I know that after mum died a couple of years ago, I went to therapy cause no matter how proactive I was in life and how hard I tried, everything I touched turned to crap.Yeah you're right, aswell as @Bigtom too.
I'm not going to say that I hated the therapy, but I found it to be absolutely useless and it made me even more angry and frustrated and then thankfully I met a woman who introduced me to another woman who gave me the most simplest exercise to do and I took that one lesson, that one exercise and continued it on myself for a few consecutive days afterwards, then a few times the following week and I can't tell you how much better I feel and how fast I became better after that.
So I know on the surface I looked fine, but inside I knew that I was almost at rock bottom cause I'm, a truly resilient person and knew that if I couldn't get though it myself, then I really did need a helping hand.
I also mentor a small group of mental health consumers (sufferers) in video and just a couple of days ago I was witness to one who had unwittingly clicked on a link and downloaded himself some spyware/ransomware into his phone and was constantly on the verge of a meltdown even though I was helping him fix everything- which is when I said last comment that We're all wired a little differently and so someone's perception of 'nothing' is another person's unintentional implosion and another person's intentional love of drama and semantics- he was the unintentional implosion and I share my apt with a 'normal' intentional drama queen...
Having the right tool in the right hands. I think this is why some therapists don't work for some people, while another does.
We have a lot of different triggers that can set us off and it might seem very slight to some, but be a massive point for another. In some way, it is kind of like phobias - I am scared of heights, but another person can walk a beam on a skyscraper unphased - they might be deathly scared of snakes though :)