I think what we're actually seeing is what's going on inside the heads of all those people on the streets but of course it's mostly internalized because they know they wouldn't be able to pull a fast one with so many witnesses around to intervene.
Granted and yes I agree; it's not behaviour limited to online, it's a constate state of being for these types, although acting it out face to face my come with a price they are unwilling to pay.
Then you have to think about what's going on behind closed doors when they're with their families pretending they love them, in all the chaos.
Also yes, most assuredly. I often wonder what it must be like for those living closely to such types as I mention in this post; it cannot be a wholesome environment having to live with the human version of a volcano waiting to erupt.
It is passed along as you say, from one to the other through learned/observed behaviour and the cycle begins again. It's quote able to be broken, but it's more often than not, not broken because those perpetrating the behaviours think that what they do it totally acceptable.
This kind of thing I've seen previously and there are plenty videos of this kind of behaviour online as well.
It generally goes with the whole family having to constantly walk on eggshells, play nice, speak quietly and when things aren't going so well there's door slamming accompanied by a lot of huffing footsteps, tantrum throwing and swearing at anyone in the vicinity.
It's DEFINITELY not a healthy environment for anyone in the household and I feel so fucking sorry for kids having to live with that as a "role model" as that is just not someone to look up to at all.
This sort of behaviour tends to perpetuate as it's generally learned behaviour. It's sad really, especially considering that the cycle could rather easily be broken.
It takes work though and these types you speak of would never admit that their behaviour sucks ass so it is then left to the next generation to unravel the shit and to have to undo it. Kind of unfair if you ask me.
It is unfair, but life is generally, or can be. It's up to those who have it to seek change, to own the thoughts and attitudes that bring about actions to affect change. I know it can be done. You did it.
Social media/online presence can also make it easier for those types to present their false 'good side' or, mask. They can't control their meltdowns though but it surprises me, with all that evidence of meltdown, with the true colors shining so damn brightly, they put the mask back on, and people are naïve enough to take them in. Then they get burned. It's inevitable. Happens in relationships too. Why are people giving abusive spouses and partners a second chance? Is gullibility becoming synonymous with empathy? Sometimes it seems so.
Yes for sure, I wonder this also. I'll be honest and say my father was like this; the kindest, most generous and forgiving man I ever knew. He was a great example to me growing up, but I combined in some G-dog to the mix through a life of hard moments and situations in which brutal honesty and extreme ownership were the only way to move forward intact, and I have the ability to this day. It means I have the ability to take action rather firmly, although, and this is my dad's influence, I have the ability to think first. I was terribly victimised from a very young age and I learned many things, including the ability to be brutally efficient and effective in the actions I take.
Don't even get me started on this one man, it's fucken bonkers how and why this occurs. Brutalised by a partner, go back for more. I know a woman (rather sexy as fuck) who was put into ICU on two occasions by her partner. Went back both times. Finally leaves and finds someone exactly the same and it happens again. Beat a dog with a newspaper on the nose enough times and it'll cower in fear and lose its sense of self, I guess.
Yes, in my opinion.
I learned from a young age as well. I became prey and didn't understand it, nothing made sense, internalized everything, thought it was my fault, didn't know how to disengage, everything stuck and hit hard. And that's exactly where those types want you. For what?
Those were just kids, I was just a kid, but I couldn't trust anyone. Who's going to step in when they know if they do, they become a target. I didn't know they were just cowards. I didn't know these assholes were just assholes. Nothing made sense.
"This kid would do great things if he'd just apply himself," was on every report card I took home. But every time I applied myself and did something great, that's when those assholes would come knocking.
Eventually yeah, grow up, learn some shit like, If you want to do something, just fucking do it, who's cares about all this other shit.
Those types act like they're the ones you're supposed to be impressing. The reality is, no. They get nothing.
Good talk.
This is actually the sickest part of the psychology behind this behaviour and it all comes down to power. The only way these people feel empowered is by breaking others into submission. It's actually an act of violence mixed in with cowardice. If they feel threatened (which most often they will because they all seem to suffer from an inferiority complex), they can only rise to the top by pulling others below them instead of actually doing something that shows them to be a good person who's achieved something by hard work.
Yes. In essence, they cheat in order to win, and their prize is just an illusion. In athletics for instance. The reaction when someone breaks some kind of world record or wins the belt. True winner can barely contain themselves. Someone all juiced up appears, empty. Their body and mind naturally provides feelings of failure rather than reward on their 'best' day.
That empty appearance I know exactly what you mean. It seems so strange and totally unnatural and backwards to me. It's like people that delight in the downfall of others, I just don't get the sadistic pleasure they get out of it other than to use the word psychopathic.
What's interesting though is how society is delighted when those types get caught, no matter how much they want to go down kicking and screaming. I want to say that's natural and dates back to the first humans. Without it, humanity would have ate itself to death long ago, both metaphorically and literally.
Unfortunately these days with modern politics being applied to nearly everything, people are preconditioned into accepting atrocities provided that's the team they played for, beforehand. An example locally here would be team 'I hate downvote' being happy to see a psychopath lie, smear, steal, manipulate, threaten, harass, the list goes on and on. It was applauded and encouraged. Scale it up. Some of those protests. Suddenly it's okay to burn down a city; for a good cause?
Man, what you say in this comment, it's like I wrote it myself about my own experiences!
The thing is, that all of the shite we went through created strong character, the ability to deal with adversity and the willingness to do what's required to push forward. I never wish those things didn't happen, they helped shape me; I'm glad to have parents who led by example though, gave me a good grounding and gave me the understanding of ownership. From there, how could my life be anything but brilliant?
Thanks for your commenting. I wasn't sure how this post would be received and if it would inspire much, or any commenting. I'm glad it did.
After what happened earlier this year with that traveler, things like this resonate a lot more now. That's something I'm not interested in letting slide though. Had plenty of opportunities to redeem himself but chose to dig his hole deeper. I'd say it was a costly mistake but it wasn't a mistake. Admittedly did it purposefully; still costly though.
Indeed, and I feel the same. This post could also relate to another such person who went to that other blogging platform most recently (using the word blogging here for lack of a more appropriate word for that place) that I believe you know also. The behaviours are all the same, and I'd imagine that their lives are just as desolate as their self-respect and sanity. Like you say, they wilfully choose to destroy their Hive accounts, as this most recent one has done.
What's interesting though is those types that end up there get their masks ripped off here first, talk a big game but everyone knows it's fake, then ran, to hide. Simply cannot negotiate obstacles in life. That hissy fit stuff is just smoke and mirrors; trying to distract people away from the fact they fucked up and too weak to face it.
I'm also seeing a few from that crowd always here to downvote comments and whatnot. What they don't realize is when someone out of the loop clicks those names out of curiosity, they see ugly profiles and links to blurt. So those downvotes that lead to insanity is their first impression of people on blurt. Just another fine example of how they act in ways that lead to fucking themselves. The trail of breadcrumbs always leads to the truth they're attempting to cover up. ~shrugs~