Exactly. This is why many repeat experiences of hurts and pains because they lack self love too, and you get treated the way you have shown. When you don't love yourself enough, it is a clear sign you want to be treated anyhow. When you love yourself, this other person will see it and know that he must never go below that standard, because once he does, he knows problems are bound to suffice.
Thank you so much darling. Really appreciate you.