My condolences to you, @galenkp. People leave this world under so many different circumstances. The hardest ones are tragic, too soon, and without goodbyes. I'm sorry for your loss.
For my weekend engagement entry, I have some words for one of my soul sisters, my cousin Marianne. We grew up together and had 50+ years of mutual adoration. She was beautiful and hilariously funny, and had the most amazing singing voice. I know I will never meet anyone like her again in my life — a person with such spark that she could light up a room. But her inner demons were too much for her. And as we all know, emotional pain that is not reconciled is like a cancer of the mind and soul.
What I would like to say to her is...
Be the light. You are loved for who you are, not in spite of who you are. The world needs your beautiful flame — your intelligence, wit, humor and music. Wrestle those demons to the ground. Annhilate them. Be the victor. You can win, my sweet. And we will celebrate with laughter, and songs by the fire, just like old times.
Thanks Jayna, suicide is never a straightforward or easy thing to deal with. We, family and friends, will move it forward as best we can though as we have little choice. I find myself wishing I'd made a call, wishing I'd said one last thing. I think that's what's so difficult right now.
I really appreciate you sharing your words here. Your emotions.
I always wonder whether there is really anything we can do or say in those situations. Especially with a person who is truly suffering and absolutely cannot find peace and solace in this world. At any rate, I hope you can heal from your grief, and from your own misgivings about what you might have done. I suspect he was pretty committed to the outcome, and that he is at last at peace.
I agree, there's little that can be done and I'm one who believes a person should have that choice. Want to check out? OK, do so. That doesn't mean I don't miss the person if it happens though.
Thanks for your message.
Agreed. It is a very unfortunate choice and a sad one. It leaves so many people aching. But it's hard to argue with someone who feels they are just done. Depression is a terrible thing. Again, I'm sorry for your loss. I hope it helps somewhat to know he's not suffering.
Thank you for your words of comfort.
Suicide is most difficult, you never knew how to answer, happened in my early twenties when close family friend took his life a couple of years younger than myself. Mother would knock at our door trying to find answers, simply no answer, ever!
Plant a tree, give it his name and remember the good times spent together, talk to it and watch it grow.
As a family we plant something to remember the person by, it's not ours to question what if!
Thanks for your message Joan, it's greatly appreciated.
Life is strange, keep the good memories!
Ma'am, I could feel your love for cousin.. I do hope she gets to see this and become who she really is and make the world around her beautiful.
Nice to talk about a loved one like that, she's sure a good one to know.
Thank you so much, @merit.ahama. Unfortunately, she is no longer living. But I imagine her in heaven, hearing my words of love and acceptance.
Oh so sad, didn't even think that... My bad,so sorry for your loss ma'am
Thank you. I only hinted that she is no longer with us. But it's true. It has been five years now. Her alcoholism took her away from me way too soon.
Oh dear, that's sad to know... May her soul rest in peace
I wish she got to hear all this and let it find a way into her soul. It's never easy to lose someone to their demons. The light she left behind will never be forgotten.