You can read the first one here and the second one here
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I was so excited knowing I am in love. At least, I can speak for myself. I always wish to see her. I long to see her most of the time. After work, rather than go home, I take time out to see her and end up getting home very late. I will still speak with her for hours on the phone and sleep late. Hahaha. The cycle continues.
Well, the honeymoon lasted only a month hahaha. I mean, the “lovey-dovey” “mushy-mushy” kind of feeling. Hahaha. After a month or so, I notice she started picking on little things. She ends up lashing out at slight joke or provocation. You wouldn’t think she is the type because she has this serious and calm kind of look. Oh! She is drop dead gorgeous. Have you seen her smile? Oh...sorry, you haven’t. I mean, if you see her smile, you would melt, and when she laughs, I continue laughing even when the joke is over. Hahaha. See what love can do to a fully grown man. Hahaha.
I had to ask her to open up more. She told me about the ex and how it ended and all. In fact, she was the one who did it, even though it was hard for her, yet I didn’t know she still needs healing.
You know, when they haven’t fully healed, they will compare you to their ex. When you tick all the boxes but still miss a tiny one, they still wish they can go back to that ex. They will also notice that the ex they came back to, still misses out on what you also do. Hahaha. It can be confusing sometimes, and many people have given up because of this.
So, she opened up and told me all I needed to know, and right there and then, for my sake and that of hers, even though it was SO HARD for me to do, I knew she needed space and healing. We agreed to allow her to heal and whoever her heart beats for, whether it is me, or the other ex, I told her, it is fine. As long as she is happy and not enduring the relationship.
I cut off the chats and calls with her, to allow her to judge objectively and decide what she wants.
Fast forward to several months after, we chatted and she told me she has been back with her ex. I asked her if she was happy and she said yes. That gave me a little bit of relief, amidst my shock and heartbreak. I could even feel my heart is made of glass, and I could hear the sound on the ground.
I am still a good friend of hers, we talk till date. We shared a heartwarming hug the last time I saw her and yes! She still has that adorable smile. My heart skipped.
She gave herself time to heal and that is perfectly fine. Why she picked that guy, is another story or topic entirely. It is not mine to know, at least, she allowed the process and she is fine now. In fact, she is happy and spoke glowingly about the guy.
Maybe she left to make the guy do something she found in me or to make her statement, or because she was confused, or because she needed the guy to see her worth. It is another topic entirely like I said. The bottom line is, she allowed the process to work, which made her judge objectively and make her choice, rather than me confusing her desire for comfort with love.
Down the line, I would have been deeply hurt and burnt because she would have been filled with regrets. Yes, maybe she likes me, but then, it is not enough to translate into long-lasting love. Love is love, never confuse it, and never accept anything less.
To be continued…
Thank you for your time.
My pen doesn’t bleed, it speaks, with speed and ease.
Still me,
Olawalium; (Love’s chemical content, in human form). Take a dose today: doctor’s order.
It takes a fully matured mind to do what you did, but it remain the best to do by anybody. It is better to define it than to keep struggling with it.
It is not funny to be in a relationship with someone you know his or heart does not belong to you. All what he or she would be contributing to the relationship would not be flowing naturally from him or her. Don't let me use the word "FORCE". but it will seems you if you are forcing him or her for everything.
Yea, love is love, if you don't find it you can't fake it, a lot are struggling in their relationship because the whole thing was built on infatuation and not love. Infatuation can bring you together, but it takes love to keep you together.
Until two right people find themselves in love, things can never work out.
Can't wait to read the next episode, I'm sure you are strong enough to overcome anything, you are such a rare gem... Lol
But, I would like to hear from the horse's mouth, don't let me guess, I'm not so good at it anyway....lol
I overcame it and it led me to where i am right now. She is still a very good friend and i still talk to her. People move on, it might only take different timing.
Thank you for your kind words. Means a lot.
I know you do, I know about where you are now, but I want to pretend as if I don't so that I would be able to pick the lesson.
Occupying my mind with what I had already known would prevent me from knowing something new. You have shared most of the stories with me, but I still approach them as if I have never come across them, because I want to learn what I missed when you were sharing the story in the first instance.... Smile
I think I am the luckiest here.....lol
Smiles
Actually being in love with someone is a good things most especially if the person you loved also have almost if not the same feeling. Love makes you do things beyond your understanding, love hurts most since the people you love are those likely to cause you more harm. Love is always good when will find the right partner.
This happens when you just started the relationship or just got married, when leg has already crippled in domesticity which allow no sudden leap at the moon 🌙 then you won't more time for all that if not at all.
In this life there are some certain things we cannot change no matter how hard we try and we cannot always get all what we ever wanted that is what I can say about your situation with that lady most especially when it comes to love.
What she had done would have hurt you one way or the other, she doesn't deserve to break your heart that is why we must try as must as possible to heal first from our ex before dangling into any relationship so that we won't just hurt another person. You are absolutely right on this brother, I give kudos to us, you are really a great motivational speaker. Keep the good work flowing man.
Thank you so much for this, so much sense in that and i appreciate your kind words too. Thanks a lot.
The first time I met her, I should have listened to her parents . Her Dad said no he wouldn’t take me , her mom said never she won’t be with me . But I thought she was the right girl for me cause she disagreed trying to convince her parent that she would be with me, that I’d love her and care for her
I saw her through {Sponsored }her university education and then after graduation. It happened, I went visiting at her family house and I met her with another guy. Thinking that must be her sibling but for her to give me an invitation to their wedding. I fainted and till now I’m still healing ... great one Bro @olawalium
Whaaaaaaat? That is a big shocker. That is absolutely devastating and i totally understand if you are still reeling and healing. Wow.
Take all the time you can take bro, t least for your sake. You owe yourself that much. Only love can still heal heartbreak. Don't rush it, take it easy. Take as long as you want to. She did what she felt was best for her, do what is best for your heart brother. Stay strong.
Yeah I agree with you , love takes and heals everything. So many things had happened in life but what doesn’t kill one , makes one stronger
Yes, i am glad to feel that positive vibe from you. Glad music found you also.
Thanks Bro. I’d work my best to get to limelight . And I’m gonna make that song again professionally this time in a studio .
Wow! That's great. I wish you the very best, and you will do just great. Well done brother.
wow
I call this total wickedness....
Jeez....
How could she have done that?
Means she has known that guy for long then....
Chai
Ladies ooo
Yeah of the highest order . This could change ones mentality about ladies in general. But good ladies, still walk this earth . I bet you’re one of them my sister
Lol
Thanks for thinking me good ☺
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Gracias
Hmmm thinking.... are you not? Lmao
Being in love is the best feeling we can have in this world. Let's treasure it! Congratulations!
Love is love, never confuse that's just the fact
Love use to be the most powerful emotion you can experience and the best feeling in the world. The strange think is that not everybody knows what love is
Good write up by @olawalium now waiting for episode 4.
Yes, most of the time, we confuse love for likeness and it is sometimes harder when both parties don't feel the same. Thanks for your time brother, really appreciate it.
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I truly agree with you, love is a wonderful feeling, where u wish to be with the other every next moment, and just a little while away from the other makes u miss him/her like crazy. but love is not only about ur happiness but also about the others happiness, and ultimately it turns out to be ur own happiness . past all the heartbreak i treasure that u could do something like that and pray for ur happiness in love one day after being fully healed.
however its always better if u are healing or confused to first get over that rather than hurt someone else
its a great inspiration thank you for sharing.
Big lesson learned. I wish everyone could be like this and study people, try to identify those who are emotionally wrecked, and assist them rather than wrecking yourself in the process or taking advantage.
We all at some point need some form of emotional healing.
Yes, we all need the emotional healing. It wasn't easy for me, but i could have taken advantage like you said and hurt myself in the long run. It calls for being sensitive. Thanks a lot for your constant support. Really appreciate it.
Love makes you live life beautifully
Beautiful times are going fast
Honeymoon really wonderful
I wish you all the happiness
Very special story indeed
I am glad you enjoyed it. Gracias.
Wow
At least she opened up and told you her mind. She choose her ex and she is happy which is fine with you
Things would be fine if they all do this way and we will be prepared just like you but most of them left without goodbyes and this hurts so much till extend it could cause something else
For them to say they wanna go back to their ex and you don't want them to go is another thing entirely but at least they should say goodbye, not just left uninformed
But you are a man and you got the humor sense
People are different, and that is one thing you need to come to terms with. They won't do things just to please you all the time, they will do it for them. If they leave without goodbyes, move on. She has, so why should you put your life on hold over someone who has left and obviously enjoying herself? You won't heal as fast as you should if you keep trying to find a reason as to why she left. You need to know she left for her, it has nothing to do with you. It is her choice to move on, make it your own choice to move on too. That is what makes you a man. Be in control of your emotions and stop holding on to the hurts. i know it hurts, but then, she is gone, so what can you do???
Nothing than to let her go
Nothing than to move on
Nothing than to get heal
Nothing than to find her replacement
Nothing than to let her know she is nothing
Nothing than to let her know I can do without her
Nothing than to let her know she lose a lot
Don't get it wrong. Be better for you, don't just be better to prove her wrong. The motivation has to be internally driven, not by her. Nothing than to let love find you again, after you have healed.
I will try
Thanks much
Anytime.
Really an experience that few would dare to face, but I see very important the sincerity with which the situation was treated. Always the truth, however harsh it may be, is what will bring healing to the heart, a healthy and transparent heart will achieve the desired happiness ....
Wow
I'm touched
This is really beautiful....
They say, you really love someone when you're able to let them go.
When someone is unwilling to let go of another, I guess that should be obsession.
You did a good thing by allowing her to heal and making decisions for herself
Cheers
Hmmm yeah that makes a lot of sense to me .
This is a lovely message for everyone. This will save us from unnecessary heart aches and heart breaks if we take time to heal rather than rush into another relationship because of comfort that we are looking for. Better to take time than to her burnt over something that could have been avoided.
You are good @Olawalium and thank you @communitycoin for giving us such a talent
Missed the part 1 and 2
Love has a controlling effect on a Man...He tend to lose a portion of his mind
Maybe some ''Love Chemical" might help out. Lol!
Never settle for less to be loved...Love is lovely
You can read it up for better clarification.
The link is embedded in this post.
Smart darling. Thanks a lot cutie pie.
Hahahaha. Definitely a drop of Olawalium is needed to make it all alright. Thanks a lot bro. You can catch up on the missed parts.
Very sad story. I dont expect what happened at last of the post. There was something wrong. Dont feel her anymore.
every people are getting excited when he or she fall in love.
i think that feelings is the best one in the world
It is a great feeling to be in love and the feeling is mutual.
You are so right, when you said this, it was as if you were saying it directly to me
wow amazing, the panda looks so cute, please give me one.
i enjoyed part 3 and wating.
thanks for you @ communitycoin and @Olawalium for contributed
Hahahaha. Take it, it is all yours. Glad you enjoyed it. What did you learn from it?
every love is respectable
where you find the love, you are the luckiest one.
And, when you have been hurt, take time to heal, before going into another. smiles
Thanks @moon-girl
pleasure
Whenever we are hurt, the best thing to do is to take a break and let it heal. Great story
Yes, take a break and let it heal. We owe ourselves that much.
"My pen doesn’t bleed, it speaks, with speed and ease". I like that best among other things. It was an enjoyable read to say the least.
hmm nice , I have written a poem to the closest person in my life . I have recently posted it on steemit too :) Take a look and tell me how it is :)
https://steemit.com/nature/@amr008/she-represented-the-nature-a-poem-written-by-me-original
This is the feeling of love but we need to continue it.
dear i am sad and also glad for you because the twisted in your and mine life are almost equal hahah ..all the best for next @communitycoin