Loss is something we all face. We lose friends, family and lovers, and things; possessions. We also lose ourselves at times but not too much hopefully. Which is most difficult depends on the person however they can all be tragic losses and sometimes we don't recover, or are never quite the same.
I had cause to think about loss over the last week or so. With my mothers cancer illness it's a constant although the recent thoughts were not related to her though, it's someone else entirely, and it felt much different. It wasn't better or worse, just different, and it left me feely both happy and sad, which may sound odd.
Some of the most special people I've met are those who have dealt with adversity, emotional or physical pain and suffering, have had to claw their way forward and those who have known loss...but have had the courage to journey through it. They've found paths to walk that, though difficult, have taken them from despair, sorrow and depression to more positive places. That's why, along with the sadness I've been feeling, I'm also happy because the person I refer to is one of those I describe above.
I find value in such people, they're inspirational, and they often push me re-evaluate myself and have thoughts which help me improve and try harder; they inspire me to think more honestly about myself and situations I'm in and be more connected with myself, feelings and emotions, which improves the decisions I make and the ways in which I move towards better places...and I think that's pretty special.
Loss and adversity is part of life and we need to deal with them. I remember seeing a quote by someone I can't recall right now that said something about loss and possession being dependant on the other, linked like life and death; it takes the sun to cause a shadow, or words to that effect were a part of the same quote.
Dealing with loss can be terrible however if we can manage it and find ourselves along the way it's empowering. We must experience loss to give us the chance to be found, even if the finding is us finding ourselves.
With this in mind I thought I'd share some music that relates to loss, lovely songs, if a little sad.
Becca 💗
I'm so sorry you're going through such a hard time Becca, I know it can't be easy for you. Sending you a comforting hug.
Your songs are beautiful but like you say, rather sad. They still have a place though when we're going through difficult times and I hope they bring you some solace.
Em 🦋
Hugs are always welcome, they have a way of making the inside of me feel better even though they happen on the outside. I appreciate your lovely thoughts and don't worry, we're working through the situations as they present themselves.
Becca 🌷
Hey friend, not sure what the loss is but I agreed loss is never easy no matter what part of life it's in and of course it's an inevitable part of all of our lives so we need to try our best to deal with it as best we can which is what I think you are doing. Thoughts going your way 🙏
I enjoyed those three tunes which paint their own picture. Stay well and mind yourself.
Hi there, thank you for your kind words. I agree that life can only be dealt with as best we can and sometimes we deal better or worse. I suppose the most important thing is that we try.
Thank you for your kindness, there are some here who have not been so kind, or understanding.
Becca 🌷
Sorry to hear that, people be cray-cray as they say..
The only advise I can think of is let it be water of a ducks back and try to surround yourself with people who resonate at a similar frequency to yourself. Personally I listen to everything and everyone but I give much more credence to some people over others based on gut feeling, experience and intuition. More often than not your own compass won't ever be too far off, so trust your instincts and don't waste energy on mood hoovers.
Virtual hugs going your way. Mind yourself.
Beautiful, beautiful lyrics and songs, especially the first two. The second one I have listened to so many times.
I know what you're talking about... I've lost so many people, almost all of them. Your post reminded me of my grandmother who passed away in 2002, brain cancer, inoperable, she was given 6 months to live, and she did. I cared for her without leaving her side until she was gone.
My cousin died a month and a half ago... liver cancer, she was far away in Argentina and I was in Spain. Such a great sadness.
In both cases the loss makes us meet again, reflect and continue.
Thank you Becca for this reflection and music. Hug!❤️
It's sad to lose people, but also sad to know we will lose someone in the future too, I suppose even the threat of loss, the chance of it, can cause many problems which is what I face right now.
I like your perspective about reflecting and moving forward, it's the only thing to do really. I'm sorry for your losses, it must have been very difficult.
Becca 🌷
Yes, it's sad, I only have my mother and brother .... left from my original family, the rest are gone.
There is a reason why we are still here, we have to continue and in the best possible way.
Thank you Becca.❤️
Loss is never easy, although some are easier to bear than others. Easier is not the word I really was reaching for, but, I am hoping you would understand. It has nothing to do with size or value, but with how we perceive the loss.
It takes cause sun to cause a shadow... Yes! My mother passed a couple of years ago and I was totally wrecked. My mommy, you know? The only consoling factor was it wouldn't have hurt so much if I hadn't loved her so much. That quote helped me more than I can say. It was so very true.
If we can find ourselves through it all, yes. Yes. I have always found sadness in these songs, yet, not tragically sad, and they hug me close while listening to them.
You're beautiful, it's true.
I'm sorry for your loss although, as you point out, it was love that made you feel it and as a balance to the loss is a lifetime of memories. This is how I approach things with my mother whose life is in decline. The chemotherapy takes a toll her, the mental and emotional aspect and I know she is worried about leaving me along...not that I'll be alone, I have the best man a girl could ask for, but I think you understand. It's tragic.
Added to that is other complications with the guy and life itself...it's difficult, this life of ours, but at the same time it's beautiful too. Light and shadow.
Thank you so much for your comment dswigle, and I hope you have had a good week.
Becca 🌷