Pretty much we get frustrated on a daily if worse hourly basis...
I wrote this guide to help myself and help you to get rid of the frustration forever!
At first let's talk about the origin of frustration. By understanding that you already have
an upper hand against this challenge.
Most of the time you get this feeling when things are not going in a certain
way. Not where you want them to go.
From this, we start an inner monolog a narrative: she shouldn’t act that way, she should do it this way. Oh I can believe she always does this! Why can’t she just see that she’s wrong? She’s so irritating!
We are full of this ongoing stories, completely submerged in irritation.
Your blueprint to overcome frustration
1. Develop an awareness of it
Obviously you can't avoid frustration to happen. But you can notice that you are irritated. Start picking up the clues. Are you sighing? Meybe clenching your fists? Arguing your case?
2. Pause
As soon as you are realizing that you are frustrated just pause for a moment. Even if it is just for a couple of seconds. Check yourself. How do you feel? What frustration looks like when it overtakes your body?
3. Notice the story you’re telling yourself
What is that you are telling yourself? What are you saying to the other person in this situation? What she should or shouldn't do in your opinion? How did you characterize the situation and people in it?
4. Is this story helping me?
Now ask this question really seriously. If possible put a little distance between you and the situation to have a better look. Is this story helping me or makes the situation worse? Does it help me to have a better relationship with the person I am talking with? Does it make me happy? After asking this question you will surely realize whether you are making your own unhappiness in your mind.
5. See this frustrating situation as a lesson
If you are willing to look these type of situations are real lessons to learn, accept develop, let go of feelings. After realizing this frustrating moment can transform into small treasures in your life, developing into opportunities to achieve greater understanding and peace within yourself.
6. See that the other person is suffering
After you made this realization about yourself and seeing yourself behaving imperfectly you will start feeling empathy toward the other person. They are also frustrated themselves. They have their own stories which cause them to behave the way they do. You both are experiencing the same thing. Try to see how the way they behaving makes sense to them from their perspective. It always does but sometimes it is just so hard to realize it.
7. Let go of your way
I know it is hard but you can't control everything. But you can control how you experience events happening with you. You aren't entitled to get everything go in a way you want them. Other people behave their own way and it is true that you don1t have to agree with them every single time but if things won't work out you don1t have to be frustrated. Just try to loosen your grip on events.
8. Say “yes” to this experience
It’s perhaps not ideal, but what is? If you embrace this moment by saying yes it will be much easier for you to et it go. You will start to appreciate what is beautiful about the present. This will make you feel frustrated less often.
Very good article! It is similar to the Cognitive-behavioral therapy in psychology research field. After I understood this, I don't not want to say: because you did this, I am angry, and I do this back to you. This is animal instinct. I realized the true strength is: between stimulant and my reaction back, we humans have the option to use our brain to analyze the situation, and pick the best reaction.
Not saying that I am doing perfect, but practicing this in life really helps making me happier. :D
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To add to this post, I also think we should be aware of misunderstandings just like number 6. When we are aware that there may be miscommunications, it does not frustrate us when misunderstandings come out by surprise.
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Thanks @dragonslayer109 I really appreciate it! I am a fan of your blog :)
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Frustration can be transformed into curiosity and eagerness to solve a new challenge, to your point #5.
You are absolutely right.
i am new...i need help.
This is gonna change my life, I appreaciate your words and article.. came with a perfect timing for me in a hard moment of my life.
Thanks
Steemit is the best place for that. Yesterday I also had some aha moments. So much wisdom can be found in this community. I love it and wish you the best!
Yes
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