very good post. I like that you say normal is a term to include and exclude. I see all these kinds of new sydroms as a form of better explanation for behaviour we don´t understand. I find it easier sometimes to see ones special needs and therefore to include them. On the other hand these special needs thing can very well be the reason for excluding people.
I was born with cp (celebral palsy) and I never was normal. But I always tried to be as normal as possible. - Until I finally understood there is no normal. We all are just different. But we a conditions to belief many norms and sometimes steriotypes. People always want to know if people with cp can have normal lifes. I just made a post yesterday about the things people say and do because the have trouble seeing a different normal.
Thank you so very much for bringing this topic forward.
Thanks for your thoughtful reply!
There's no doubt we get ideas and influences from the world around us... but it can easily become a problem when we stop feeling content with simply being ourselves... and instead turn to trying to "become" something that isn't actually us, purely in service of this "normal" thing.
Very true. Quite unbelivele that the pressure to fit in can be so hard that we feel it´s worth putting it all the effort possible to be normal. No matter the struggle seeking to be normal seems better then seeking acceptence of ones self. Not even talking about selflove which seems to be even harder to find.