Social media/online presence can also make it easier for those types to present their false 'good side' or, mask. They can't control their meltdowns though but it surprises me, with all that evidence of meltdown, with the true colors shining so damn brightly, they put the mask back on, and people are naïve enough to take them in. Then they get burned. It's inevitable. Happens in relationships too. Why are people giving abusive spouses and partners a second chance? Is gullibility becoming synonymous with empathy? Sometimes it seems so.
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Yes for sure, I wonder this also. I'll be honest and say my father was like this; the kindest, most generous and forgiving man I ever knew. He was a great example to me growing up, but I combined in some G-dog to the mix through a life of hard moments and situations in which brutal honesty and extreme ownership were the only way to move forward intact, and I have the ability to this day. It means I have the ability to take action rather firmly, although, and this is my dad's influence, I have the ability to think first. I was terribly victimised from a very young age and I learned many things, including the ability to be brutally efficient and effective in the actions I take.
Don't even get me started on this one man, it's fucken bonkers how and why this occurs. Brutalised by a partner, go back for more. I know a woman (rather sexy as fuck) who was put into ICU on two occasions by her partner. Went back both times. Finally leaves and finds someone exactly the same and it happens again. Beat a dog with a newspaper on the nose enough times and it'll cower in fear and lose its sense of self, I guess.
Yes, in my opinion.
I learned from a young age as well. I became prey and didn't understand it, nothing made sense, internalized everything, thought it was my fault, didn't know how to disengage, everything stuck and hit hard. And that's exactly where those types want you. For what?
Those were just kids, I was just a kid, but I couldn't trust anyone. Who's going to step in when they know if they do, they become a target. I didn't know they were just cowards. I didn't know these assholes were just assholes. Nothing made sense.
"This kid would do great things if he'd just apply himself," was on every report card I took home. But every time I applied myself and did something great, that's when those assholes would come knocking.
Eventually yeah, grow up, learn some shit like, If you want to do something, just fucking do it, who's cares about all this other shit.
Those types act like they're the ones you're supposed to be impressing. The reality is, no. They get nothing.
Good talk.
This is actually the sickest part of the psychology behind this behaviour and it all comes down to power. The only way these people feel empowered is by breaking others into submission. It's actually an act of violence mixed in with cowardice. If they feel threatened (which most often they will because they all seem to suffer from an inferiority complex), they can only rise to the top by pulling others below them instead of actually doing something that shows them to be a good person who's achieved something by hard work.
Yes. In essence, they cheat in order to win, and their prize is just an illusion. In athletics for instance. The reaction when someone breaks some kind of world record or wins the belt. True winner can barely contain themselves. Someone all juiced up appears, empty. Their body and mind naturally provides feelings of failure rather than reward on their 'best' day.
That empty appearance I know exactly what you mean. It seems so strange and totally unnatural and backwards to me. It's like people that delight in the downfall of others, I just don't get the sadistic pleasure they get out of it other than to use the word psychopathic.
What's interesting though is how society is delighted when those types get caught, no matter how much they want to go down kicking and screaming. I want to say that's natural and dates back to the first humans. Without it, humanity would have ate itself to death long ago, both metaphorically and literally.
Unfortunately these days with modern politics being applied to nearly everything, people are preconditioned into accepting atrocities provided that's the team they played for, beforehand. An example locally here would be team 'I hate downvote' being happy to see a psychopath lie, smear, steal, manipulate, threaten, harass, the list goes on and on. It was applauded and encouraged. Scale it up. Some of those protests. Suddenly it's okay to burn down a city; for a good cause?
Oh I totally get where you are coming from. It's ridiculous that groups of sheep are happy to see destruction and mayhem run unchecked as long as it's in the name of their cause. It happens with religion too. It's okay to kill as long as it's the "will" of their god... it's been going on since the dawn of civilization but that doesn't mean it's right or that we should stand for it and just let it happen.
I got chewed out once for remarking that there was a peaceful march where there was no vandalism, chaos, mayhem, violence or litter generated. Everyone marched then dispersed and felt they had done their part in having their voices heard.
When I mentioned that this is the way to do it and not be a hooligan I was called a racist bitch for drawing a comparison to the people that act like barbarians and feel that it's their right to burn down a library or city hall. It's just so bizarre and at the time (this was about 8 years ago already) I didn't realize how deeply ingrained this psychology had taken root. Was quite disgusting to be honest.
Man, what you say in this comment, it's like I wrote it myself about my own experiences!
The thing is, that all of the shite we went through created strong character, the ability to deal with adversity and the willingness to do what's required to push forward. I never wish those things didn't happen, they helped shape me; I'm glad to have parents who led by example though, gave me a good grounding and gave me the understanding of ownership. From there, how could my life be anything but brilliant?
Thanks for your commenting. I wasn't sure how this post would be received and if it would inspire much, or any commenting. I'm glad it did.
After what happened earlier this year with that traveler, things like this resonate a lot more now. That's something I'm not interested in letting slide though. Had plenty of opportunities to redeem himself but chose to dig his hole deeper. I'd say it was a costly mistake but it wasn't a mistake. Admittedly did it purposefully; still costly though.
Indeed, and I feel the same. This post could also relate to another such person who went to that other blogging platform most recently (using the word blogging here for lack of a more appropriate word for that place) that I believe you know also. The behaviours are all the same, and I'd imagine that their lives are just as desolate as their self-respect and sanity. Like you say, they wilfully choose to destroy their Hive accounts, as this most recent one has done.
What's interesting though is those types that end up there get their masks ripped off here first, talk a big game but everyone knows it's fake, then ran, to hide. Simply cannot negotiate obstacles in life. That hissy fit stuff is just smoke and mirrors; trying to distract people away from the fact they fucked up and too weak to face it.
I'm also seeing a few from that crowd always here to downvote comments and whatnot. What they don't realize is when someone out of the loop clicks those names out of curiosity, they see ugly profiles and links to blurt. So those downvotes that lead to insanity is their first impression of people on blurt. Just another fine example of how they act in ways that lead to fucking themselves. The trail of breadcrumbs always leads to the truth they're attempting to cover up. ~shrugs~
Weak of mind and weak of character; interestingly, those two things often go hand in hand.
Yeah, I've had seventy or so in the last six or so days from one such. Every time it that user does it though the user sinks a little further into the mire of misery that is that users mind and life. It's like driving nails into one's own coffin...But they never see it that way of course. Also, ugly profiles and links to Blurt, exactly man, and how they think that's endearing themselves to others or winning support is bonkers.
There's one (not sure if he's on Blurt) who was posting very low-effort stuff 10-15 times a day to take advantage of their own self-vote and an auto vote from a user who disappeared from the blockchain in the middle of the year. I addressed it. The sad thing is they used to post quite well and gained up votes from me. When I saw the spam I returned rewards to the pool. They didn't appreciate it and created a little (uncomplimentary) series of posts with me as the central character and ranted and raved to all who would listen but, as you may suspect, no one was listening because they had already pushed any legitimate people away with their farming and spam. Now...probably blames me for his demise and will tell everyone who asks, as he did in a comment to you recently. Par for the course.