I was one of the people to come into your dm for this issue but then I couldn’t continue the convo. Well, am here again😃.
First of all I don’t think the system of Africa or Ghana is the problem. I think men world wide will accept that it’s pretty difficult to see a man crying, you will only see a man cry when he can’t take it anymore.
I think we can all come to the fact that when it comes to strength and will power men are more stronger, emotionally men are stronger and it’s for this reason people will choose favouring a woman all day long over a man(hell yeah am one of those people who will always favour a woman in most things)
I don’t think a man should go around crying at every little thing that happens to him. We have been made emotionally stronger by nature and you should be able to deal with it.
How many men have you seen committing suicide because they can’t solve an emotional problem?
I don’t like opening up because I am that way. I don’t open up to both genders. A woman and man can both betray you after you open up.
I cry proudly, and it's done me a lot of good, but I don't usually let others see, there is no need for it, and I agree a lot of people aren't used to seeing that and don't respond to it in a good way. This is mostly cause historically men have had to compete for survive and showing vulnerability could lead to attack.
I think there are two kinds of crying. When you hold on to the negative feelings and cry, it’s more like whining and you can call that weakness, but when you let go of the emotions that are weighing heavy on you, you become stronger. We all need to poop and in the same way we need to process emotions or we get sick. Crying is the fastest and easiest way. Now I enjoy it because I usually find the things that I want to fix about myself become a lot easier to fix, like if I'm feeling lazy or unmotivated, crying can sometimes fix that if I manage to release frustration or anger.
I used to be a very angry person and now I'm really chill. Crying helped.
I have no problem with crying and all that. I just don’t like it when you do it in front of people most times. Everyone has a secrete and the problems the women have is that some will wanna see us cry on their shoulder which to me can be done but only when it becomes too much to handle.
I find women quite reasonable that they women give some of the best advice and if you do tell a trusted woman your problem she can help.
Just pray it doesn’t come back to bite you cause that same woman might end up calling you weak one day when you have an argument with her.
I get it. I would worry about these things but I spent so many years looking for lots and lots of great people who accept me as I am, I don’t worry about it anymore.
My gf has seen me cry many times but we’ve been together 8 years. I don’t like to show her but she always wants to see me cry 😆 she enjoys it
😂😂😂this reminds me of my gf too. She always wants me to open up about so many things which is really difficult for me. She even wants me to cry at times to show how vulnerable I am but I just cant.
I understand you perfectly.
But it’s okay to open up.