Hello Steemit!
So today I left the relationship and moved into a hostel. Being lied to for who knows how long finally came to an end when I caught her screwing her co-worker on valentines day as I came to her office with a surprise of roses. I will spare you the details of what went on in there.
I kept the door open and shout to the other people in the cubicles, "Hey, come and look at this" and within a short period of time at least five other staff came to the door as I started walking in the opposite direction towards the exit. I threw the roses in a paper bin, drove to a buddy and spent the rest of the day there and also borrowed his guestroom for the night.
I guess I was venting too much, but my friend told me about steemit and got me this account today and told me I should write my diary here instead of on facebook which I am ignoring right now because there is way too much drama going on right now with mutual friends.
I would lie if I told you my emotions are not playing tricks with me right now. One hour I want to smash someone, and another hour I sit and cry and blame myself for not seeing the signs earlier - but one thing is for damn sure. I am Free! She broke the contract and I am now free to think about what it is that I want to do with my life
you should move here in India :)
If the advice of an old man holds any relevance...get used to it! The only person in this life you can really count on is you! Time heals all wounds and wounds all heels! Love is a temporary emotion...true love only exists in the world of Hallmark cards.
You bring much wisdom old timer. I will take your words to heart.
Thank you very much!
At least you got an upvote and new follower!
Thank you for that :) I am still learning what all these things are on this website but it looks not too complicated. I think I like steemit.
ha ha, hilarious!
this is what's being taught these days :) @richq11
Alexander, framing is everything brother.
Thank goodness you found out now, while she WAS your fiancée and not your wife.
The situation could've been a whole lot worse and more complicated if you found out a year from now.
Reality is what it is.
You just received a gift getting a reality update sooner rather than later.Powerful advice @richq11 ! Following both you AND @qxl now. If you think an old man might be entertained by a young fool, @scan0017 is the ticket.
yeah, I feel lucky that we had not gotten married yet. Lol, her loss. Today I watched on pornhub cheating wives - there are so many of them, I think I will never trust a woman again.
thank you, WHO is this PLZ ?
Now this is wisdom...Listen to him, you got off cheap!!! Upvoted & followed!
1 in 10 people were not fathered by the person they believe is their paternal parent.
Just imagine if you had had children with your fiancée...
Put that in your pipe and smoke it.
I advise you to read this book.
You should also schedule a few one hour massages this week. Seriously, REAL massages, no 'Happy Ending' neon light sketchiness.
Your body is crying out for human touch.
Go sort that out in a healthy fashion, you literally need it right now.
@qxl - Would you like to breathe a sigh of relief considering an even WORSE potential scenario? Respect @richq11 --> thanks brother 🤝
lol
Marriage is a contract with the state. When you heal, look into MGTOW (men going their own way).
You are free.
And you have my favorite name.
This story was truly horrific. It's hard to believe it's real.....Christ!
Yes, you're better off here than in Facebook. You can be yourself here without people you know supressing your real feelings. It's easier to become the person you were meant to be in here...
Thank you, yes I rather be among strangers right now then among "friends". Facebook is all about gossip anyway, classmates making fun behind your back. Better get over this on my own, just write it off I guess.
@ned @dantheman @jamesc @riverhead @smooth @berniesanders @abit @clayop. Here's your trending post for the day. It doesn't get any more intense than this one.
dude.. what a way to make an introduction.. sorry for the horrible revelation but look at it from the bright side... ya didn't get married and that's a whole lotta money and even more heartbreak saved right there...
Welcome to steemit bud... now it goes up from here
I am going to buy my first Bitcoin and Steem soon.
Do I have to pay $1000 or can I buy half a Bitcoin?
That sucks dude. My sympathies. Though everything happens for a reason. Hopefully you will find someone better in the end...
you will be alright
thank you for encouraging words.
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Sorry to hear that!
Thank you, I shall overcome... someday!
I'm sure you will and it hurts like hell when this kind of thing happens but ultimately it is better to know.
Words of Wisdom. The Truth has set me Free!
Wow, sorry to hear this. As for where you should go, some people love mountains, some love the city, the ocean, etc.
Take a little time and imagine if you can go anywhere, where do you want to be? Quiet, loud, fun, peaceful. Location is only a small amount of happiness though. What you do and what you think is what usually makes someone happy or not.
hmm, good question. I like the mountains but up there it gets lonely. The city, well... not really ready to mingle with a lot of people at the moment but I could like to live in a suburb not too far from a city. I currently have lived in a small town where everyone knows everyone and the game of telephone... I cannot stay here, must move and start life anew.
Well, you have my attention, keep us posted. (Yes, pun intended)
Thank you! Pun taken :)
Be gone foul demon! I will exorcise you!
Regna terrae, cantata Deo, psallite Cernunnos, Regna terrae, cantata Dea psallite Aradia. caeli Deus, Deus terrae, Humiliter majestati gloriae tuae supplicamus Ut ab omni infernalium spirituum potestate, Laqueo, and deceptione nequitia, Omnis fallaciae, libera nos, dominates. Exorcizamus you omnis immundus spiritus Omnis satanica potestas, omnis incursio, Infernalis adversarii, omnis legio, Omnis and congregatio secta diabolica. Ab insidiis diaboli, libera nos, dominates, Ut coven tuam secura tibi libertate servire facias, Te rogamus, audi nos! Ut inimicos sanctae circulae humiliare digneris, Te rogamus, audi nos! Terribilis Deus Sanctuario suo, Cernunnos ipse truderit virtutem plebi Suae, Aradia ipse fortitudinem plebi Suae. Benedictus Deus, Gloria Patri, Benedictus Dea, Matri gloria!
Btw. That is a genuine exorcism... Speech?
:D
Congratulations @livehonest, you've been added to @thedumpster for being such a piece of trash!
Great introduction-post, very sad story. I will be following your journey.
Equador, Australia, New Zealand and Peru are great countries IMHO.
Welcome to Steemit
Thank you!
Welcome to a brand new day and beginning at Steemit! :))
Thank you very much!
Hi, I'm an old woman, so this may not help as I am female....but all I can suggest is to move into your heart. Your physical location is not too important for the healing. It's really easy to be angry, but right now you need to go through the reality of the pain of loss, betrayal and every other violation that you are experiencing. Too many times we run from the pain and stuff it down, which is in opposition to growth and self-love. You can't love someone else unless you love yourself; so the self blaming will not heal you either, but it is natural for the process that you are going through! Don't fear your feeling; but don't play out those feelings towards others or yourself. Find something very physical to do, sports or whatever...that always helps clear the system; sweat and tears carry poisons out of the body. And know that you are not alone in your experience.
Thank you for your advice!
It is not just the emotions, but also all the papers and practical things... I guess a lawyer deals with those things, right? I am so confused right now.
I guess, if you have a binding relationship legally, then it can come to that as well. That's out of my scope of knowledge! Just breathe and be as calm as you can. You're going through a lot! Best Wishes~
Thank you, I will do what I have to do :)
Feeling the pain..crying your heart out then clarity and purpose.
smart words. thank you :)
Welcome to Steemit. Best wishes as you work through a difficult time.
Thank you very much, I will survive :)
I hope :)
Well, first of all, WELCOME TO STEEMIT! I'm very happy that you are writing your story here , and not in facebook (which can be so energy draining).
I'm sorry this happened to you, but really glad you could leave the relationship before marrying, that would have sucked.
It's really interesting how life can surprise us sometimes, and everything can change so fast, I wish you the best in your new life, looking forward to read more of your posts in this amazing social media, and I recommend you to go to Peru (Macchu Picchu area, in particular, when I went in 2012, I had experienced an amazing spiritual transformation), or the pacific coast of Oaxaca, in Mexico (Puerto escondido, Mazunte, Zipolite)
Happy new beginnings!
Thank you, sounds like great places to visit.
You're most welcome! they really are, and the energy is high, plus there are cheap places to visit!
:D
looking forward to it :)
Thank you so much :) Cheers to Happy New Beginnings! :)
Sorry, I just want to know. Is this real ? If that's true. I really feel sad. Just keep going on. You will find better one !
Yeah it is real, not going to go looking for any serious relationship anytime soon.
The ocean is full of fish and I will fish as many of them as I can afford ;)
Welcome to Steemit... even if you got here under less than ideal circumstances.
If I were in your shoes, I'd choose to be somewhere largely away from large crowds of people. If you like the mountains, go there. If you like the seaside, go there. Get away from the place where people you know are going to keep talking about what you "should" and "should not" do, and what "could" have been different, and yadda, yadda, yadda....
Wise words @denmarkguy. Thank you.
I had something similar happen in about 1991 my first year in the real estate business.
I had stuck with a GF thru some very hard times ---- VERY hard for her. Not for me.
I knew she still had feelings for her ex, but trying to not be a jerk about it, I trusted her and him, when they went out at times.
One night, everything in me told me, this is not right and tonite something bad is going to happen ....
I caught them in the car messing around parked in the dark area in the school by their house when I was driving a kid home from work that I managed as the supervisor.
Literally walked right up to the foggy car of her ex and we both saw what they were doing and she tried to say it did not happen LOL
I have had some trauma in my life brother, so I feel you.
Dang man, well 1991 is a long time ago. I am sure you have a perfect life now.
I will have too. This incident shall not stop me.
I was run over by a car last year and not doing well so no, not perfect LOL.
Yes, as some of the other people have said - allow yourself to cry and feel the pain. It's important. If you bottle it up - it will eventually come back up. And, you will feel much better if you allow your self to feel all the emotion.
And, yes, remember to breathe - deeply. And take things slow with yourself.
This experience is going to help you know what you want, and what you don't want - better.
And, welcome to Steemit!! I've been her a little over a month, and already love it here! And, am starting to make some friends. It's awesome!
Great advice, thank you very very much.
Gonna keep on breathing!
Come to Cancun, Mexico!!!
Are you inviting? :)
Sure!! but keep in mind I dislike go to the beach xD https://steemit.com/experience/@onezetty/a-magic-place-called-tulum
Had a very similar thing happen to me with my first ex-wife. It suck, but you've got a good attitude and that is everything! Thailand is a great place to get lost. Now let's see how my GIF posting skills are.. http://giphy.com/gifs/6901DbEbbm4o0/html5 Apparently I suck at it. Back to the Steemit School.
I am not sure I am ready for Thailand yet :)
But maybe in a year or two, lol.
I have heard some stories from Thailand :D
Trust is hugely important and once lost... well, you know how it ends.
Look forward. Learn your lessons and be a better person for it. Be glad you found out now and not years from now. Time to find someone better.
So true! Gonna find me first and then maybe let a woman into my life on a temporary contract.
Glad I did not marry her, or this would have become even more expensive to handle. But we do own a house together, I will speak with a Lawyer about all that on Monday, this weekend I will buy at least 3-4 hookers and do what they do on the discovery-channel :)
Good plan: finding yourself first and talking to a lawyer. Not so sure on the hookers though. Don't go all Charlie Sheen.
You have just started a tough journey - the good news is she was a fiancee and nothing more complicated than that. Here are some ideas - well a 4 step plan.
Good luck. Namste
Cycling in Australia sounds like fun. I have never been there, could jump on a plane and buy a bicycle there and ride for a month or two. Is it easy to sell the bicycle again when I leave?
I have no idea. A friend cycled all the way across on a $400 Kart special - no need to worry about selling at the end. Donate it. Have a look at eBay or Gumtree (a local buy:sell site) to see how cheap you can find a bike. Just have to work out how to carry the gear
Ouch, that sounds terrible. Wishing you all the best! I guess you deserve better then;)
Thank you, I shall make my life mine again. I am determined!
Good day
I am sure about this point you are looking for reasons.
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Don't overdo it with the hookers. You don't want to end up with STD's!!!!!!
I am sorry to hear that this happened, but I think it is awesome how strong and bold you were when you left her office (Why did she have her own office when others had cubicles, was she the boss?) open and told all the staff to come look in her office; I bet that caused some gossiping and some drama lol.
Good choice ignoring facebook! My advice to you is to rediscover what you are most passionate about and dedicate all of yourself to just that one thing. For me it would be music or hypnosis but for you it most likely is something completely different. Oh also, welcome to steemit! ^_^