.
It was a nice way to grow up; don't think I didn't get told though because I did...It's just that they helped me explore with their guidance rather than direct me where to go. I htink I turned out ok. Mostly.
Thanks for commenting.
That’s nice to hear. God bless your parents. Have a great day today
Unfortunately they are both gone now, but I carry them with me in my actions, attitudes and ethos, so they live on. Thanks and have a great Sunday also.
Sorry to hear that.
We'll all go that way, it's inevitable and is why I live the best version of my life I possible can. :)
Thank you, they are no longer suffering, which they were at the end, so it's ok. They're not where they once were, but now they're everywhere I go because I carry their memories with me.
This just touched me. Giving me a different perspective. Well I need to cherish my parents better now and try to do better as their child.
Child what the ever loving hell have you been doing XD
Generally accurate. I spent a very long time (mostly during the 4 odd years I spent doing a couple of uni courses) realising that this was okay, and as an older adult now there are quite a few things I am happy to be wrong about x_x
And also I guess there has to be a stage where you just kind of have to deal with it right XD
Just jokes...Or is it?
One simply can't be right all the time and I tend not to respond well to those who insist they are.
Well said.
Thank you for commenting and reading my post in the first place.
Don’t mention it bro. I’m on a road to self improvement so reading and learning from others is one way I do that. I do learn from trying and making my own mistakes but I find that I also learn a lot from the mistakes of others. Whether it is from the advice they give as a result of the lessons they’ve learned themselves or seeing the glaring mistakes they are currently making and learning to avoid them myself in the future.
There's no shame or harm to come from looking at what others have done, success, failure and their attitudes and mindset, learning from it and determining what aspects are relevant to our own lives; what may work or not. I think to do so is actually quite smart as often the answers for the future can be found in the past.
Agreed bro. My journey will take me to your blog from time to time so thanks for validating my process. I appreciate the work that you are doing especially with the weekend engagement topics.
Thank you bearmol I appreciate your kind words.
Taking notes....learning from the best self-improvement guide on hive😅
Lol...I hope you have a lot of ink in that pen!
I have blockchain...
My father was born with 6 fingers on his left hand. In his youth, an extra finger was cut off.
I wanted to say that men still have 21 fingers!
"A person learns from mistakes, but only a fool learns from his own" - folk wisdom.
A person must fill bumps on his way to understand whether it is good or bad, but sometimes you need to listen to those who have already passed this path.
If only I had six fingers on one had back at school I might not have been as bad at mathematics as I was as I would have been able to count one number higher!
I must be a fool because I've learned from many of my own mistakes over the course of my life. Some I've only made once and a few a puppet times - Sometimes lessons take a while to settle in I guess.
I certainly contemplate wisdom others have gained, and the lessons they learned, and determine their relevance to my own life. I think it's smart to do so.
Basically, we all learn from our mistakes, not believing in the wisdom of our elders.
but even you cited the statement of Leo Tolstoy! So you have learned the wisdom of your ancestors.
Oh, how many mistakes I have made in my life. Oh, how many times I thought that I would not make a mistake and do the same as they did before me, but they warned us that it was a mistake. 😂
And may the force be with us! 💪
Yes, the force can help...I hope, otherwise I'm in big trouble! Lol.
Nostalgia for the old days? ;)
Ha-ha.
I'm 52. But I think we should look ahead. Of course, I also remember the past, it constantly follows me in my thoughts.
My youth was not righteous. But I don't regret anything. And the music of the 70s-80s-90s makes me think about my youth.
There were good times. 😂😂😂
I have a forward-focus in life but also look behind me for some of the answers to the present and, therefore, the future.
You are truly fortunate to have no regrets; I'll admit I have never heard of, nor met, someone with no regrets before today. You must have lived a truly unique and wondrous life.
Lol, you are always in such a funny mood, or just sometimes?
It's uplifting to read your post, and especially replies to others comment on a boring day.
Thankyou😇
Haha, mostly. I'm pretty affable mostly and rarely would I ever show myself to be anything but that on hive. Sometimes people's comments drive me bonkers but I have to remind myself that everyone can have an opinion and most often the language barrier can mean things get lost in translation. I was being a little sarcastic with this one but I knew what the user meant. I like to have some fun and being Australian means sarcasm comes easily.
Hopefully they are not mine😛
As, sometimes I get lost while writing, and end up writing really long comments.
True for me. That's why I often use gifs...but I don't know well that many people.
Once I commented on a post of well known author here. He couldn't understand what I was trying to say, as he has written 4-5k words, and tried to be funny with the post/create a funny post, I don't know.
I commented on it using a little bit of sarcasm, and gifs.
Lol, at least I didn't get downvoted to death because of that little misunderstanding.
From that point on, I try to keep fun and sarcasm out of here. At least, till I really get to know people. Other wise I love sarcasm😅
Nah bro, not you...Mostly. [kidding]
Sarcasm can be difficult to deploy in the written and spoken word both. So many don't value it. Here though I tend to be a bit more relaxed and will use it in certain circumstances with specific people I know will see it for what it is. One needs to be careful though of course as misunderstandings can occur.
Your comments are ok, long sometimes, but sometimes we have a lot to say right?
Yepp, thanks😀
bro!
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Fail early, fail often. And, don't stop failing till you get there!
That's the theme of the post, yeah.
Lol, the agony I have felt in the past for being wrong...the number of times I have embarrassed myself, I can't even remember.
It's not just being wrong, but repeating the same behaviour that was painful.
Over time, I have realized that making small bets, being wrong in the small thing, and feeling embarassment in a small way is a better way to learn. Can't fully avoid big failures and embarassments but can try failing small first, if at all, and learning from it.
Lol, maybe I didn't learnt that failing and feeling embarrassed for our behavior later is a part of human behavior. Would have felt less frustrated😅
Sometimes lessons take time to be learned; we need to be the right person to take on the lesson and if we are too young or not emotionally ready for that lesson then we often have to learn it multiple times. It's ok, we're all this way at some stage at life, it's not reserved just for the young.
ehh, do you still cringe about the small things that you did in your 20s, and someday, randomly remember😅
Sometimes, I am just sitting thinking about something, or watching something, and randomly remember something from my past, and ahhhhh....can't believe that I was that stupid😖
Hopefully, I will get over those cringy moments with time😅
Some of the things from my 20's plague me, keep me up at night and cause me no end of troubles...I did some good things too though.
This happens to me all the time; I've done some dumb things.
You'll get over them, learn from them and do things different. You will probably also still do dumb things. I do.
YES...😂
Lucky you, I would have loved that if I was allowed to follow my passion. I had to make a few comprises but I am glad you did things your way. Nice job mate!
Yes, having the chance to explore life for myself, with the guidance of my parents was a valuable experience and is how I would operate with my own children if I had any. It has paid great dividends throughout life, even the mistakes I made.
Es bueno,cuando tenemos la bendición de tener unos padres que nos eduquen en valores y nos permitan crecer de manera independiente con nuestros aciertos y desaciertos, sin embargo errar es de humanos rectificar es de sabios,igualmente le deseo un gran Domingo o lo que queda de el, saludos.
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